It is not our purview to judge who is and who isn't saved.
Our purview is to share the gospel, His word. We can do no more; indeed, we are permitted to do no more - and I trust no one here is judging anyone else here as saved or not. If so, such [unrighteous] judgment must stop.
We share based on our study and understanding of it. If we are wrong, it is incumbent on those who disagree to do their best, in a Godly, Christian manner, to attempt to persuade otherwise; and if we are wrong, we are to repent and do as persuaded by His word. If not wrong however, the incumbency falls on us and we are all to behave as Christ did, in utmost grace and patience and prayer.
Saul was anything if not sincere and pious in his zeal for God. “I am a Jew, born in Tarsus of Cilicia, but brought up in this city, educated under Gamaliel, strictly according to the law of our fathers, being zealous for God just as you all are today.” (Acts 22:3). In Galatians 1:14 he writes – “…I was advancing in Judaism beyond many of my contemporaries among my countrymen, being more extremely zealous for my ancestral traditions.” In Philippians 3:6 – “…as to zeal, a persecutor of the church, as to the righteousness which is in the Law, found blameless.…” And of the Jews Paul wrote in Romans 10:2 – “For I testify about them that they have a zeal for God, but not in accordance with knowledge.” We see here how sincerity and zeal (piety), even for God is no guarantee of Godly faith; nor does it negate the truth of Scripture.
This is in fact one of the key struggles I had to deal with when I became a Christian - on many levels: personal, family, friends, relatives, respected teachers / leaders, etc. Raised in a Christian household, "confirmed" in the Methodist church as a teen, always searching spiritually... I even had a bible! though I never read it. As a young sailor still in school, I was invited to a large Southern Baptist church nearby. Large congregation, very emotional sermon and two equally emotional testimonies: one of a giant of a man, 7+ feet tall, and the other a young woman just 18" tall. There was a call to baptism at the end of the sermon, and responding emotionally, I answered the call. Exiting the baptistry however and descending the stairs, I was spiritually repelled and vividly remember saying to myself - "Get-me-out-of-here!" I never returned, utterly repelled. In the years that followed, I'd make occasional visits to various churches, never really devoted to any though. Indeed, my life was spiraling into deeper and deeper sin. Drugs, sex, alcohol... I was further and further out of control. In college, a long-haired, sloppily dressed degenerate, I was invited to a campus bible study; and ironically, I eagerly went. We got to some studies on how to respond to the gospel and I hit a huge wall - thinking I was already a Christian (though my life was demonstrably precisely the opposite). Like Paul, to accept what I was reading meant I'd have to renounce "my faith" (such as "my faith" was) and accept as true what was convicting me so thoroughly.
To make matters worse, "my faith" was also similar to my family's, my relative's, my friend's...
Trust me when I say, Jesus' words never rang so true as at this time with me: “Do not think that I came to bring peace on the earth; I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I came to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and a man’s enemies will be the members of his household." (Mt 10:34ff)
I don't know about anyone here who may be reading these words, their background, their situation, their heart... Heck, I don't even know your real names, nor you mine. It is not my purpose in sharing this to judge anyone here - please believe that. I am simply sharing what I believe is God's word on this subject. Nothing more. It is my prayer it be received in similar manner, if received at all. And if not, that it not drive a wedge between us, but that we remain able to fellowship together, regardless.
In Him,