How did you end up unequally yoked?

[usatxmom]

Just a thought:

What about the children? Who's faith will they learn about? Where will they attend church? Do they learn that either is ok? Do you feel that either is ok? I would study the Bible and pray a lot before I committed myself to marriage of someone who is devout in another faith. For me, personally, I would feel it would be wrong to allow my children to be raised or "shared" with another faith. My thoughts are with you.

 

[his excellence]

My husband and I were unequally yolked for most of the 17 years we have been married. It is NOT easy especially when you are christian and married to a jew. The digs , the backtalking, the criticisms are horrible at times when one is trying so hard to hang onto the proper values and follow the Lord and the other is a non believer and against supporting his partner or even respecting her wishes.

I prayed and prayed and prayed for 17 yrs and this was the year he fell to his knees. This is the year that God answered that prayer. My husband and I for the first time in our marriage are now equally yolked.

The one thing that not being equally yolked can do to a person real fast is tear you down spiritually. You must NEVER allow that to happen to you , always and I stress this Always stay close to the Lord, pray for those who do not believe and be a shining example to them of how precious a relationship with the Lord is.

For my husband it took total strangers, people he never in this world would ever expect to care about him and his spiritual life to get him thinking and questioning, and from there he accepted the Lord and has been slowly strengthening in his faith since.

 

[WashedClean]

Hi everyone!

This very topic is the reason I recently joined CF & have already PM'd another u-y wife who has been supportive & friendly to me. I feel like God led me to a wonderful place, as I've also felt lonely lately - especially after Easter. I take it so seriously & my husband doesn't, even though he tries & supports me. This is a long story.....

That is why I say this is a GOOD story. My husband & I met 15 years ago & were best friends. Through a miracle, we found each other after 10 years (both divorced) & started writing to get to know each other again. However, I had a boyfriend & he had a girlfriend so we once again lost touch for a year. I had a lot of struggles in my past: drugs/drinking, divorce, an abusive boyfriend, and even a suicide attempt. Shortly after the latter, I too, came to the Lord after reading "A Power For Living" & could not believe my Father would forgive me, but I know He did. I truly knew what the meaning of "reborn" is now! It's like Jesus turned on the light!!

After I embraced my new Christian life, my husband came back into my life. Here's the hard part - I prayed & prayed & prayed for God to send me & my son a wonderful man in our lives. Out of the blue, my now-husband sent me a message, wanting to talk again. We were both single (I was out of my abusive relationship, he & his girlfriend had gone seperate ways the year before). We realized that we've ALWAYS loved one another & had a soul-connection that we just could not have with others. Of course, I let him know I was now a Christian. He was "open-minded" about Christianity & at least believed in God. However, he is not saved. Again, I prayed hard about it, especially after he proposed to me months later! At the time, I never felt so sure about anything before. I thought to myself, "If he is not the one in God's plan for me, why does he keep popping back into my life....and right NOW???" It wasn't making sense! But, my ultimate decision came from prayer & the knowledge that I had years of complete trust in this man & his unselfish love for me, my son, and everyone around him. He was my best friend way before we started dating, so I knew we could talk about ANYTHING.

I'm not advocating that a Christian should go ahead & marry a non-Christian! Please don't read this & move forward with a relationship thinking it's ok with God. Especially with someone you haven't known for long. This is more of an inspiration to already married, un-equally yoked wives!!!

Although I married him & felt wonderful about it (as did our families who all said, "It was about time"!)....I begun to read more about the bible passages regarding instructions to not be "unequally yoked". I started to worry that maybe I had done the wrong thing & displeased God. I asked for forgiveness. In the midst of this, my husband decided he wanted to support me & my son's "religion" and go to church as a family. Since then, he has experienced many "mini-miracles" (our Pastor tried to make his point once in a sermon by using "Monty Python's Holy Grail" movie & my husband lifted his head in complete surprise - it's his favorite movie of all time!). He has even gone to see "The Passion of the Christ" with me, knowing it was important. Ladies, I see it in his face - he's slowly, slowly starting to question his agnostic belief in only God & nothing else. He's even asked me a question or two, out of the blue, about what's in the Bible, what Jesus taught, etc. I know now that God wanted me to marry him for a REASON. Not for me to convert him, (that's His job) but for him to have someone he loves & trusts open him up to this world. God is working on him, I feel it in my heart. It does get lonely because I want him to be a Christian tomorrow, even though it make take years!! I am bursting to share my amazing Christian experience with him, and for him to be able relate. I can't help feeling how influential he would be to others around him that look up to him, etc.

