How can I learn to forgive my wife?

ProdigalGander said:

My wife packed-up and left me nearly four years ago. Stole my car. Told all kinds of horrible lies about me. Made false accusations in court filings that I had emotionally abused her. Moved in with and started sleeping with another man who had been in prison. Divorced me. Is about to marry him in a few weeks.

I have forgiven her. Because for the Christian not forgiving someone is NOT AN OPTION! We have been forgiven absolutely EVERYTHING through Christ. So we cannot hold things against any other human being. No matter what they are. When it comes to forgiveness the Bible just paints a big old Nike swoosh on there and says Just Do It.

It sounds as if you had a nasty spat with your wife, but please consider the positives. She is still with you. You can come home and be with her each day. You have very real opportunities to continue your marriage and to make it grow and prosper in the future. I wish I still had that.

Please do not endanger that, or your salvation, by being hard-hearted.

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Neostarwcc said:

Its funny you should bring mental illness up. I was diagnosed schizo-affective several years ago. So I was thinking that maybe it was my schizo-affective disorder acting up. There are days when I am better and days where I am not. Like maybe I'm manic? But then again I'm sleeping and usually when I'm manic I don't sleep for weeks at a time. So I'm if I'm manic or not. But basically when I'm manic I feel like this so maybe I am being hypomanic? *shrug*.

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Neostarwcc said:

I see my psychiatrist next week about how some med changes are going. I'll bring up the argument and how it was difficult to move on then.

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paul becke said:

Anyway, it's already good news, but it might be helpful, mightn't it, as he could well have the answer - for your own peace of mind... about losing your own and your wife's peace of mind in that way ?

Anyway, thanks for this update. You did seem a kind character to behave in that way. Your strange lapse, seemed out of character with the rest of your post. And forgiveness is so pivotal to our faith.

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