- Aug 7, 2017
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I would first off want to start by saying that I had completely misjudged my sister in law and her husband. I have always believed them to be charlatans due to some if their actions but after staying with them for a week I have come to realize how much love is in their hearts.
But that being said I am confronted with A HUGE moral dilemma.
Recently I found out that my husband was hiding his poronography addiction. Not only was he looking at inappropriate content (picturesand erotic stories) he was creating it too. The most disturbing thing is that this inappropriate content he likes is centered around snuff and cooking women as food. It was horrifying that he even shared his fantasy of cooking me to strangers on the internet. When I found out, I took our son and approached my sister in law about staying there. Due to some bad blood I had to really really humble my self to them and share with them the reason I was seeking safe harbor. After a lot of pleading they allowed me to stay.
To my surprise, once they said yes everything changed. They never mentioned again any past slight, they treated me and my son as one of them, they feed us the same as they fed their child and themselves, basically for all intents and purposes we were allowed the same comforts they afford them selves while we are under their roof. For that I am 1000% thankful and grateful. Now here is my moral dilemma. In the end my sister in law and her husband ARE charlatans and rather unrepentant about that. They are constantly engaged in retail fraud, employment fraud and such. They are very proud of the fact that they get away with what they do. They proudly trumpet their disdain for civil authority and what not. In contrast my husband and his family are very staunchly law and order types. In truth I am a law and order type.
So this is what I an trying to reconcile within my own heart. My sister in law's husband is a proud charlatan. He alreadymakes a good amount of money at his job as an executive at a construction company but he still feels the need to hustle for more. He is constantly return frauding retail stores and he picks up contract work on the side by hiring undocumented day laborers. In the past I use to judge him really harshly for doing these things but now after spending a week living in his home it is obvious he does these things out of love for his wife and daughter. He completely spoils them. Does this justify him breaking the law? No but it is at least done out of love of his family. Now I contrast that to my own husband. My husband would never ever break the law. And like I did in the past he very harshly condemned the criminal behavior of his brother in law. However while I was out working to support us and while his brother in law is spending his time working/hustling for his family, my husband was off in his fantasy fetish land. When I confronted him about this, he defended himself by saying that there is nothing illegal about having a fetish. When I approached his parents because I didn't feel safe staying in our home, they too defended him by saying it is just a harmless fetish and I needed to be less judgemental and that despite this he is a good honest man.
To me my moral dilemma lies in the fact that those who toute law and order showed so much less love and understanding than those who are proud to be thieves and scoundrels. (I am not being judgemental of the brother in law here, he says himself that he is the King of Thieves and that I am welcome to stay in "Pirates Cove". How do I reconcile this in my own heart and soul.
But that being said I am confronted with A HUGE moral dilemma.
Recently I found out that my husband was hiding his poronography addiction. Not only was he looking at inappropriate content (picturesand erotic stories) he was creating it too. The most disturbing thing is that this inappropriate content he likes is centered around snuff and cooking women as food. It was horrifying that he even shared his fantasy of cooking me to strangers on the internet. When I found out, I took our son and approached my sister in law about staying there. Due to some bad blood I had to really really humble my self to them and share with them the reason I was seeking safe harbor. After a lot of pleading they allowed me to stay.
To my surprise, once they said yes everything changed. They never mentioned again any past slight, they treated me and my son as one of them, they feed us the same as they fed their child and themselves, basically for all intents and purposes we were allowed the same comforts they afford them selves while we are under their roof. For that I am 1000% thankful and grateful. Now here is my moral dilemma. In the end my sister in law and her husband ARE charlatans and rather unrepentant about that. They are constantly engaged in retail fraud, employment fraud and such. They are very proud of the fact that they get away with what they do. They proudly trumpet their disdain for civil authority and what not. In contrast my husband and his family are very staunchly law and order types. In truth I am a law and order type.
So this is what I an trying to reconcile within my own heart. My sister in law's husband is a proud charlatan. He alreadymakes a good amount of money at his job as an executive at a construction company but he still feels the need to hustle for more. He is constantly return frauding retail stores and he picks up contract work on the side by hiring undocumented day laborers. In the past I use to judge him really harshly for doing these things but now after spending a week living in his home it is obvious he does these things out of love for his wife and daughter. He completely spoils them. Does this justify him breaking the law? No but it is at least done out of love of his family. Now I contrast that to my own husband. My husband would never ever break the law. And like I did in the past he very harshly condemned the criminal behavior of his brother in law. However while I was out working to support us and while his brother in law is spending his time working/hustling for his family, my husband was off in his fantasy fetish land. When I confronted him about this, he defended himself by saying that there is nothing illegal about having a fetish. When I approached his parents because I didn't feel safe staying in our home, they too defended him by saying it is just a harmless fetish and I needed to be less judgemental and that despite this he is a good honest man.
To me my moral dilemma lies in the fact that those who toute law and order showed so much less love and understanding than those who are proud to be thieves and scoundrels. (I am not being judgemental of the brother in law here, he says himself that he is the King of Thieves and that I am welcome to stay in "Pirates Cove". How do I reconcile this in my own heart and soul.