Anywho, sorry for the long story. A wonderful website to read for further encouragement is childoflight.org. It's helped me already, in so many ways, especially the "Misconceptions". I look forward to hearing other's stories & encouraging one another in being patient & prayerful about our "lost, but loved" husbands!

God bless y'all! ~Suz

Hi SuzQ ,

I can't believe how much we have in common! I was bawling reading your post. There are so many similarities in our stories. I was saved also by reading Power for Living!! The ironic part is that my husband and I both read it at the same time and at HIS suggestion! That was 3 years ago (on Easter Sunday). I see that you've been saved the same amount of time.

I started this thread (actually, I asked for this forum to be added). Please check out this first post in this thread. That's my story.

My husband is also very supportive of my walk with Christ and never ever makes fun of me or discourages me. He's interested, but sometimes I do feel that he's hardened his heart toward God. I told him so recently. He doesn't think so, but once in a while I get a very sad feeling inside. Most of the time, I'm encouraged and God has given me so many glimpses of hope. I just wish he would come to church with me. He was raised Catholic, and it's very hard for him to go to any other church, although he doesn't attend one anyway. Actually, I've told him that I would support him going back there if he just accepts the Lord. I know God is working on his heart and I can see him being an awesome man of God one day. He's so loving and giving and kind. And he doesn't even have the Holy Spirit inside him. Sometimes God humbles me by using my husband to teach me lessons! Amazing!

Well, I've babbled on long enough. I really look forward to chatting with you. I don't have private messaging turned on, but maybe you could send me an email?

SuzQ, God bless you in your walk with the Lord. I know He is faithful and will save our husbands.

Love,

WashedClean

 

[WashedClean]

A wonderful forum. And such a relief to read about similar situations.

I've been married for 24 years and known my husband for 29. I don't KNOW where all the time went!

I met him at 16 and married him at 21. We had kids at 29. At the time, way back when, all I knew was the comfort and security of a wonderful person and sweet young man. I had grown up in the church but my experiences there were not the best and the young men there were AWFUL. When I met my dh, he was so different from everything I had known, I fell head over heels.

I did not think about the church differences until long after we were married. I grow up so use to God in my life that I did not think anything could come between me and God. However, there have been some very dark, terrible times for me emotionally and spiritually because my husband is not a believer.

For many years, I resisted him and his worldly views and then slowly started slipping. It was just too hard to keep resisting him. I allowed myself to be pulled and stretched farther and farther away from my Jesus until the rope snapped and I was let loose. I know that Jesus must of wept when I finally gave up and gave in to my husband's material and sinful desires. For over 10 years, I put blinders on my eyes and hardened my heart against what I knew to be right. The things I have done and been talked into are some of my lowest, darkest times.

Now, I'm clawing and fighting my way back and it is so hard. It is so hard to explain to my dh why I won't do those things now. How it is killing me. And he is so mad, and he pouts and he ignores me trying to get me to return to it. Oh, most of the time we are "fine" but it is not the relationship I need. I need man strong in his faith who puts God first.

But, I made my own bed and I now will have to deal with the wrinkles and dirt. I would tell anyone thinking of marrying an unbeliever not to. I would not wish the tight rope walk on anyone!

Hi usatxmom,

Welcome to this forum! I hope you find lots of support and hope here.

You're doing the right thing by re-committing yourself to Jesus. He will never let you down and will honor your heart. Just pray for your husband every day. I always pray for God to make me a godly wife. I want to be a light to my husband. So many times I fail though.

Have you read "The Power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian? It's not specifically for unequally yoked wives, but it's great. Not long and there are topics/prayers for every aspect of your husband's life.

Another excellent book is "Surviving a Spiritual Mismatch" by Leslie and Lee Strobel. He was an athiest when Leslie became a Christian. He set out to prove that Christianity was a farce (he was an award winning journalist) and ended up receiving the Lord as Savior. An awesome book with a 30 day prayer plan in the back. I highly recommend it.

Just hang in there sister. I know it's hard. You will be in my prayers.

Love,

WashedClean

 

[WashedClean]

My husband and I were unequally yolked for most of the 17 years we have been married. It is NOT easy especially when you are christian and married to a jew. The digs , the backtalking, the criticisms are horrible at times when one is trying so hard to hang onto the proper values and follow the Lord and the other is a non believer and against supporting his partner or even respecting her wishes.

