How Do you Know?

[GiveIt2Him]

Let me start off and introduce myself a bit... I came out of a rather serious relationship about 4 months ago just before Halloween. I went through alot of heartache and pain through it but pulled through

Anyway - I started going to a new church here in town and in there bulletin they had a website you could go to for singles. So I went and set up a profile you know the whole thing. Then I get a contact from this guy named Justin. Turns out he is absolutly amazing We have only been talking for a week but I feel like I have known him all my life. It feels like he is the person I have been looking for my entire life. He just completes me in everyway. So with that said for all you married, engaged, or serious couples how did you know he/she was the one? Did you just know - have a gut feeling? I think I am feeling that feeling and it truly is a amazing and content feeling. I just feel like the other peice of my puzzle was found...Any thoughts are needed!

Have a Blessed Day

 

[Princess Pea]

I've been dating my BF for almost eight months, and I still don't KNOW he's the one. I think he is. I'd even say I'm almost CERTAIN he is. But that realization is dawning slowly, over time. I do remember that at the beginning there was this ease and comfort level that I hadn't experienced with anyone before, along with certain commonalities, but I've had to wait to find out if that really meant anything or was just me looking for things. Time is the test ... give it a year and see if you still think he's the one. And enjoy that year, and keep your wits about you - don't get all hung up on the idea that he IS the one, and then trying to squash him into that role. Just enjoy the relationship. Does that make sense?

 

[peanutbutter12]

Of course you think he's the one you want to marry, you've just met, the fire is still hot, and you know absolutely nothing about him.

Don't get me wrong, you know things, but only that which he has chosen to tell you. Over time, the relationship will find it's path and who you both really are will become apparent and surfaced, but for now, the fire is hot and the relationship is new. Take it slowly and don't throw yourself into the idea of marriage. Be friends first.

 

[somethingBEAUTIFUL]

I have been dating my boyfriend nearly 9 months, and I am just about positive that he is the one. This may sound corny, but he really and truly is everything I've ever desired and needed in a boyfriend/husband, and MORE. This, though, has been confirmed to me over time. We have spent hours upon hours with one another, shared tons of things, gotten to know each other's family and friends, shared likes and dislikes, broke up and got back together 6 weeks later, had disagreements/arguments, supported one another, worked together in many situations, and have absolutely done our best to keep God in His place in our relationship, although we fail at times. We've been through a lot, both good and bad...and I wouldn't trade any of it, even the break-up. All of this reveals our compatibility, our connection, our love...

But, remember, this has been over a course of time. A week can be a lot, but also not very much, to go on. For now just enjoy getting to know Justin and keep your thoughts of "is he the one?" to yourself for now. Have fun discovering who he really is!

 

[Sariebeth]

I've known the guy i'm dating for 2 years.. We were friends for 2 years in dec 06 i started liking him in Jan of 06 i started getting these feelings, dreams that he was the One for me... flahsfoward we didnt start our relationship until dec of 07 so its been about a month .. i know he is the one for me, but ive known that even before i was in a relationship with him.

 

[plum]

i don't think it's about "knowing" since clearly (as evidenced by breakup and divorce) "the one" might not stay "the one" forever. I think it's a matter of personal choice, action, and how you fit together as two individuals.
but then again, i'm a fan of keeping both feet on the ground and my head on my shoulders

 

[Blank123]

Of course you think he's the one you want to marry, you've just met, the fire is still hot, and you know absolutely nothing about him.

Don't get me wrong, you know things, but only that which he has chosen to tell you. Over time, the relationship will find it's path and who you both really are will become apparent and surfaced, but for now, the fire is hot and the relationship is new. Take it slowly and don't throw yourself into the idea of marriage. Be friends first.

good advice

 

[barefeetonholyground]

Every guy I dated (all three of them) I thought I was going to marry when I first dated. Kenny (number three) I knew when I looked in his eyes for the first time but I didn't know why. Turns out that he was the only guy that brought be closer to Christ while the other two guys drove me further away.

 

[Baptismetheus]

i wont know fora long time but there was one person once and she was so special

but my dad got involved

I mixed up spiritual feelings for body/teenager ones which is WRONG

 

[GodsBeard]

i've been dating my gf for a long imte. like three years. she says she's christian but i don't even know anymore.

It makes me really hapy that you guys have good stories, but God help me, I feel really jealous as well....

i love mygirlfriend but she has diferent thoughts and gets mad a lot. when i ask what she wants from me she yells SEX SEX SEX! and i almost cry! and she talks about how her friends are all moving in with their boyfriends and i get REALLY mad about thatand she says i'm close minded. also i don't even get urges with her and i don't know why. it must be my devotion to God.

sorry to be such a bummer guys. i tried to talk to my dad about it and he kinda made fun of me. (he's not christian), and i haven't been able to talk to my grandmother in a while.

 

[Noahlias]

My dad is very very young, I'm 16 and he is 34 and I hate him, I have to live with him because mom is living with gramps and gramma, she's a nurse and they are almost dying, my dad is not a christian and I cannot take any girl home because he makes fun of me and I think he tryes to make advances on them, the worst part is that dad used to be a model so girls are really attracted to him and I've dated 3 girls and two of them I took home and they ended up talking to my dad instead of me.

I have to be very careful with my actual gf, I always tell her that she cant come home because my dad doesn't like me dating at this age. I'm forced to lie because of him!

 

[charligirl]

Terra sin is right, be friends and try not to think about marriage.

