Woob,
I don't know if this is helpful, but, have you ever noticed that the people who take things the hardest are the ones the obnoxious people in this world love to torment most? The more injured you act, the more they want to injure you, to make sport of you and enjoy your discomfiture. But people who take things in stride, who let insults pass like water off a duck's back, they leave alone. Why? Because tormenting those people is no fun. In fact, it only makes the tormentor feel worse about themselves- You know the verse about pouring hot coals over someone by returning evil with kindness?
Romans 12:20 On the contrary: "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head."
21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Now I'm not saying don't take legal action against these bad actors. Do what you can to recover what is lost and take advantage as far as possible of whatever legal means, however inadequate, to ameliorate your loss.
But I think Satan hits us more when we grouse and complain, and when he sees that he can ruin our joy in life and make us question God. On the other hand, when we react in grace and faith, and it shows that material things are not so important to us, Satan leaves us alone- he doesn't want to give us an opportunity for a good witness!
Faith doesn't always mean trusting that God will dig you out of your ditch. Sometimes Faith means trusting that God is with you in that ditch, and being thankful for His company.
A story I like by Corrie Ten Boom, is when she and her sister were in the concentration camp (I think it was Ravensbruch), and the fleas in the barracks were driving them crazy. They read in the Bible to give thanks for all things, in all circumstances. They had a Bible, which was a miracle and a blessing in itself, because if the guards found it, they would confiscate it, and the women in that barracks would have no Bible. So the women knelt one evening and praised God and thanked Him for the fleas!
Later someone overheard the guards talking. They learned that the guards hated to inspect that barracks because every time they went in, they were attacked by fleas, so they only did cursory and inadequate searches. The women realized that it was because of the fleas that they were able to have the Bible.
Faith counts it that everything that comes into our lives is allowed by God for a purpose- not caused by Him, but allowed. It's only through these discomforts that He is able to bless us with the greatest spiritual blessings. And the greatest blessing any Christian would ever want is the opportunity to glorify God by trusting Him in spite of circumstances.
Your floor will burn some day. But the testimony of your faith, by the way you react to things with grace and faith will last forever. How long will bad actors rip you off and torment you? How long do you want to do you want your life witness to glorify Him by you praising Him in all circumstances? When you give these things a purpose, it makes them easier to take. This isn't a problem. This is an opportunity!
Amen! You're absolutely right.
Woob, if you were to make a list of every person you truly
admire, what kind of people would be on your list?
Do you think it would be filled with people that were really lucky and won the lottery or always had everything handed to them? No way. I know for a fact your list wouldn't look like that.
The people we admire are the ones that have had to face terrible tribulations, tribulations we cannot even begin to imagine experiencing ourselves, and they overcame. They remained strong and faithful, and against all odds they not only survived, but they
thrived even.
They were so strong they gave other people encouragement to be strong as well...THOSE are the type of people that we admire.
And Woob...my parents have built three houses in their 40+ years of marriage. With every house they have under their belt, they have memories of coming "this close" to a divorce.
It is a VERY stressful thing to build or remodel a home. Not just because a couple's tastes differ on things, but because you are put in a position to trust other people to do things for you that you don't know how to do yourself.
If you're on a budget you have to compromise and get things you don't necessarily WANT, and that's stressful. I think especially for the husband because he doesn't just want to provide, he wants to please his wife.
But any house and any faith that is worth having is built on a strong FOUNDATION.
If the foundation is good, you can add nice things later, and eventually it will be exactly like what you want it to be.
Those guys did a very bad thing, there's no doubt about it, but you'll get to the point where my dad is now where a contractor can walk in and KNOW that he is not someone they can push around or extort. He'll stand over them if necessary to get exactly what he wants.
Tel is right, they only try to get by with stuff like that when they think they CAN. They'll only bully you if you let them.
I'd stop the reputation right now and let any worker walking into your house know that it's going to be done RIGHT.