I think when two people put their selfishness aside for the good of the other person, that's the result of chemistry.
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- that's exactly what it's like with me and my bf.Jenster said:For me, chemistry is a mental/personality attraction. It's something I expect to be there as we grow old together. It's a respect, admiration and enjoyment of the other person when you're talking with each other. It's an energy/aliveness that's created by the two of you. It's what happens when your personalities come together and thoughts just bounce back and forth between you.
Wormie said:
- that's exactly what it's like with me and my bf.
LOVEthroughINTELLECT said:Last, but not least, if she is proficient in Chemistry then she probably gets a big salary.
none the wiser said:I so hope you're right. Don't wanna be suffering through organic for no reason
OhhJim said:How do you ever know for sure that you won't meet someone tomorrow that you have more chemistry with?
mwb said:I'd be happy finding someone that I feel I have chemistry with & share the same morals & values then let the rest of the relationship fall into place.
I really like how you described what chemistry means to you. That was a great discription!! I hope to find the same.Jenster said:Lol, so true, Irascible.
I don't know as I've ever experienced spiritual chemistry with any of the men I've dated, unfortunately. What does that look like? I do admire some of the men at our church for their solid grasp of who God is and our relationship to Him. That may or may not be chemistry, but I certainly respect it.
For me, chemistry is a mental/personality attraction. It's something I expect to be there as we grow old together. It's a respect, admiration and enjoyment of the other person when you're talking with each other. It's an energy/aliveness that's created by the two of you. It's what happens when your personalities come together and thoughts just bounce back and forth between you.
Not that every waking moment is going to be like that, but hopefully we could nurture it so that our life together continues to have that spark, rather than getting consumed in the boring, everyday stuff.
sherri said:I used to think 'chemistry' was absolutly essential and I would never want to marry a guy without it.
Mostly now however I just view it as a bonus. Character is essential but chemistry like love can fizzle out when the hard work sets in. Chemistry with love is fantastic. But you can still love without it.
However I do think it's important to actually be attracted to your spouse. I'd hate to marry a guy I didn't find attractive. Yuk.
You imply and almost outright state a connection between the cheating and the lack of chemistry. I'm sorry you had to go through that. But one has nothing to do with the other. It was her lack of character. You could have had all the chemistry in the world. But sooner or later the honeymoon period would have been over, the excitement would have waned, and she would have cheated.SopranoCapo2006 said:I married a girl when I was 18 whom I had no chemistry with. 2 months into the marraige she cheated on me. You're spouse could have the greatest character next to Christ, However, if there is no chemistry you are just good friends playing house.
mwb said:I don't think chemistry is just about sex or physical attraction. To me, it's the feeling I get when I look at her face & she looks back at me without a word being said. The ideal situation is when we are both 90, we still can get butterflies when we look at each other.
mwb said:I don't think chemistry is just about sex or physical attraction. To me, it's the feeling I get when I look at her face & she looks back at me without a word being said. The ideal situation is when we are both 90, we still can get butterflies when we look at each other.
FlatpickingJD said:
sitting on a pew together, holding hands, when we're 90.
SopranoCapo2006 said:2 months into the marraige she cheated on me.