Also, I know my self, another reason I want help in my introspection concerning my moral dilemma is because I know part of the reason I have this moral dilemma is rooted in my own envy. I know this is wrong but on a baser level it is a shocker that some one who is proud to be a criminal, revels in his own rebellion could be so much of a better provider (both emotionally and financially ) than a man who always touts right is right wrong is wrong and champions the cause of law and order. Like the other day, the husband doesn't come home till super late. It was raining real heavy, he didn't call, and his wife is starting to freak out. He told rolls in at close to 930pm, soaking wet with mud allover his truck. His wife screams at him and he produces a brown paper sack with two pints of fresh custard. So apparently what happened is after he finished the day at his regular job he decided to check on one of his crews to see the progress. Apparently he gets caught up with something there and decides to treat his guys to a dinner (yet he neglects to inform his wife). He then remembered that the custard place his wife and daughter likes was making a special flavor they had on their wedding so he decided to stop their to pick up a couple pints. Well on his way there he decided to take a short cut through a utility field which gets his truck covered in mud and a traffic ticket. This all leads to him getting home really late and scaring the tar out if his wife. He constantly does stuff like this but more often then not it is because he wants to treat his wife or daughter to something special. Clearly he shouldn't be hiring undocumented crews or driving through utility fields but he does these things, often at great inconvenience to him self in order to spoil and pamper his wife and daughter. Then thinking of my husband, sitting at home with his inappropriate content and fetish world while I am out working makes me just green with envy.
And I'll admit living with m my sister in law and her husband is almost a surreal experience. That man has absolutely no reason to steal or engage in shady labor practices. Yet he does, he doesn't hide it from his wife or child (mind you his wife is the sister of my husband so she grew up with the same reverence of law and order her brother did) and to them this is all part of the background fabric of their lives.
Like another time, he comes home from "work" and his extra curiculars and switches off the stove that his wife is cooking dinner on. He announces that instead of meat loaf we were going to Fogo de Chao. His wife protests initially saying that they should save the money and he responds by saying that he "found" a load of pressure treated 2x4's and he was able to return them to the local home improvement store (the big blue one) and since he bought 2x4's over a month ago the store was able to refund onto his credit card close to 300 dollars. Before his wife could say anything his daughter announces "All hail the King of Theives". He then asks his wife "what say you my queen" and she replied with "long live the king" and with that the three of them were getting ready to go out and eat at an expensive restaurant with the profits of chicanery. When he noticed that my son and weren't getting up to go with them, he told us that when he said "we" he meant ever one and that we were welcome to go too.
Again I appreciate them 1000% just some of the stuff they do is really really weird and completely throws my moral compass out of whack.