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That's great, wildthing. how'd you meet, then -- or "re-meet"? (If you don't mind my asking...
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wildthing
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We somehow meet at a different church. We started to compare what each singles group was doing and I invited her to come to an outreach that we are having the next weekend. We went and worked on boxing food up for the needy. The idea was to have her meet a friend of mine. My pal didn't show up we started talking end up going for some ice cream there after.
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Ice Cream, did someone say ice cream? Mmmm so tasty, especially with whip cream on top. Yummy.
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AirForceTeacher
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Ice Cream, did someone say ice cream? Mmmm so tasty, especially with whip cream on top. Yummy.
Mature Singles Ice Cream Social!!!!
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dayhiker
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love all the flavors one can get now ... used to have to go to Baskin Robins to get unusual flavors ...
Luckly there was one not too far from the college I went to years ago... grin
Luckly there was one not too far from the college I went to years ago... grin
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In response to the OP: I wouldn't call my life "abundant"...I would call it "blessed" though. I think my idea of an abundant life would require 1) a husband and 2) money. Not millions of dollars and a yacht, don't misunderstand me lol. But to just be able to pay the bills, buy Christmas gifts, go on an occasional trip...that would feel much more "abundant" to me. And as much as I love and adore my son and my family...there's a huge hole waiting for a husband to fill it.
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I hear you, Inkabink! I'm blessed too, but sometimes I wish I were building a life together with someone, not just living my solo life. I'm invested in friends and family, of course, but it's not the same constancy or intimacy.
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Zoooma
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Free time and music is about all I have an abundance of. That's not necessarily a positive, it's just a fact.
My life in single solitude is devoid of true joy. Somehow my faith remains strong and Jesus is the rock that keeps me alive. But for what? God had a glorious plan for my life. He gave me a wonderful, smart, sexy woman who was to be my wife and a beautiful little girl who was to be my daughter. But evil intervened and I'm left stranded in a vacuum. I spend time in God's Word but it doesn't change anything. I pray but nothing changes. I try to live to please the Lord but nothing changes. There's honestly no reason for me to wake up tomorrow.
By nature I'm a hopeful person so I cling to the tiniest shred of hope that things will change. What if nothing does change? I'm exhausted from so much darkness and sadness. My feelings are especially weighed down knowing this isn't what should be. THIS ISN'T WHO I AM. I should be blessed and loving life and enjoying the ups and downs of being part of a family. I should be raising a godly daughter and watching her grow up. What a glorious abundance of happiness there should be. That can't be replaced. Being single is a curse in this case and I have no control over it. It's almost like Groundhog Day but without the prospect for a happy ending. And honestly I can't see going on like this forever.
I'm glad some people can get through their single days and weeks just fine. But there are others who are doomed.
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HisdaughterJen
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My heart goes out to you. You aren't alone. What happened?
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Apeleutheros
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I've been single for awhile before, and all throughout my saved life (6 years or so). I think it doesn't really bother me much for the most part. He keeps me from temptation, and lust isn't an overwhelming issue with me. Being single isn't bad, in fact it's a blessing in a way. Part of me likes to think that because of the things I did in my past (sinful relationships and blech/puke) that it is best for me to be alone. Really I hold together good, and have the Lord's peace... but then again I can feel a pull on me like I would like a partner.
I'm sort of the isolated type. Though I'm involved in ministry, I like to run off and be by myself... study by myself, pray by myself. All of my most intimate times with the Lord have always been when I've been alone. And I am thankful for that, but also I experience times where it's harder than others.
I've started a bible reading plan, and in the bible plan there's a section meant for families to read together and talk about the chapter. I thought how beautiful it would be to have a family that could actually do something like that... yea and then I get all sentimental and gross and have to rebuke myself and wash off the coodies as I gag.
Honestly, jokes aside, I have to confess it caused me to feel kinda cast down. Like I'm missing out, but then it's probably like one of those fairy tale thoughts that never actually happen in real life, but make a person get all starry eyed when they think about it.
Anyways, I don't want to be one of the whiny pathetic "I'm so lonely" types, and really, the occasional heaviness isn't a serious issue. To answer the OP, "yes, I do have an abundant life in the Lord... and it's amazing!" I only wish I would be more grateful for it, and count my blessings more than I do. Because when I pause and see what He has done and is doing: I am in awe. He gives me more than I can ask or even think, and He does it in a way and in the time that I need it most.
In Christ,
Shaun
I'm sort of the isolated type. Though I'm involved in ministry, I like to run off and be by myself... study by myself, pray by myself. All of my most intimate times with the Lord have always been when I've been alone. And I am thankful for that, but also I experience times where it's harder than others.
I've started a bible reading plan, and in the bible plan there's a section meant for families to read together and talk about the chapter. I thought how beautiful it would be to have a family that could actually do something like that... yea and then I get all sentimental and gross and have to rebuke myself and wash off the coodies as I gag.
Honestly, jokes aside, I have to confess it caused me to feel kinda cast down. Like I'm missing out, but then it's probably like one of those fairy tale thoughts that never actually happen in real life, but make a person get all starry eyed when they think about it.
