So I have this friend... and we're both single, we're both into the same things, etc. We like each other. We're VERY attracted to each other, but we definitely know how to refrain... so far.
The only problem is within me, I suppose. I am a recent convert to Christianity, and I have vowed to not have sex before marriage which I will strongly abide to. However... I am by no means innocent in what I have done sexually. I am not a virgin. I don't know if I will be/have been forgiven for the things I have done, but I can certainly believe. In fact I don't even know how he feels about me and my experiences with sex.
He is a virgin. And I respect that. I'm afraid that if the time comes we enter into a relationship, that I'm going to take things too far... I don't think it's appropriate to kiss him, or even touch him at this stage. But I'm not sure. Would cuddling/hugging constitute as .. Ok? What do people in a relationship do to show affection without sinning? I'm SO afraid of making him uncomfortable, or making a move that is unacceptable... Please, help me out.
I have talked to him a few times about this, and he said before he enters into a relationship with anyone he will go into an extended period of prayer and contemplation, and the relationship then would require no physical romantic contact until engagement or any other step above regular boyfriend/girlfriend status, whatever that is. I'm OK with that, because I think it's good to have boundaries and it will keep either of us from sinning. But yeah. I kinda just want to know what's acceptable and not acceptable.
If you can help, I'd very much appreciate it. Thanks
The only problem is within me, I suppose. I am a recent convert to Christianity, and I have vowed to not have sex before marriage which I will strongly abide to. However... I am by no means innocent in what I have done sexually. I am not a virgin. I don't know if I will be/have been forgiven for the things I have done, but I can certainly believe. In fact I don't even know how he feels about me and my experiences with sex.
He is a virgin. And I respect that. I'm afraid that if the time comes we enter into a relationship, that I'm going to take things too far... I don't think it's appropriate to kiss him, or even touch him at this stage. But I'm not sure. Would cuddling/hugging constitute as .. Ok? What do people in a relationship do to show affection without sinning? I'm SO afraid of making him uncomfortable, or making a move that is unacceptable... Please, help me out.
I have talked to him a few times about this, and he said before he enters into a relationship with anyone he will go into an extended period of prayer and contemplation, and the relationship then would require no physical romantic contact until engagement or any other step above regular boyfriend/girlfriend status, whatever that is. I'm OK with that, because I think it's good to have boundaries and it will keep either of us from sinning. But yeah. I kinda just want to know what's acceptable and not acceptable.
If you can help, I'd very much appreciate it. Thanks