Homosexual Son

[Emmylouwho]

The medical usually say there's a slight chance with cuts, sores, etc

Slight chance means a lot if you are "that slight chance."

Then you really shouldn’t eat at restaurants. Or ride on a train or a bus. Or take a cab. Or pump gas. Or open a door. I think you get my point.

 

[JohnAshton]

I don't think the family members should ever leave home.

 

[Emmylouwho]

I don't think the family members should ever leave home.

Or receive mail. Or touch money. Egads! Lots of germs on money.

 

[bekkilyn]

I don't think the family members should ever leave home.

I know for a fact that schools are filled to the brim with cootie contamination.

 

[JohnAshton]

So much germs on library books. Hymn books!

 

[Emmylouwho]

I know for a fact that schools are filled to the brim with cootie contamination.

Still? I remember being “Sprayed For Life” against cooties almost 50 years ago. I hope I’m still safe.

 

[bekkilyn]

Still? I remember being “Sprayed For Life” against cooties almost 50 years ago. I hope I’m still safe.

Bigger, stronger, faster, and even bionic strains are always popping up where you least suspect!

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

***Quick Preface*** Hi everyone, my wife and I are trying to find some answers to a very politically and socially charged question. We have a son that has moved out decided that he is not a Christian, etc... and informed us that he is choosing to live a bi-sexual, non-monogamous, lifestyle. We have 5 other children at home and have talked in depth with them from young ages about sexuality, god's design for sex, etc... This question is not about showing him we disapprove of his lifestyle, or punishing him for his choices, etc...

***Concern*** We are concerned about sexually transmitted diseases and infections. When we read online medical commentary that is talking to parents (or people not living this kind of lifestyle) it all says there is VERY little risk, of another person getting an STD / STI. BUT... When you read medical advice for the person that is having sex with multiple partners, of different genders there is all kinds of medical advice from pretty liberal sources (like planned parenthood) that says STI / STD's can be transmitted via touch with or without open cuts (if someone has touched their genitals, not washed hands well after using the bathroom, etc), via saliva (i.e. on dishes, countertops, etc...), using the same bathtub, laundry, etc... We are concerned about having our son come stay in our home. When he lived here he did not follow our rules (he would sneak pornography into the home etc...) We do not feel that he would follow any guidelines or rules that we ask if he comes to visit.

***Question*** Do we NOT have him come home for holidays and visits? If so, how do we keep our other children safe from STD's / STI's?

The medical concerns are real, and more important than people realize,
but
the spiritual concerns/ darkness/ being a stumbling block as an unrepentant disobedient sinner is much greater throughout all Scripture.

Remember that any son requires "scourging" to be a son, as written in God's Word.
Seek the Father diligently concerning His Word, His Directions.

 

[eleos1954]

***Quick Preface*** Hi everyone, my wife and I are trying to find some answers to a very politically and socially charged question. We have a son that has moved out decided that he is not a Christian, etc... and informed us that he is choosing to live a bi-sexual, non-monogamous, lifestyle. We have 5 other children at home and have talked in depth with them from young ages about sexuality, god's design for sex, etc... This question is not about showing him we disapprove of his lifestyle, or punishing him for his choices, etc...

***Concern*** We are concerned about sexually transmitted diseases and infections. When we read online medical commentary that is talking to parents (or people not living this kind of lifestyle) it all says there is VERY little risk, of another person getting an STD / STI. BUT... When you read medical advice for the person that is having sex with multiple partners, of different genders there is all kinds of medical advice from pretty liberal sources (like planned parenthood) that says STI / STD's can be transmitted via touch with or without open cuts (if someone has touched their genitals, not washed hands well after using the bathroom, etc), via saliva (i.e. on dishes, countertops, etc...), using the same bathtub, laundry, etc... We are concerned about having our son come stay in our home. When he lived here he did not follow our rules (he would sneak pornography into the home etc...) We do not feel that he would follow any guidelines or rules that we ask if he comes to visit.

***Question*** Do we NOT have him come home for holidays and visits? If so, how do we keep our other children safe from STD's / STI's?

We are all exposed to these and many other diseases by interacting with society. Whatever "house rules" you have in place ... do you enforce all of them with anyone that stays in your home? Do you require everyone entering your home to wash their hands and make sure they do so? If you shake hands with someone have you asked them if they have washed their hands ... do you ask all who enter your home or interact with what their sexual preferences are etc.? Every door knob, shopping cart, plates, utensils at restaurants, people preparing your food etc. you touch has the same possibility.

Did Jesus ignore lepars?

He's your son ... you can either love him ... or completely remove him from your lives.

Please be very prayerful about this.

 

[Bro. Dave Gardner]

He's your son ... you can either love him ... or completely remove him from your lives.

Psychologists call this kind of reasoning "all-or-nothing thinking." It's normal for this day and age, but far from optimal for emotional intelligence standards.

 

[Bro. Dave Gardner]

Hopefully, the OP has been wise enough to run far away from us long ere this.

 

[Emmylouwho]

Hopefully, the OP has been wise enough to run far away from us long ere this.

We don’t even know if his son WANTS to come home for the holidays. OP could be working himself up for naught.

 

[eleos1954]

Psychologists call this kind of reasoning "all-or-nothing thinking." It's normal for this day and age, but far from optimal for emotional intelligence standards.

It was meant to get a point across, to be thought provoking .... ie how many "rules" can they make .. and is that even reasonable ... when every day they (we are all) "exposed" to the same "threat" in society itself.

 

[Bro. Dave Gardner]

The potential exposure to germs. That’s what the OP is concerned about. Exposing children to his son’s presence is no more dangerous than using a public bathroom, or eating in a restaurant.

Which is why I try to avoid the use of restaurants and public facilities. The poor young man has admitted to his parents faces that he intends to venture out and pursue recklessness, unhealthy activity.

 

[Emmylouwho]

Which is why I try to avoid the use of restaurants and public facilities. The poor young man has admitted to his parents faces that he intends to venture out and pursue recklessness, unhealthy activity.

Do you venture out of the house at all? Do you have a job?

 

[Bro. Dave Gardner]

I can't believe the turn this thread has taken.

 

[pgp_protector]

Or receive mail. Or touch money. Egads! Lots of germs on money.

You don't want to know where those $1 bills have been.

 

[Emmylouwho]

I can't believe the turn this thread has taken.

You kinda took it there, Bro.

 

[Emmylouwho]

You don't want to know where those $1 bills have been.

Not to mention all the cocaine on those larger bills.

 

[Fatherofseven]

So far its some of the best advice we have gotten! Thank you.