How did you end up unequally yoked?

[Gwynne]

I was not a Christian when I got married, and neither was my husband. He used to be a Christian, however had a very bad experience with a church that verged on being a cult. They were very controlling and when he finally left, they made him feel like he had done everything wrong. He walked away from God because of that. It wasn't until earlier this year that I became a Christian. My husband supports my choices, however he doesn't go to church with me. Some of that is because of his job, however a lot is because he is on edge about church.

However, I'm leading a 40 Days of Purpose small group starting next week and my husband has agreed to go with me. It was sort of a bribe situation, he missed my birthday and promised to go to the group to make it up to me, but I figure if that's what God is doing to work on him then who am I to question it! And it was hubby's idea to go to the group to make up for my birthday, not mine

 

[WashedClean]

I was not a Christian when I got married, and neither was my husband. He used to be a Christian, however had a very bad experience with a church that verged on being a cult. They were very controlling and when he finally left, they made him feel like he had done everything wrong. He walked away from God because of that. It wasn't until earlier this year that I became a Christian. My husband supports my choices, however he doesn't go to church with me. Some of that is because of his job, however a lot is because he is on edge about church.

However, I'm leading a 40 Days of Purpose small group starting next week and my husband has agreed to go with me. It was sort of a bribe situation, he missed my birthday and promised to go to the group to make it up to me, but I figure if that's what God is doing to work on him then who am I to question it! And it was hubby's idea to go to the group to make up for my birthday, not mine

Hi Gwynne!

Welcome to these forums. I hope you find lots of love, support and encouragement here from others in your situation.

That's awesome about your husband agreeing to go to the group with you. Who cares why, God made it happen. He sure does work in mysterious ways. Praise Him!

Let us know how the first meeting goes, would you?

God bless,

WashedClean (aka Dubya "C")

 

[GreenPartyVoter]

I was very young (14) when I met my future hubby. But we fell in love, and were somewhat closer in our beliefs at the time. But who, really, knows what they think at so young an age? Who knows how they will think when they are older.

I don't consider us unequally yoked so much as differently yoked, though. You can read my journal entry about my most recent thoughts on our marriage. http://www.livejournal.com/users/gpv/324.html

 

[LiberatedChick]

Hmmm....well I guess the beginning would be a good place to start so I'll start my story there.

I was a believer just before my teens and into my early teens as well. After this I started gaining an interest in paganism and drifted away from my belief in the Lord. No one I knew was religious...my parents weren't and I'd never been to church so it was pretty easy to drift. My husband however had a different upbringing. His mum was quite religious and he'd be taken to church and Sunday school. However, whilst going to gave him a respect for Christianity and a belief that it's teachings were good it did not give him a belief in the Lord.

We met at school when we were 14 and we were just friends at first though he liked me a lot. Neither of us were believers at this point. At 16 we got together and five months after that we were engaged. We finished our education at 18, got jobs and moved in together. We couldn't get married right after getting engaged as we were still in school, had no money and no where to live once married so we waited. At 18 we had money coming in but we wanted to save for our wedding as we wanted the wedding of our dreams, since we only intended on doing this once we wanted to make it something that we'd love to remember. We weren't very good with the savings at first and also had to move into a new flat when we were 19.

Once in our new flat we made a good effort with saving money and started planning our wedding in October 2003 when we were both 20. Neither of us were believers through this time and I classed myself as pagan. However, my religion was shaken to the core when my grandfather died in April 2003. That's when I realised I had no beliefs on death and whilst I struggled to develop my beliefs in this area I pent up my emotions. I ended up binge drinking on a regular basis to let them out. I wanted to cry, I wanted to fall apart but no one else was so I concealed my true feelings. When I was drunk was when I could cry. At the end of 2003 I realised how I hated what I was doing and made my new years resolution to only drink on special occasions. The first half of the year I slipped up a lot but the second half has been much easier and I believe that is because I now have God by my side.

My husband and I got married in July 2004, he still an unbeliever and me not so sure. I was investigating Christianity again before our marriage...my grandads death had made me call my beliefs into question. In the past I'd dismissed Christianity with a "been there, done that, got the t-shirt and not doing it again" attitude. But I realised at this time that over the past few years I'd felt called back to Christ on many occasions. In fact I don't think there was a day go by that I didn't think about Christianity at some point. Two days after our wedding my husband were off to Scotland on a honeymoon that his family had surprised us with. The day before we went we went into the town centre to buy a map of the area we were going to so we could go out for walks and not get lost. I also bought a Bible.

One week before our wedding I decided to convert back to Christianity. During the week I was still unsure, I felt like I might just flip and change my mind at any moment. Though during that time I kept reading as much as possible to re-learn the faith I'd dismissed. The day after our wedding was the day I got saved. That day was the day I knew that I had made the right choice. That day was the day I accepted Christ into my life again and made a positive step toward continuing this path. My husband remained unsaved.

 

[KleinerApfel]

Starelda that's some testimony to the Lord keeping a grip on you - praise God!

Let's all keep praying for our non-Christian spouses.
This week I just heard that my friend's husband got saved after doing Alpha recently. When I saw him 2 weeks ago I was wondering, because he looked somehow different.
(This was before I had a chance to talk to my friend separately, so I didn't know.)

Sounds corny, but he really looked alive, full of light and joy. Thank You Jesus!

This couple are in their fifties, and she became a Christian years ago, some time into the marriage.

Let's praise God and keep trusting Him.

From 1 Tim. 2:
God our Savior ........ wants all men to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth.

God bless you all, Susana

 

[LiberatedChick]

Let's all keep praying for our non-Christian spouses.

Most definately

 

[shaaz_99]

hi all....
Well i have been married for 6 years and met my Jesus 3 years ago....
But although my Hubby has no problem about my faith, he does'nt see its relevant for him at all.He is very Independent and also there is a history of these D&D games etc.So he really is quite blind to his need of Jesus....
I intend to keep praying and my church is also..
Recently it's been a little tough...we seem like we are on different planets a lot of the time(i know we actually are)
Regardless of this God can Do anything and i am sure He will change this situation.