How can I become a better leader?

[Neostarwcc]

My wife claims to take scripture seriously but she is honestly out of control. I try to be a Godly man and a leader to her but I fail around every corner. Not only am I wicked and evil, a liar and a blasphemer but also I am worse than an unbeliever because I do not rule over the house. I do not spend the family money wisely and mostly spend it on myself. These are just a few examples. I cannot expect my wife to be a Godly wife when I myself am so wicked and far behind where I should be in Christ. I am a reader and not a doer. I know what you're thinking, if you don't do than the answer is easy, start doing. But doing is so difficult.

I know that it is God who is in control in the end and I'm probably exactly where God wants me right now. But it's like I'm so many eons behind and it's like I will never get there. I need biblical advice on how to proceed. I can't proceed without knowing and doing. All I do is just recognize my wickedness. That's all that's there.

 

[Pavel Mosko]

Well personally I follow the advice of this TED talk it's my favorite of all of them.

Seth Godin is another person I get career advice from etc. He mentions how it is easy to become a leader in companies etc. Managers and other executives are reluctant to give out power, "but they give out responsibility like candy",so the pathway to leadership is to voluntarily take on more responsibility than what your job calls for.

 

[Minister Monardo]

I need biblical advice on how to proceed.

Former Pastor John Maxwell has taught
extensively on leadership

 

[Sketcher]

Try to do one more thing better and more consistently. When you have that at much better levels, try to do another thing better and more consistently.

 

[FutureAndAHope]

The Bible says,

John 6:63 It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing.

Mat 6:33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Mark 14:38 Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak."

The way to be better at any Spiritual task is to get closely connected to God. We will fail if we fail to recognize where our help comes from. We are not to perform tasks to tick a box. But rather in love serve one another. Headship in the home is not directing the other person. Our job as Godly leaders is to draw our families closer to relationship with Jesus. But even that can not be forced. As husband and wife, we are joint heirs of God's grace. The man is not greater than the woman, the man can, and should, submit to their wife if the wife has a desire or task that needs to be done. Headship is really the final say in issues that can not be resolved, through mutual submission. In my marriage I have rarely ever bought up the topic of authority, it just is not needed. Our wives should not have to feel we "want" to exert our authority. See the example of Jesus:

Mark 9:35 And He sat down, called the twelve, and said to them, "If anyone desires to be first, he shall be last of all and servant of all."

 

[Gregory Thompson]

My wife claims to take scripture seriously but she is honestly out of control. I try to be a Godly man and a leader to her but I fail around every corner. Not only am I wicked and evil, a liar and a blasphemer but also I am worse than an unbeliever because I do not rule over the house. I do not spend the family money wisely and mostly spend it on myself. These are just a few examples. I cannot expect my wife to be a Godly wife when I myself am so wicked and far behind where I should be in Christ. I am a reader and not a doer. I know what you're thinking, if you don't do than the answer is easy, start doing. But doing is so difficult.

I know that it is God who is in control in the end and I'm probably exactly where God wants me right now. But it's like I'm so many eons behind and it's like I will never get there. I need biblical advice on how to proceed. I can't proceed without knowing and doing. All I do is just recognize my wickedness. That's all that's there.

Take inventory of all that you "do"

and if it is not "service oriented" then change it to that.

Jesus taught that those who desire to be great among us will be slave/servant of all.