memoriesbymichelle
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OK so what does it mean when a guy tells you, you need to be more of a challenge?
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No, that's actually perfectly okay. Some guys find shyness to be a challenge. And you know how us guys just loooove a challenge
OK so what does it mean when a guy tells you, you need to be more of a challenge?
That's just somebody's totally subjective opinion about what a "challenge" really is. It's different for different people.
Remember the movie "Rocky?" Remember how Adrian was? Totally shy, backwards, and to herself? To Rocky, the challenge she presented was "getting her to come out of her shell." Some other random guy may have just found her to be a total bore. If the shoe fits...
Think about the married people that you know. Are they all "a certain way?," or do they "fit the mold?" The ones who I know are just as varied as the sands on the seashore, shy ones and all. I don't think stuff like that happens by accident. I think people should just be who they are and let God work out the rest.
that sounds just like meIf I could stop acting the way I do when around a guy I like, I totally would! I crack under pressure. I'm a completely confident person with friends, but that romantic pressure makes me clam up into a self-conscious girl who masks it in any way possible. I am working on being more forward and confident!
christians can't touch your knee?I met a woman once who kept laughing and touching my knee while we talked. That's a pretty obvious way of sending a signal to any guy, I would think. But usually those kinds of girls aren't Chrisitians. She must have thought that I was really dense, or something, since I ignored it.
I give out inadvertent signals. I'm normally friendly/polite with any girl, but if I like her in some way, I'll tend to get nervous around her, and find that I don't have a whole lot to say. If I have something in my hands, I'll fiddle with it, put it down, pick it up, move it, move it back again, pick it up, put it away, take it back out again, etc...it would be obvous that I don't know what to do with my hands. I'll be indecisive. It's also 10:46 p.m. I'm going to bed.
no. that's way too sexy. God forbid she accidentally touch your thigh or butt. I can't imagine a girl being so racey. Must be work of the devil. haha just messin with ya LHTG. seriously though, it's a knee, not a your crotch.christians can't touch your knee?
LOLno. that's way too sexy. God forbid she accidentally touch your thigh or butt. I can't imagine a girl being so racey. Must be work of the devil. haha just messin with ya LHTG. seriously though, it's a knee, not a your crotch.
Warrior I sometimes get the same. My talking has gotten me into trouble in the past because they weren't Christian. I'd babble on to friends about what someone said and we'd nitpick at what it could be...this could just be me, but this only fed my wandering thoughts and attraction. Joyce Meyers has a good book called Battlefield of the Mind that is probably good for any area of thought life...... Talking about someone I like, I get a glow on my face, and you usually cannot shut me up. So if I babble around or about a man, odds are, I like him. Can't say I "love" him, but like him.
Now, it is just to get the guy to see the signal.
They could be Christian, LetHimThatGlorifies, but not aware of what their doing. I'm not a touchy person and it definitely might get a rise out of me, like a guy touching my waist or placing his hand on my shoulder if I'm attracted to him, maybe even not. Sometimes it may have to do with sense of space, but I think if you don't know the person that well, it really might seem like they like you. But I always think, if they did this so quickly with me, then they must do this with many women/men.I met a woman once who kept laughing and touching my knee while we talked. That's a pretty obvious way of sending a signal to any guy, I would think. .......
christians can't touch your knee?
really? Thats crazy, I'm a very touchy/feely kinda gal!Of course not. Good grief.j/k
I've just never seen a Christian girl do this. It's always been the non-Christian ones, and ones that I barely know at all. It usually doesn't stop there, either, even if I ignore her (Gee, what is it, it's not like I'm God's gift to women or anything).
By the way, if some girl wants to touch my knee, hey, she can do that all she wants.I don't care.
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