I prayed and prayed and prayed for 17 yrs and this was the year he fell to his knees. This is the year that God answered that prayer. My husband and I for the first time in our marriage are now equally yolked.

The one thing that not being equally yolked can do to a person real fast is tear you down spiritually. You must NEVER allow that to happen to you , always and I stress this Always stay close to the Lord, pray for those who do not believe and be a shining example to them of how precious a relationship with the Lord is.

For my husband it took total strangers, people he never in this world would ever expect to care about him and his spiritual life to get him thinking and questioning, and from there he accepted the Lord and has been slowly strengthening in his faith since.

Hello His Excellence,

Your post brought me so much hope. I started crying reading it because I know God led me here for some strength and hope.

Praise God for saving your husband . His timing is perfect and He's never late. Although it feels like it!

Thanks so much for sharing your testimony. I hope you will stick around on this forum and give us some advice!

God bless you.
Love,

WC

 

[his excellence]

Washed Clean I am so glad that you found inspiration in my post. Hang in there like you said God has Perfect Timing and is Never too late.

 

[SuzQ]

Just pray for your husband every day. I always pray for God to make me a godly wife. I want to be a light to my husband. So many times I fail though.

WashedClean

Omigosh! That's exactly how I've been feeling lately! Wow - we do have a lot in common!

Sometimes when we have out little "debates" over things, (What Mel Gibson is doing with all the money, the war in Iraq, the DaVinci Code, yadda, yadda, yadda), I sorta see myself coming off as very "judgemental" and I say too much that I know I shouldn't. I'm slowly learning that it's best to not say anything at all. I often think of Job, when God says, "Who is this that darkens my counsel with words without KNOWLEDGE?!". (Yikes! - Sorry, Lord!)

Now I just try to nod my head, and say something like, "wow, that's a very different, but interesting point of view". I'm not agreeing with him, but I'm not allowing Satan to get in the middle of us anymore, either. Again, trying -really trying- to be a more godly wife & a better example of a Christian.

When I really feel frustrated, I remember that my brother & his wife have just as many "debates" or different ways of looking at their finances, the kids' activities/discipline, etc. They are both saved & very Christian-like....so we "u-y" wives just have to realize that EVERY marriage has its challenges!!

I will definitely look into the books you suggested. I wonder if Family Christian Stores may carry them? The one near me has a gigantic section of books. I'm also REALLY encouraged by His Excellence's story - thank you for sharing that - it lifted my spirits even more!!

Thanks for you support and prayers - right back at ya!! God bless all of you!

 

[WashedClean]

Omigosh! That's exactly how I've been feeling lately! Wow - we do have a lot in common!

Sometimes when we have out little "debates" over things, (What Mel Gibson is doing with all the money, the war in Iraq, the DaVinci Code, yadda, yadda, yadda), I sorta see myself coming off as very "judgemental" and I say too much that I know I shouldn't. I'm slowly learning that it's best to not say anything at all. I often think of Job, when God says, "Who is this that darkens my counsel with words without KNOWLEDGE?!". (Yikes! - Sorry, Lord!)

Now I just try to nod my head, and say something like, "wow, that's a very different, but interesting point of view". I'm not agreeing with him, but I'm not allowing Satan to get in the middle of us anymore, either. Again, trying -really trying- to be a more godly wife & a better example of a Christian.

When I really feel frustrated, I remember that my brother & his wife have just as many "debates" or different ways of looking at their finances, the kids' activities/discipline, etc. They are both saved & very Christian-like....so we "u-y" wives just have to realize that EVERY marriage has its challenges!!

I will definitely look into the books you suggested. I wonder if Family Christian Stores may carry them? The one near me has a gigantic section of books. I'm also REALLY encouraged by His Excellence's story - thank you for sharing that - it lifted my spirits even more!!

Thanks for you support and prayers - right back at ya!! God bless all of you!

Hi again SuzQ ,

I like that, Dubya-C. Cute!

You are so right about coming off as judgmental if we're not careful. Not necessarily toward our spouses, but just in general. I've gotten better, with the Lord's help, but still a long way to go.

My husband has a hard time accepting God's forgiveness, but at the same time I believe he has a lot of pride. It's kind of weird. He feels God has given him so many gifts and he's squandered them. He turned 40 in December and right now he's unemployed. This is his choice as we're building our house, but still I know he feels he's let God down. I try to tell him that we have ALL let Him down. I think it's slowly sinking in.

