I've been single for 8 years. The first part of that was spent raising my then teen daughter and working hard to support us both. I didn't take the time to make alot of friends because I was just really busy. I dated a little, but not much.
Then one day I looked around and my daughter was grown and I was all alone. I cried about it for awhile, and then I set out very consciously to not only expand my friendships, but to also do something FUN for myself at least once or twice a week.
I purposed to meet people and make new friends. I joined the singles group at church, I joined the choir, I joined a gym, I participate in some of the singles events at church, I invite people to lunch or dinner or the movies, I go to an art class.
I have really focused on making women friends because I wanted to first do something about the loneliness and bring JOY back into my life - joy of simple interactions with wonderful ladies. Women are FUN!
I also figured if God is going to bring a new man in my life, I want to be a whole person, happy within myself - which I believe is much more attractive to a man that is also a whole person happy within himself.
And if He doesn't bring a man into my life - I am still a joy-filled person! I've only gained from this time in my life because I made a choice to change and grow. It isn't the same as being married and having that closeness with a special man - no doubt about it, but I am moving in the right direction.
I also feel that by BEING a friend, I am ministering to other women in my same position who are initially more timid than I am and who would remain isolated and lonely. God can use all of us to help another person in our same boat.
Praying for all of us singles - that we would be the people that God created us to be for His glory.
