They have "19 Kids And Counting"
And...?
Having a lot of children does not mean one is part of the quiverful movement or a follower of Bill Gothard.
Honestly, this is almost as stupid as the post where somebody said the Duggars are "crazy" because they eat off paper plates.
There isn't really a career without a degree. Not one in which a person can continue to be promoted, to grow as a person and an employee, and to obtain the kind of pecuniary advancement as is possible with a degree. It's naïve to imagine that a kid graduating with a high school degree can ever earn as much as a kid graduating with a college degree. There are statistics that quite clearly spell out what the difference is in income over a person's lifetime when they have a degree.
Because a man can't handle having a partner who is smarter than he is? What petty individuals they would have to be.It's gotten to the point where more women get degrees than men, which isn't good for mate-selection issues.
There are a lot of decent-paying fields that don't require a degree. Many of them require some sort of vocational training. Electricians, plumbers, and carpenters can earn more than school teachers. Not everyone is cut out to sell real estate, but some people excel at it. There are computer roles that one can get by studying Microsoft or other companies' materials and earning certifications.
It's gotten to the point where more women get degrees than men, which isn't good for mate-selection issues.
I don't understand the idea of someone saying "we don't ascribe to _____ ideology", then conducting a lifestyle that models that same ideology, the refusal of some to say "yes, they might be that way, even though they don't specifically say so".
If I say "I am not a vegetarian", but all I eat is vegetables...
The Duggars may not be part of the "quiverfull" movement, or be aligned with Gothard, but if one adopts the ways of a particular group's ideology...
how are they adopting the groups ideology? They say, they are simple applying the bible to their lives.
It may not be fair to call them "Gothardites" if they aren't affiliated, but to recognize similar behavior is another matter.
Because a man can't handle having a partner who is smarter than he is? What petty individuals they would have to be.
I don't think it has to do with a woman being smarter. My husband would be the first to admit that I know more than him in certain areas and I would say the same for him. I think it becomes a matter when a man doesn't feel respected. Men are designed to lead and be protectors of their families. When a woman makes him feel as if he is not needed....he loses his purpose. I've seen it happen many times, but I've also seen many women with careers who still respect their husband, even if they are the 'breadwinner'. It can work, I believe, if both the man and the woman are working for each other's good and realizes each other's needs. Mean need to feel respect and women need emotion.
Nobody here has looked down their noses at SAHMs, and there is a quite opposite trend actually where SAHMs look down their noses at career moms. What women need to do is support each other, regardless of their choice. It's just as silly and petty as judging a woman who didn't breast feed, or a woman who didn't have a natural birth, or whatever other little petty categories we want to place each other into. I don't see the point and I don't care about any of it.
I think I can say, for the first time, that I actually agree with you. I despise mommy wars. However, I do not agree that there are more sahm looking down in working mothers tho. I think it's the same. Just this week at the pediatricians office, the nurse asked my daughter what she wanted to be when she grew up and if she wanted to do what mommy does. She didn't know I was a sahm. When my daughter told her that mommy was a sahm and a homeschooling mom, nurse immediately degraded me-in front of my child. ( I had a polite response.). As if it is so low that she felt she need not encourage my child. Granted, my daughter is 9 and I am sure she will change her mind a million times of what she wants to be. My point is that, I have not met many working moms who think what I do is okay or worthy. A few friends, but not many.
I care that both genders get equal opportunities - that a girl gets the same opportunities as her brother.
Submissive wife for instance. <snip> My husband is head of our home and I am submissive, but that doesn't mean he's my boss. Media and naysayers distort it.
They also, as the link I posted shows, use all of the language and concepts of quiverful.
Why is it a female's job to stop males from lusting? I thought that females were supposed to follow, not lead? Why isn't the male turning off the tv so that he won't lust? To my knowledge, we are to each of us, individually - in fear and trembling - seek our own salvation. I don't seek my husband's for him, he doesn't seek mine for me. Why is a girl seeking for her brother's salvation.A Duggar girl stands in front of TV to keep the boys from seeing something that might invoke lust. How is this exclusively 'quiverful'? Maybe from the eyes of a liberal secular feminist whose only exposure to Christianity was through the quiverful movement, it might seem that way. But all Christians have in their Bible that Jesus said if a man looks after a woman to lust after her, he has committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Men must be very weak creatures if their very purpose is shaken because their wife has more qualifications.I don't think it has to do with a woman being smarter. My husband would be the first to admit that I know more than him in certain areas and I would say the same for him. I think it becomes a matter when a man doesn't feel respected. Men are designed to lead and be protectors of their families. When a woman makes him feel as if he is not needed....he loses his purpose. I've seen it happen many times, but I've also seen many women with careers who still respect their husband, even if they are the 'breadwinner'. It can work, I believe, if both the man and the woman are working for each other's good and realizes each other's needs. Mean need to feel respect and women need emotion.
I didn't say "more" SAHM looking down at working moms, just that it happens. I find it all a waste of time - and nobody should degrade you to your children.I think I can say, for the first time, that I actually agree with you. I despise mommy wars. However, I do not agree that there are more sahm looking down in working mothers tho. I think it's the same. Just this week at the pediatricians office, the nurse asked my daughter what she wanted to be when she grew up and if she wanted to do what mommy does. She didn't know I was a sahm. When my daughter told her that mommy was a sahm and a homeschooling mom, nurse immediately degraded me-in front of my child. ( I had a polite response.). As if it is so low that she felt she need not encourage my child. Granted, my daughter is 9 and I am sure she will change her mind a million times of what she wants to be. My point is that, I have not met many working moms who think what I do is okay or worthy. A few friends, but not many.
Glad you brought this up, because here's a perfect example. This is an issue that caught significant attention and interest due to the work of John Piper and Wayne Grudem. They are significant proponents of the "complementarian" model of marriage, and they rely on scriptural interpretation and personal anecdotes to support their position.
Now - you've said nothing about Piper or Grudem. Does that mean that your marriage is not complementarian? Media and naysayers distort nothing.
Men must be very weak creatures if their very purpose is shaken because their wife has more qualifications.
And you're wrong about men and women. I very much need respect, and my husband very much needs affection. We all need both to function. Perhaps it would be okay for your husband to be "emotional" to you (whatever that means) but treat you disrespectfully. It's not okay for me. Men and women aren't cookie cutter creatures where all men x, and all women y.
I know very little about them, we live accordingly to Ephesians 5. What's your point? Are we going to be attacked for following them as well?
I know very little about them, we live accordingly to Ephesians 5. What's your point?
Where have I attacked anyone?Are we going to be attacked for following them as well?
LOL. Whatever. I'm simply responding to what I read. Most people don't get bent out of shape by such discussions.
That is my point. Shall I say you are not complementarian because you know very little about them?
Where have I attacked anyone?
Btw, my wife and I also live according to Ephesians 5 and are Egalitarian. Shall we be attacked now?