It's funny, because a lot of the time he agrees with me about things that are spiritual. He has no trouble recognizing he's a sinner. But I think the difference is realizing you've offended God by your sin and need a Savior. I do believe he will get there though.

I think you can order those books I mentioned at Amazon.com or a Christian website if you can't find them in your local store. They are well worth the money!

Well, I gotta get to work. Hope to see you soon!

Love,

WashedClean
aka "Dubya-C"

 

[MominTX]

I actually went into my marriage thinking it would be a God centered marriage. Before we were married, all my husband talked about was wanting to marry a good christian woman and become a missionary later on and I felt that was what God was calling me to do, but at the same time, my husband and I were living in sin. After we had been married for close to a year, I began going to church again and trying to live the way God would like. Then when I had our son I wanted to have an even closer relationship with God because I knew it would be important for my son. Now (2 years later) I go to church on Sundays and my husband will not go. He states he is saved, but I don't see it in any of his actions...I catch a glimpse when he states I am supposed to submit to him, but I almost feel like he is using the Bible as help in him being dictator instead of husband. I have purchased and read the Power of a Praying Wife and am going through the steps of praying for him, but some days are just aweful and I feel selfish that I'm hurt by what he says and I'm mad at myself for judging him when I have no right to. Anyway....Sin is all around us, and is very deceptive and what you think you may be doing is somewhat right, just remember what God would actually want you to do at the moment, not 10 years from now.

 

[SuzQ]

He states he is saved, but I don't see it in any of his actions...I catch a glimpse when he states I am supposed to submit to him, but I almost feel like he is using the Bible as help in him being dictator instead of husband.

Gosh, I don't know what's worse - a husband with no Christian interest like mine and several others on here, or a husband who THINKS he's a Christian, but may not be at all??? Thanks for sharing that, MominTX. That's definitely a new perspective. I will pray for you, because your husband may be closer than ours in turning to Christ for REAL.

When I encounter people like that, I casually mention the "Left Behind" book series that I'm reading. I will often say, "Wow, a MINISTER was left behind after the rapture! Christ did not take him. Even though he's preached the bible all these years, he never really accepted Christ for himself, isn't that interesting?"

It makes people think!

 

[tutti1]

I saw the message from dallasguy and wanted to jump in, if I may. I am unequally yoked, married to a Muslim man for 3 years now. I have some information which could be very useful to you, but it would probably take up too much space to post it here. In Islam, it is forbidden for a Muslim woman to marry a non Muslim man, unless he converts to Islam. It can be extremely difficult for a non Muslim woman to retain her faith as a Christian when being married to a Muslim. I love my husband very much, but the first couple of years were really tough. There so many cultural differences, on top of the religious ones. I cried many tears. But for the grace of God, we are together still and expecting our first child in July. Our marriage is doing well, but it worries me how we will raise our baby, religiously. He is a wonderful man...when I met him, I was disillusioned with the "Christian" guys that I had met through church. It was not until later that I learned that not all those who say that they are Christians are following the Bible.



Forgive me, I am new to chat forums and don't know how to respond to a particular thread. I wanted to answer the one "How did you become unequally yoked"...Hope this ends up there...

 

[tutti1]

do I have to go to my e-mail address to read posts to this forum? I know how to do IM, but forums are a whole new world to me. For once in my life I have some more time on my hands...but now it is time for me to start fixing dinner.

 

[Mimi]

Silly really....when we married we both were atheists. Now I am a Christian. He likes it, accepts it and understands it. No problems yet, but then again, I respect his decission and we both try not to force each other in different ways of "believing".
I think it is all about respect

Lotta love & sunshine,
Mimi

 

[faithfulwarrior]

I'm in a rather sticky situation at the moment.. I would love your advice and prayers.
I've been a Christian the majority of my life and I've always believed that dating/courting/marrying non christians is wrong and unwise. I've always been strong in this and never fell in this belief. But that Bible verse in Corinthians has proven to be very true.. ('if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall')
I fell..I met a non christian who liked me, and I fell for him in the same way. I said no for a number of months because I didn't want to displease God. Eventually, I gave in and we are still together today. He respects my beliefs and my decision to abstain from sexual relations until marriage,thank the Lord, but that doesn't justify our relationship...Now does it? I have prayed about it, and I have honestly, with Gods strength, tried several times to end the relationship. He keeps coming into my life and we never end it, its proven to be impossible so far...I don't know what else to do.. I tried, on the weekend, to break it off with him but that didn't work either. Please, can ya'll give me advice? Godbless and take care

 

[moz]

Two words: CHURCH SPLIT
My husband was a deacon, pulled between 2 good friends- pastor and associate pastor during the church split. He attended church for less than a year after that, now doesn't go at all and picked back up all his old bad habits.