Anyways, I don't want to be one of the whiny pathetic "I'm so lonely" types, and really, the occasional heaviness isn't a serious issue. To answer the OP, "yes, I do have an abundant life in the Lord... and it's amazing!" I only wish I would be more grateful for it, and count my blessings more than I do. Because when I pause and see what He has done and is doing: I am in awe. He gives me more than I can ask or even think, and He does it in a way and in the time that I need it most.
In Christ,
Shaun
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JohnDB
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There are times I wish to be alone...and I simply can't get there.
My life is rather full and always interesting.
Every meal seems a bit like a banquet (even if it is just hot dogs)
Every gathering a throng of a party...even when it is just a few friends accidentily meeting and hanging out.
Every small thing I accomplish seems to be a huge victory...even when it is simply paying the rent.
And when I find love....even if it is temporary and she leaves...it was still wonderful and wouldn't change a thing.
For me,
I can't say that I have a whole lot of regrets....not that I don't admit that I have made mistakes....I have made some whoppers.
But
The part where an old guy sits back and says, "I wish I would have....." or "I should have...."
That ain't gonna be me at all....cause I have done soooo much. I never really set out to do them either. They just kinda came along and I took advantage of the opportunities that befell me. Some of the opportunities I have purposefully made...
Granted this has caused my life to be somewhat unstable and unpredictable....
and that is not an attractant for members of the opposite sex.
BUT....I have loved and lost...
My life has been extremely full.
To me...
There are many worse things than dying young. I want no part in any of them.
My life is rather full and always interesting.
Every meal seems a bit like a banquet (even if it is just hot dogs)
Every gathering a throng of a party...even when it is just a few friends accidentily meeting and hanging out.
Every small thing I accomplish seems to be a huge victory...even when it is simply paying the rent.
And when I find love....even if it is temporary and she leaves...it was still wonderful and wouldn't change a thing.
For me,
I can't say that I have a whole lot of regrets....not that I don't admit that I have made mistakes....I have made some whoppers.
But
The part where an old guy sits back and says, "I wish I would have....." or "I should have...."
That ain't gonna be me at all....cause I have done soooo much. I never really set out to do them either. They just kinda came along and I took advantage of the opportunities that befell me. Some of the opportunities I have purposefully made...
Granted this has caused my life to be somewhat unstable and unpredictable....
and that is not an attractant for members of the opposite sex.
BUT....I have loved and lost...
My life has been extremely full.
To me...
There are many worse things than dying young. I want no part in any of them.
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I've been single for 8 years. The first part of that was spent raising my then teen daughter and working hard to support us both. I didn't take the time to make alot of friends because I was just really busy. I dated a little, but not much.
Then one day I looked around and my daughter was grown and I was all alone. I cried about it for awhile, and then I set out very consciously to not only expand my friendships, but to also do something FUN for myself at least once or twice a week.
I purposed to meet people and make new friends. I joined the singles group at church, I joined the choir, I joined a gym, I participate in some of the singles events at church, I invite people to lunch or dinner or the movies, I go to an art class.
I have really focused on making women friends because I wanted to first do something about the loneliness and bring JOY back into my life - joy of simple interactions with wonderful ladies. Women are FUN!
I also figured if God is going to bring a new man in my life, I want to be a whole person, happy within myself - which I believe is much more attractive to a man that is also a whole person happy within himself.
And if He doesn't bring a man into my life - I am still a joy-filled person! I've only gained from this time in my life because I made a choice to change and grow. It isn't the same as being married and having that closeness with a special man - no doubt about it, but I am moving in the right direction.
I also feel that by BEING a friend, I am ministering to other women in my same position who are initially more timid than I am and who would remain isolated and lonely. God can use all of us to help another person in our same boat.
Praying for all of us singles - that we would be the people that God created us to be for His glory.
Then one day I looked around and my daughter was grown and I was all alone. I cried about it for awhile, and then I set out very consciously to not only expand my friendships, but to also do something FUN for myself at least once or twice a week.
I purposed to meet people and make new friends. I joined the singles group at church, I joined the choir, I joined a gym, I participate in some of the singles events at church, I invite people to lunch or dinner or the movies, I go to an art class.
I have really focused on making women friends because I wanted to first do something about the loneliness and bring JOY back into my life - joy of simple interactions with wonderful ladies. Women are FUN!
I also figured if God is going to bring a new man in my life, I want to be a whole person, happy within myself - which I believe is much more attractive to a man that is also a whole person happy within himself.
And if He doesn't bring a man into my life - I am still a joy-filled person! I've only gained from this time in my life because I made a choice to change and grow. It isn't the same as being married and having that closeness with a special man - no doubt about it, but I am moving in the right direction.
I also feel that by BEING a friend, I am ministering to other women in my same position who are initially more timid than I am and who would remain isolated and lonely. God can use all of us to help another person in our same boat.
Praying for all of us singles - that we would be the people that God created us to be for His glory.
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