I had a number of boyfriends between 18-23, certainly with two of them I thought they were 'the one' - neither were. Then I spent 5 years with a 'gut' feeling about my best friend - he turned out to be gay. Finally I met another man, it seemed like God directing us, he felt the same... all the stuff you are saying. We talked marriage - turned out he was also seeing another girl and talking marriage to her too! (that was 9 years ago and her and I are now close friends so God can work all situations to the good)

I am now married - I asked God to find me someone as I was obviously rubbish at getting it right. He was nothing like I imagined when he walked into my life, in fact I didn't have the 'rush' I felt with others, but marriage love is different and requires so much more than a gut feeling and all that lovely gushy stuff.

Get to know him, his friends and family, his dreams and thoughts on life. What are his expectations in life? How does he treat his mother? Just get to know him and be friends.

Your 'gut feelings' are never a reliable gauge on matters of the heart. They can be influenced by too many other things, all they tell you is you are attracted. When the time comes to think about marriage, you need to find peace in your spirit - a solid foundation from the Holy Spirit on which to build a marriage.

 

[GodsBeard]

My dad's not a Christian either! But he makes fun of me for NOT having sex at 22. I keep telling him that God has made me strong, and that I don't even want to have sex, but that just makes him laugh harder.

 

[Gods4me]

I knew for the first kiss. (so cheesy) but i did. and a year later im even more sure now than i was then.

we both knew in the first few weeks that we were to get married.
Thats the great thing about Gods timing and not ours. we met at a perfect time (we didnt realise it at the time but now it just so clear why things happen they way they did.)


Athought a word of warning to the op and i hope you read this.

i met kevin on line and i know what you mean they just seam so perfect. but.. i met a guy online before i met kevin and he seamed great he was funny we hads a laugh we stayed up all night talking he was really nice. - then we actaully met up and i felt abosulty nothing to talk to him face to face.
so this guy justian could be just as great online as he is in person like it was with me and kevin but... it mite just be as horrible as it was with that other guy i met. (beware tit could just be all words.)
if you havent met yet. make sure you have a phone call before. so you can hear their voice. (mite sound shallow bu what if you cant stand it its just awful.)

well good luck

 

[LindyLouWho]

I don't think you ever really know,just my own personal thoughts.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I knew she was the one fairly early on. But slow your roll, OP. You don't know he's the one if you haven't even met him yet.

 

[Weasel7711]

Let me start off and introduce myself a bit... I came out of a rather serious relationship about 4 months ago just before Halloween. I went through alot of heartache and pain through it but pulled through

Anyway - I started going to a new church here in town and in there bulletin they had a website you could go to for singles. So I went and set up a profile you know the whole thing. Then I get a contact from this guy named Justin. Turns out he is absolutly amazing We have only been talking for a week but I feel like I have known him all my life. It feels like he is the person I have been looking for my entire life. He just completes me in everyway. So with that said for all you married, engaged, or serious couples how did you know he/she was the one? Did you just know - have a gut feeling? I think I am feeling that feeling and it truly is a amazing and content feeling. I just feel like the other peice of my puzzle was found...Any thoughts are needed!

Have a Blessed Day

I had a strong feeling she was the one within a month. But I didn't propose until almost a year into dating. Obviously you don't want to jump to conclusions on who you are going to marry. There have been tons of couples who are no longer together that thought they found "the one" because of the "feeling" they had. Nothing wrong with that feeling, just don't rely on it too heavily

 

[HopeFaithLove4u]

Let me start off and introduce myself a bit... I came out of a rather serious relationship about 4 months ago just before Halloween. I went through alot of heartache and pain through it but pulled through

Anyway - I started going to a new church here in town and in there bulletin they had a website you could go to for singles. So I went and set up a profile you know the whole thing. Then I get a contact from this guy named Justin. Turns out he is absolutly amazing We have only been talking for a week but I feel like I have known him all my life. It feels like he is the person I have been looking for my entire life. He just completes me in everyway. So with that said for all you married, engaged, or serious couples how did you know he/she was the one? Did you just know - have a gut feeling? I think I am feeling that feeling and it truly is a amazing and content feeling. I just feel like the other peice of my puzzle was found...Any thoughts are needed!

Have a Blessed Day

Of course you think he's the one you want to marry, you've just met, the fire is still hot, and you know absolutely nothing about him.

Don't get me wrong, you know things, but only that which he has chosen to tell you. Over time, the relationship will find it's path and who you both really are will become apparent and surfaced, but for now, the fire is hot and the relationship is new. Take it slowly and don't throw yourself into the idea of marriage. Be friends first.

A week you don't know anything about a person, except that they are perfect.....I say, see how you feel about him at the 3 month mark. If your feelings are the same, then that's a good sign.

 

[K9_Trainer]

I knew for the first kiss. (so cheesy) but i did. and a year later im even more sure now than i was then.

we both knew in the first few weeks that we were to get married.
Thats the great thing about Gods timing and not ours. we met at a perfect time (we didnt realise it at the time but now it just so clear why things happen they way they did.)


Athought a word of warning to the op and i hope you read this.

i met kevin on line and i know what you mean they just seam so perfect. but.. i met a guy online before i met kevin and he seamed great he was funny we hads a laugh we stayed up all night talking he was really nice. - then we actaully met up and i felt abosulty nothing to talk to him face to face.
so this guy justian could be just as great online as he is in person like it was with me and kevin but... it mite just be as horrible as it was with that other guy i met. (beware tit could just be all words.)
if you havent met yet. make sure you have a phone call before. so you can hear their voice. (mite sound shallow bu what if you cant stand it its just awful.)

well good luck

Yes, God always has perfect timing.

I've only been w/ my bf for 2 months, but I'm so sure that he's "the one" that sometimes I find it hard to grasp. If the timing of events over the last 2.5 years we've known each other hadn't gone exactly as they did, we wouldn't be together. Neither one of us used to believe in divine intervention or soulmates or destiny and stuff like that, but that series of events was so amazing that we can't believe it was anything LESS than fate and God's grace. And we get along so perfectly.