 

[SuzQ]

I'm in a rather sticky situation at the moment.. I would love your advice and prayers.
I've been a Christian the majority of my life and I've always believed that dating/courting/marrying non christians is wrong and unwise. I've always been strong in this and never fell in this belief. But that Bible verse in Corinthians has proven to be very true.. ('if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall')
I fell..I met a non christian who liked me, and I fell for him in the same way. I said no for a number of months because I didn't want to displease God. Eventually, I gave in and we are still together today. He respects my beliefs and my decision to abstain from sexual relations until marriage,thank the Lord, but that doesn't justify our relationship...Now does it? I have prayed about it, and I have honestly, with Gods strength, tried several times to end the relationship. He keeps coming into my life and we never end it, its proven to be impossible so far...I don't know what else to do.. I tried, on the weekend, to break it off with him but that didn't work either. Please, can ya'll give me advice? Godbless and take care

Oh man, do I understand! I guess my first question is: does he express ANY interest in learning more about Christianity? If you haven't already, go back a few pages and read MY story. I completely sympathize with your dilemma, Faithful Warrior (love that name ). My now-husband wasn't quite saved, and still isn't, but I had known him for over a decade & know his heart. When he found out I became a Christian, he hesitated discussing it with me at first, but finally expressed that he's always been OPEN to it, and comes from a Christ-loving, religious family. (In fact, his sister tours with a Christian Gospel Group called "Trinity" in Europe). He has never lied to me before, and I've dated so many "losers" who've been so dishonest in my life & said what you wanted to hear, blah-blah-blah. I guess you could say that the Lord has given me somewhat of a gift of "wisdom" the past couple of years, LOL!

Yes, the Lord does not want US to go out and seek non-Christians to be yoked with on our own. However, did the Lord bring this man into your life for a REASON? It's a dangerous, and thin line to tread, no doubt. You want to make sure you are living God's Word, but I see that you have faithfully prayed for direction & tried to do what you felt was right, only to keep having him come back to you? Could the Lord being using his love for you & your shining example of a devout Christian with STRONG morals as a way to show him the path? (Not that YOU can convert him, that's His job, of course).

Sister in Christ, I will pray for you about this as well, in order to receive a clearer and necessary direction from God on this one. "Wherever TWO or MORE are gathered in My name...."

God bless!

 

[Rosa Mystica]

Yes, the Lord does not want US to go out and seek non-Christians to be yoked with on our own. However, did the Lord bring this man into your life for a REASON? It's a dangerous, and thin line to tread, no doubt. You want to make sure you are living God's Word, but I see that you have faithfully prayed for direction & tried to do what you felt was right, only to keep having him come back to you? Could the Lord being using his love for you & your shining example of a devout Christian with STRONG morals as a way to show him the path? (Not that YOU can convert him, that's His job, of course).

That's a good point, SuzQ. Maybe God does lead us to ppl. of different faiths for the very reason that you mentioned. If this possibility didn't exist, then why would my Church celebrate mixed marriages in certain instances?

I'm praying for you, FaithfulWarrior.

 

[tonya]

Alot of people would disagree about God leading this person to you BUT I agree that sometimes (Ithink) God puts people in our paths so that He can use us to get to them...

 

[faithfulwarrior]

Hey everyone, thankyou all for your continuing prayers and support. This forum is great, and even though I do not know any of you, it's amazing how we all share this bond through Jesus Christ! Praise God.
This forum has been a tremendous help with my situation. And i could totally relate to what SuzQ said earlier, how that man kept coming into her life.. Its the same for me. No matter how hard I have tried to break things off with my boyfriend, he keeps coming into my life..We had broken up for a little while about 6 months ago, but he came back into my life and eventually we started up all over again. I don't want to date someone that isnt right in the Lord, nor do I want to marry someone who isn't right in the Lord. The ironic thing is.. 1)Im dating a non christian and 2)I CAN see myself marrying him
See my confusion? How can I be so strong against something and then do it anyway? It's not understandable to me. Even though I am ''unequally yoked" I have been very close to God lately. There's another wierd thing..Wouldn't you think that being with someone who was not a Christian would tear you away from God?
Well, thats all for my contemplative ramblings (for today anyway) Godbless you all!

