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How do i approach talking to non believers?

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I had begun to increasingly feel I must tell my three brothers about Jesus. Specifically I feel I must warn them their souls are in great danger because all three are against God. I want them to know the wonderful love and peace and protection that Jesus provides for those who believe in Him.
They think I am clutching at 'religion' because I my husband died and it's just a nice comfort for me. I know they think I am probably crazy.
So where do i start? They are firm atheists. They are intelligent, stubborn men, I don't have the strength or ability to argue with them,they are like brick Walls. They have clever answers to everything and believe firmly in this world, money, power and self. One of them says his faith is in yoga and the teachings of Gita. One worships money. The youngest is so confused but listens to nobody.

How do I begin?
 
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So where do i start? They are firm atheists. They are intelligent, stubborn men, I don't have the strength or ability to argue qithcthen, they are like brick Walls.
How do I approach it?

How to best witness:

Luke 6:31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.
Galatians 5:14 The entire Law is fulfilled in a single decree: "Love your neighbor as yourself."
Romans 13:8 Be indebted to no one, except to one another in love, for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the Law.


Two people at your door:
One with a pie, the other with a Bible.

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Both. The pie will dominate the conversation.
 
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Simply state what you believe, in accordance with Romans 10:8-13. You can follow up with Romans 8:1, John 5:24, Ephesians 2:8-9, John 3:16-17. Ask them to read those for themselves, or listen as you read them. That should get the attention of the youngest one.
 
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I had begun to increasingly feel I must tell my three brothers about Jesus. Specifically I feel I must warn them their souls are in great danger because all three are against God. I want them to know the wonderful love and peace and protection that Jesus provides for those who believe in Him.
They think I am clutching at 'religion' because I my husband died and it's just a nice comfort for me. I know they think I am probably crazy.
So where do i start? They are firm atheists. They are intelligent, stubborn men, I don't have the strength or ability to argue with them,they are like brick Walls. They have clever answers to everything and believe firmly in this world, money, power and self. One of them says his faith is in yoga and the teachings of Gita. One worships money. The youngest is so confused but listens to nobody.

How do I begin?
First step especially with family is to show them you are a walking Gospel message. As family members they will notice the difference immediately.

Next is sharing how God changed you. Your verbal testimony.

Next would be when they visit to invite them to your church.

The most important point is to show in word and deed your hope is in Christ and not the things of this world.

Hope this helps.
 
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Why tell them that their souls are in danger? They are most likely aware of that biblical teaching and will be insulted that you brought it up. I have a lot of atheist relatives with bad attitudes towards Christianity. Only God can change their hearts.

My three brothers are atheists, too.
 
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I had begun to increasingly feel I must tell my three brothers about Jesus. Specifically I feel I must warn them their souls are in great danger because all three are against God. I want them to know the wonderful love and peace and protection that Jesus provides for those who believe in Him.
They think I am clutching at 'religion' because I my husband died and it's just a nice comfort for me. I know they think I am probably crazy.
So where do i start? They are firm atheists. They are intelligent, stubborn men, I don't have the strength or ability to argue with them,they are like brick Walls. They have clever answers to everything and believe firmly in this world, money, power and self. One of them says his faith is in yoga and the teachings of Gita. One worships money. The youngest is so confused but listens to nobody.

How do I begin?

First as in all things, begin with prayer;
Then Live the Truth. I was taught I would be the first witness of what I claim to believe; that I would be the first scripture that they would read. So rather than push the issue to the point of controversy, it was suggested that I be the light and salt that God made me to be. Living the truth arouses more curiosity than ire. That's when the door will be open.
You need not defend the faith. Faith is a shield. We stand in that Truth; and He sets us free. Remember that regardless of the mocking and ridicule; they also did that to Jesus; so you are in good company. If God is for you, who can stand against you?
As far as clutching to the Lord for comfort from loss; amen and amen again. I'd rather be clinging to the Cross than hanging on a limb for dear life.
I will keep you and your family in prayer
 
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Hi,
thanks, sound advice.
I shall ask them to consider the Lord's Prayer and be aware of the power of the name Jesus Christ. I am actually really worried for each of my brothers as they are certainly headed for hell when they die. Especially the one who has made a fortune financially and he is a thoroughly unpleasant arrogant man who gets on with nobody. He even tries to bully our mum. I've spoken to him in the past about God and he pours scorn.
 
