Background: Almost 6 years ago I married guy of a much different faith than I was raised and belong. My husband belonged to my faith until a missionary changed his mind while he was in the Navy (several years prior to our marriage). I unfortunately did not understand that we had different definitions for Christian words (salvation, Jesus Christ, etc) - everything sounded great. I thought I had married a really great Christian - how wrong I was and there has been a lot of witnessing and discussions in our home with me trying to get him to see the Truth without offending him. We have 4 children in all - my 16 year old daughter (very loved product of a date rape), his 10 year old daughter and his 7 year old son (product of bad marriage that ended in his wife's homosexual relationships) and our 4 year old daughter.
My question is:
His 10-year-old daughter, Brittney, has a sickening fascination with sex and has a serious problem telling the truth - she needs professional help. She has been masturbating since age 5 and now tells my 4 year-old, Grace, all about having sex, kissing, 'feeling good' - even goes so far as to perform sexual acts with the Barbie dolls to illustrate her points. I am no longer allowing them to sleep in the same room or play together unsupervised but my husband says I am tearing the family apart by punishing Brittney, whereas I feel that I am protecting Grace. Brittney is unable to tell the truth and is a very deceitful and sneaky child. We have punished, talked, preached until we don't know where else to turn. I have asked him to get Brittney professional help but he refuses to do so. I am concerned about Grace's welfare being around such a child and her father being unconcerned about the situation. He agrees there is a problem but that God will take care of it in due time. Am I to wait until Brittney gets to the point of physically molesting Grace before it is considered enough of a problem that she can get help? What does the Bible say I am to do? I am doing my best to keep this family together but am getting no assistance from my husband or his ex-wife. I am not really sure there is anything to keep together anymore. If I leave and take my daughters with me, am I committing adultery? If we divorce, what are my options? I know that divorce is not acceptable in God's eyes, but can I do to protect my child when my husband will do nothing?
My question is:
His 10-year-old daughter, Brittney, has a sickening fascination with sex and has a serious problem telling the truth - she needs professional help. She has been masturbating since age 5 and now tells my 4 year-old, Grace, all about having sex, kissing, 'feeling good' - even goes so far as to perform sexual acts with the Barbie dolls to illustrate her points. I am no longer allowing them to sleep in the same room or play together unsupervised but my husband says I am tearing the family apart by punishing Brittney, whereas I feel that I am protecting Grace. Brittney is unable to tell the truth and is a very deceitful and sneaky child. We have punished, talked, preached until we don't know where else to turn. I have asked him to get Brittney professional help but he refuses to do so. I am concerned about Grace's welfare being around such a child and her father being unconcerned about the situation. He agrees there is a problem but that God will take care of it in due time. Am I to wait until Brittney gets to the point of physically molesting Grace before it is considered enough of a problem that she can get help? What does the Bible say I am to do? I am doing my best to keep this family together but am getting no assistance from my husband or his ex-wife. I am not really sure there is anything to keep together anymore. If I leave and take my daughters with me, am I committing adultery? If we divorce, what are my options? I know that divorce is not acceptable in God's eyes, but can I do to protect my child when my husband will do nothing?