How do you deal with being single??

[blackguy32]

Ive been single nearly all my life. I think its time for a change, but I guess God thinks otherwise. I sometimes have a tough time coping with it, so how do you deal with it?? Any Bible verses you read? Any particular activities that you do??

Another thing is rejection? What do you do to cope with that??

 

[MetalBlade]

When I went through my "being rejected by every girl on the planet" stage I just hanged out with my friends. Trust me, sometimes the longer a relationship gets, them more and more you don't want to be in one!

 

[frettr00]

lol..you say "deal with it" as if it's a bad thing..

 

[lozzie]

"nearly all your life" I've been single ALL my life and dont have a problem with it.

I used to be impatient I guess. But when I look back I realise I still wasnt ready for someone anyway. God knows whats best for us, even when we dont

 

[Blank123]

same here, I've never even been on a real date. basically I trust that God will allow me to meet the right guy when the timing is right. maybe that sounds like a cliche, but He is the one in control, and I trust HIm.

 

[Kepa]

Well, I mean, you just gotta... deal with it =]
I mean, you can't just not deal with it, you're either single or not =]
As little_tigress said... trust in the Lord. And as she also said, it may sound cliché, but it's the only way you can live and not feel like something is wrong. Trust that God works all things for the good of those who love Him, no matter what. Otherwise you could start to feel pretty depressed fairly quickly.
The sovereignty of God, it's such a wonderful thing =]

 

[remy]

Being 22 and having gone through the drama for so long, I've concluded I'm a much more stable person by being single.

 

[Tuffguy]

I deal with it by doing what i want whenever i want. I go shooting, drinking w/friends, lifting 5 days a week, motorcycle rides all the time, chilling out on the beach, going on weekend trips, all that kinda stuff.
You're looking at it the wrong way man. Sometime soon you might not have any of the freedom you have right now. Saturdays will be going to home depot, mowing the lawn, painting the shutters,,all that stuff. Its all well and good, but do all the fun stuff a single guy can first. Become an interesting well rounded person, then pursue a relationship. Nobody wants to be with Mr. Needy.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Well, if God has someone picked out for you, you could use this time to better yourself for her. Me, I focus on lifting weights and investing, so I'll be all buff and rich if/when I meet this chick.

 

[Iosias]

"nearly all your life" I've been single ALL my life and dont have a problem with it.

Same here

 

[but'n'ben]

Enjoy being single. At 18 I began a 2 year relationship which ended 3 months ago. Looking back, the relationship was not worht the pain. I wouldn't recommend love for ANYONE. It's not all it's cut out to be.

 

[blackguy32]

Thanks dudes and dudettes, I will pray that God will let me do his will. I feel a bit better.

 

[stonetoflesh]

Being single has its ups and downs, just like being in a relationship does; I enjoy having more freedom when I'm single to pursue my own interests-- making music, building synthesizer modules, visiting friends, etc. The key though is keeping my focus on God and not rushing off looking for a relationship when I'm in one of the "lows" of singleness; He will introduce the right woman to me when He is ready!

 

[Shannonkish]

For me, I focused on God and my relationship with Him. If I can't my relationship with Him right, which is cake, then how in the world am I going to ever get a real relationship right.

When both me and my fiance were ready, we met... unexpectedly... in God's timing.

 

[christdriven]

Being single is a huge blessing.
Here are some verses that I remember reading, about singleness and marriage. How it is a blessing to be single so you can devote all your time (or entire life) to God and his teachings like Paul did. That being single is a time to grow in Christ, to do his will without the restrictions of a girlfriend/boyfriend or wife/husband.
I deal with being single by reading my bible, and growing closer to God. I know that my husband is out there somewhere. God has put a desire in my heart to get married, so I believe that I will someday. But Im in no hurry. I get lonley, just like everybody else. But I know that the time I have alone with God is not going to last forever, especially if i get married. So Im trying to make the best of it. Im trusting that when God knows im ready, he'll bring the perfect guy into my life.

"I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift another has that."
1 corinthians 7:7

"Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: it is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion"
1 corinthians 7:8,9

"I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lords affairs-how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world-how he can please his wife-and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world-how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may life in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord."
1 corinthians 7:32-35

 

[Cordelia]

Being single is a huge blessing.
Here are some verses that I remember reading, about singleness and marriage. How it is a blessing to be single so you can devote all your time (or entire life) to God and his teachings like Paul did. That being single is a time to grow in Christ, to do his will without the restrictions of a girlfriend/boyfriend or wife/husband.
I deal with being single by reading my bible, and growing closer to God. I know that my husband is out there somewhere. God has put a desire in my heart to get married, so I believe that I will someday. But Im in no hurry. I get lonley, just like everybody else. But I know that the time I have alone with God is not going to last forever, especially if i get married. So Im trying to make the best of it. Im trusting that when God knows im ready, he'll bring the perfect guy into my life.

"I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift another has that."
1 corinthians 7:7

"Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: it is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion"
1 corinthians 7:8,9

"I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lords affairs-how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world-how he can please his wife-and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world-how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may life in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord."
1 corinthians 7:32-35

I deal with it by seeing it for the huge blessing it really is. I have lots and lots of time with God, talking to Him about His possible plans for my life (which could be anything, yay!). I do all the things I'd be uncomfortable doing if I was attached - travelling, spending nights in and out with friends, making plans to live and study in another city. I love not having to correspond my future with another person's, yet. I'm never lonely. Being single, for me, rocks.

 

[yueyouko]

the right girl for you will be there... maybe it's not just the time
OR MAYBE YOU'RE NOT GOING OUT WITH ANYONE???!!!

girls like good guys, gentlemen, clean, good smell guys

so if you're not included in the list...........
it's time to change...
peace.

 

[Out of the Flames]

Singleness isn't something I deal with. I just am. It doesn't affect my happiness, and it brings with it a certain freedom that you'll never experience even in the most casual of relationships. I'm happier being single than I ever was in my previous relationship.

Don't fret over it- embrace it. It's not something that you need to cope with, it's just a status- like male or female. You can't change it, it just is.

 

[Thomas_fishing]

DUDE YOUR 18! My friends are in there mid 20s and getting hitched. It only takes about 1-2yrs of dating to get married. You should have lots of time. Just make friends now and figure out who you are as a person. Then find a person who can match that with God's direction. That should be around 22yr. Unless your like me hehehhe

 

[rayzor]

Well since i really don't like to be single and i am right now i usually just hang out with all my friends and try not to think bout being single..