Because the gospels which are accounts of the churches oldest beliefs talk about it as a rememberance.
No they don't. Only 1 Cor 11 talks about it as a remembrance - which is in no way a contradiction of the idea of it actually being Christ's body and blood (it can both be the body and blood AND be a remembrance, which we would say it is).
The Gospels all say "This is my body... This is my blood" - without mention of remembrance. The word "is" in Greek denotes functional equivalence (to the point that the word order doesn't matter - whereas in English we put the literal object of a metaphor as the subject). In other words, Christ's body is bread, bread is body. The word is means that the former literally IS the later.
Also I know the Apostolic churches cherry pick from the ECF's so we do not get to hear the real story as it is told from the Apostles. Thats how I se it from what I have learned about the church and the ECF's.
That's a bit offensive, honestly. If you think we cherry pick, then go and read them. They're available free online. I will challenge you to find one father or mother (or Christian of any authentic sort) from the first three centuries of Christianity that denied the reality of Christ in the Eucharist.
You won't find them.
This isn't a cherry picking. I'm speaking now as a church historian (I teach church history for a living) - the early church believed in Christ's real presence in the Eucharist. It isn't like they didn't speak on the matter (several early writers did). They spoke universally in favor of believing the Eucharist to be Christ's body and blood. They believed this so strongly that the Romans were executing them on the accusation of canibalism!
To me it is clear that according to the Apostles there is no magic in the bread and wine itself
Of course there's no magic! It's the grace of the Holy Spirit that effects the change (and there's no clear point at which this change occurs - the Orthodox are not so particular about those details as the RCC has tended to be).
Some would even say it doesn't become the Body of Christ until we (as the body of Christ) partake of it.
Yet just as we all, in faith, trust that God answers and is attentive to our prayers, we also trust that God is attentive to His promises concerning the Eucharist. There isn't "magic" in prayer either - you don't control God through prayer. But God always answers. We don't control God in the Eucharist, but God always makes Himself present through it.
This isn't us doing anything - its all about God.
but like the woman who touched Jesus robe. It was not the fabric that caused the woman to be healed but her faith in Jesus.
And that faith found expression through the fabric. Just as another time Jesus chose to heal a man through mud and spit. And another time Jesus healed through St. Peter's shadow, or St. Paul's handerchief.
And another time - many times - He has chosen to make manifest Himself through the Eucharist, as He promised "This is my body... This is my blood."
If we partake of the Eucharist without faith, that doesn't make God any less faithful (it is still Christ's body and blood) - but oh how demonic a thing! Such a Eucharist would be for us a judgment, even deadly. Notice in 1 Cor 11 that St. Paul talks of people falling asleep and dying because they partook of the Eucharist in an unworthy manner, not discerning the body of the Lord.
So faith is necessary - on this we agree. But, if I may, why is the idea of God using the physical so objectionable to you? Isn't there, somewhere in there, a latent sense of the physical being too fallen - or too pagan? Doesn't that say more about our general disdain for the physical (and for God's creation), then it does about God?
Christ is born! The physical is redeemed. Let us rejoice!
So the eucharist itself dose not have power, but the faith and belief in Christ that results from remebering his sacrifice and connecting with it is where we need to look.
You are dividing what cannot be divided. The Eucharist, in so much as God's grace makes it communion, has power given to it by God. Faith allows us to experience and know this communion, and to be brought into deeper unity with God (both spiritually and physically). We remember His sacrifice, not in a cognitive way, but because we are made present to it every time we "proclaim the Lord's death till He comes."
We must certainly look to re-membering (remanifesting) Christ's sacrifice, and we MUST look to it - indeed to its literal and physical presence. And we MUST connect with it - indeed on a physical and spiritual level. I agree.
But none of this says we must deny Christ's presence in the Eucharist. And we aren't cherry picking here - the early Church unanimously believed in this. Why should I deny it?
In Christ,
Macarius