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I had begun to increasingly feel I must tell my three brothers about Jesus. Specifically I feel I must warn them their souls are in great danger because all three are against God. I want them to know the wonderful love and peace and protection that Jesus provides for those who believe in Him.
They think I am clutching at 'religion' because I my husband died and it's just a nice comfort for me. I know they think I am probably crazy.
So where do i start? They are firm atheists. They are intelligent, stubborn men, I don't have the strength or ability to argue with them,they are like brick Walls. They have clever answers to everything and believe firmly in this world, money, power and self. One of them says his faith is in yoga and the teachings of Gita. One worships money. The youngest is so confused but listens to nobody.

How do I begin?
I would say that one key is to never breathe down people's necks because all that does is reinforce a non-believer's opinion that Christians are 'Pushy!' Pushy in anything is not comfortable. The moment you encounter resistance I would back off. Being pushy will be counter productive.

Of course it does depend on the person, but a lot of people actually think the moment Jesus' name is mentioned you are being pushy. Some people think that being a Christian means that you have to preach to people all the time. Sometimes being a passive Christian is the most effective thing because it teaches them that you can be a Christian and still be 'Normal' and not go around trying to save people. At least this has been my experience a lot (again depends on the person).
 
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Hi Dirk,
I agree. That's why I'm careful around my partner who is partially on the road to becoming a believer. I realize I must never push it on him.
But my brothers are tough cases. Blatant atheists. A bit of shock treatment is necessary there. They each live in turmoil, I see them struggling without any joy or foundation. Each is alone, unhappy, lonely. If only they knew the sheer joy and peace our Lord Jesus brings!

Seriously, their souls are in huge danger. I need to discuss this with them somehow. If you wilfully refuse God, then you are choosing the devil. I am keeping in mind that I used to be like them if course.
 
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Hi Dirk,
I agree. That's why I'm careful around my partner who is partially on the road to becoming a believer. I realize I must never push it on him.
But my brothers are tough cases. Blatant atheists. A bit of shock treatment is necessary there. They each live in turmoil, I see them struggling without any joy or foundation. Each is alone, unhappy, lonely. If only they knew the sheer joy and peace our Lord Jesus brings!

Seriously, their souls are in huge danger. I need to discuss this with them somehow. If you wilfully refuse God, then you are choosing the devil. I am keeping in mind that I used to be like them if course.
A lot of times I've seen that blatant atheists are at least more prone to go back & forth with you in debate. That's a plus, but then there's the minus that blatant atheists can be very locked into their position. At least a lot of times with blatant atheists you can get all your points in without them running away (although granted they're probably very confrontational).

Is there a tie breaker factor?? As a guy who loves the argument side of it all I can not deny that it is true that 'Living like a Christian' will convert more people to Christ than any argument. As one who leans towards presenting reasons for the faith that makes me want to bang my head against the wall at times...but I've seen it play out as true WAY too often.
 
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Well,
two of my brothers have ignored my proposal that they should think perhaps about their life, soul and eternal fate. The third one has politely said he is perfectly happy in his faith which he says is in yoga and the teachings of 'Gita'. He says 'each to his own'. They are like brick walls. They do not wish to know as regard me as a crazy!
 
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Well,
two of my brothers have ignored my proposal that they should think perhaps about their life, soul and eternal fate. The third one has politely said he is perfectly happy in his faith which he says is in yoga and the teachings of 'Gita'. He says 'each to his own'. They are like brick walls. They do not wish to know as regard me as a crazy!
I could not even imagine moving my one brother a single inch. My other brother would be a maybe, probably a long shot maybe, buy WAY more probable then my other brother. I imagine that I would like the Gita exercises, the teachings would probably be cool too. But I'm sorry when it comes to religion all I ever cared about was the question of what happens after death. Other feel good religions may as well just be relaxation techniques to me.
 
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Hi,
well yes. Bhuddism and yoga, such things are relaxing for health. That's all they look like to me.
Years ago when I was an atheist, I searched for peace in many directions, meditation, buddist chanting, visualization. I never found it, I was always depressed and empty. Until I gave my life to Jesus Christ. Now I experience daily the incredible peace of our Lord. It's simply wondrous!
 
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