How do you stop being in love with the idea of being in love? It's a common problem that I fall into, but the thing of it is, I don't know how to stop it. A rather famous line from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind goes, "Why do I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention?" With that said, I know that what I feel isn't an exclusive thing that I'm dealing with.
Recently, I grew interested in a friend of mine. We grew closer to each other, but right from the bat, she told me she had no interest in me outside of friendship. But this never stops me. Months go by and my feelings for her have grown fonder. Before anything could fuel, she tells me that she is moving away soon. Me, being the passionate fool I am, tries to grasp anything that we had and salvage things by telling her how I feel, etc. Sure enough, her feelings haven't changed, despite how drastic mine did. Long story short, she moved last Friday and is out of my life for an unforeseeable span of time. I'll just go ahead and put my pride on the shelf, and admit that for the last three nights I've been bawling my eyes out like an idiot. Something that I thought was tangible and ideal is now gone.
Soon, I'm faced with a stark realization that I wasn't in love with this girl and, for better or worse, I don't really miss her that much. What I do miss, however, is her presence and the notion of what might have been, although she told me that there is no "what might have been." Somehow, like so many times in the past, I've fallen in love with the idea of being in love with this person. I need to know how to stop this feeling that overcomes me every time somebody new enters my life, in order to avoid the inevitable heartbreak that comes hand in hand.
Recently, I grew interested in a friend of mine. We grew closer to each other, but right from the bat, she told me she had no interest in me outside of friendship. But this never stops me. Months go by and my feelings for her have grown fonder. Before anything could fuel, she tells me that she is moving away soon. Me, being the passionate fool I am, tries to grasp anything that we had and salvage things by telling her how I feel, etc. Sure enough, her feelings haven't changed, despite how drastic mine did. Long story short, she moved last Friday and is out of my life for an unforeseeable span of time. I'll just go ahead and put my pride on the shelf, and admit that for the last three nights I've been bawling my eyes out like an idiot. Something that I thought was tangible and ideal is now gone.
Soon, I'm faced with a stark realization that I wasn't in love with this girl and, for better or worse, I don't really miss her that much. What I do miss, however, is her presence and the notion of what might have been, although she told me that there is no "what might have been." Somehow, like so many times in the past, I've fallen in love with the idea of being in love with this person. I need to know how to stop this feeling that overcomes me every time somebody new enters my life, in order to avoid the inevitable heartbreak that comes hand in hand.
WOW. The crazy thing is that I was talking about this last night with a few friends. I had a crush on someone and once I really learned about there situation, I felt so selfish for even putting them in an uncomfortable position.