 

[crosstrainer]

My husband and I met in very undesirable circumstances which have tainted my hopes for ever having a real marriage based on a real friendship together in Christ. Although I know all things are possible in Christ!!

I was only saved a year ago or so and my life has been turned around completely. But I haven't always lived up to the standard I do now...
We met on a chat live line, living a 3 hour commute away from eachother...
the details on that one are too embarrasing and I've never told anyone how it all really happened, this is the 1st time I have ever recalled the details to anyone.

I had a boyfriend at the time. We also found eachother on this same line initially, I know how bad this sounds. But I was hooked on these chat lines, with my poor self image it felt good to talk to people who said what I wanted to hear and I could be who ever I wanted to be to strangers. So even though I had this boyfriend, I kept calling these lines to talk to anyone....

Anyway after chatting to a few people, I gravitated toward my now husband (I'll call him 'Mark') on the other end of the phone and we swapped email addresses and personal phone numbers. We never made any plans to meet yet though. I didn't know how to deal with the dead-beat that I had allowed to move in with me.

As Mark and I developed a relationship developed on the phone, I learned his dad was ill and he had to return home to care for him. That was New Zealand. So he left but we kept in touch though email. I had not met him in person at this stage.

I then decided to sever the relationship with my current boyfriend. I was not nice about it and it was messy and he was really hurt. We had just had a prenancy as well, which we decided to terminate...not a good scene at all, but he left and then it was just me...and my son from a previous relationship, I have sought CHristian counsel and help in dealing with that decision to abort since... just a side-note.

in the meanwhile.....
My interests still fell on this man who was now in NZ. He was also very intrigued with me. So much that he sent me, and my 7 year old son a ticket to come and see him. His dad died when he returned and he wanted to stay and help his mom through it, so he sent for us to come to meet him. Total strangers...I know as I type this I can't believe how bad it sounds and that it is all actually true!

We flew there in October of 2001 planning to stay a year. We got married so that I could attain a work visa, not out of love, we hardly knew eachother and what we found out was that we had nothing in common. We fought constantly. We were married in January 2002, and I was pregnant 2 months later.

At about my 5th month pregnancy I could not live away from Canada anymore, I became very emotional and as we lived with his mother, who is very controlling and undermining, I made up my mind to leave. We planned for my husband to fly back 2 months after me and we would all live back in Canada together and try to make this life and all the bad we had done..good.

Here we are after 2 1/2 years marriage, we have my son and our new 17 month old beautiful son who is my angel. NOw to my being saved....
I came to Christ about the time I had our son. I just felt the pull toward Him. I needed to fill my life with Him in everyway I could. It felt like an urgency! I started to go to church and make CHristian friends. I filled my days with teaching from Christian radio, from the bible and women's bible studies...my life is so different!

My family, moral conduct, values, focus, kids' needs, stability...etc. are all completely turned around! I am a different person, but the same. See I have always needed and wanted what I have (Christ, ethics, security..) now, but I took a long a windy and treacherous path to get here. I have come to know the real me, the one Jesus always meant for me to be, but I find there are parts of that 'me' that I have always known, but ignored. Thank God for His mercy and watchful eye as I floundered in my non-Christian years, knowing I would one day receive Him...

I am embarrassed and ashamed to admit to myself the choices I made in the past, but I am making up for it now.

I no longer believe in divorce being the answer or ducking out of bad choices because I am trying to avoid some personal discomfort.
I have made vows that I intend to keep and to keep them well. I have vowed to seek help in issues in my marriage and to always look at myself and what I can change and improve to be a good wife. And to set an example of a healthy marriage for our boys.
I am finding out all the things that God has wanted me to learn by bringing 'Mark' and I together...I have resented him many times and am now learning to let go of all that, and realise that under it all, I can find a really good man in there!!

I am also trying to lead my older son to the Lord, and my younger son will be taught right from the start, but my husband has no interest in religion or Christ at all. I do insist on my new stardards of living and our conduct and teachings in our home to be Christ centered and respectable, but I can't lead my husband to his own convictions and need for CHrist. All I have done in that regard is pray.

Hey, if the Lord still accepts me after what I have done with my life, and to others, I don't doubt He will find a way into my husband heart one day too. Good thing though, Mark agrees with many of the changes we have made in our life for our kids and supports us in our walk with Christ...amen!!
That's my story of how I became unequally yolked, just the outline, skipping many of the details, thanks for letting me share that.
God Bless!!