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Hi Taylor :wave: I'm Wendy and a struggling alcoholic.

So glad you stopped by Taylor! :hug:

We truly all need help :) And you will find support, encouragement and a good place to put your thoughts, fears and victories (big or small :) ) down.

The people here are great! :groupray:

'Pulling' for you Taylor!

PS...sometimes this place is busy...other times not so much...but post as much or as llittle as you want ANYTIME !!!:)

With Love and :hug: s,
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Hi my name is Taylor and i am a alcholic. I am feeling low tonight i admit i need help to overcome this. I went 2 years til this past month. I have a counsellor and a pdoc feel a loser for hiding a month. I have to come clean to my proffessionals on Sunday or a caring friend will intervene for me. I am so scared but i want to enjoy life agian and not depend on this substance. Sorry for going on and i am glad this forum is here
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Hey Taylor, :wave: Sorry to hear you're having trouble. But, honesty is always a great help to people like us and now you've told us what has happened. Things will probably get better much quicker than if you were alone with the secret. I hope you keep dropping by to share with us. remember, "it's not about will power, it's about want power.:idea:
 
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Hi my name is Taylor and i am a alcholic. I am feeling low tonight i admit i need help to overcome this. I went 2 years til this past month. I have a counsellor and a pdoc feel a loser for hiding a month. I have to come clean to my proffessionals on Sunday or a caring friend will intervene for me. I am so scared but i want to enjoy life agian and not depend on this substance. Sorry for going on and i am glad this forum is here
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Taylor

Hi taylor and welcome to the thread! :wave:

Opening up and being honest about something that we dont want folks to know is a scary thing indeed. But in my opinion its probably the most important thing in one's sobriety - being honest with others and especially with yourself.

there are good folks here in the recovery forum that care and have experience in sobriety that will love to share with you.:thumbsup:

Again, welcome. :)
 
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Hey Norm,

Did ya burn the turkey?

nope! it came out just great. soaked it over night in a terryake marinade - gave it a good flavor. then today rubbed it with herbs/garlic salt and wallah! got leftovers if anyone is coming over.

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And guys actually care about calories????? :scratch:

at my age, I time to time tend to suffer from Dunlap Syndrome - eat too much and my belly dun lapped over my belt....so I try to watch the calories so I dont wind up with the body of a diety - such as buddha....:p

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What movie did ya watch??

went to the store this morning and next to it is Hollywood Video. they was having a sale on used DVDs and so I got Mr and Mrs Smith (Pitt/Jolene), Saw ll and the Four Brothers for 15 bucks!. Watched Mr and Mrs Smith tonight. For the plot, of course, not because of Angelina Jolene.....;)

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An inquiring mind :scratch:

inquiring minds are good - its biblical, ya know. sais in James 4 "yet ye have not because ye ask not....". a little out of context but I still like to think it applies.

And its all good! why? because I am sober, I will wake tomorrow with a full belly, a slight (well, define slight) case of gas and full memory of where I was last night and what I did. 3 Thanskgivings ago I was so bombed I was more toasted than the turkey.

Now, am gettin tired.... too much of that sleep thing you get from eating turkey I guess.:yawn:
 
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Hey Norm, saw you hanging about. are you still here?

hey! yeah, still here for a litle bit. is it just me or CF runnin slow on the refreshing/posts tonight? takes forever for a reply to post (am on DSL).

but I am good.:)

how you be? :wave:
 
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Really got the blues, man. I'm in Fla. Probably seeing my father for the last time. He is dying of cancer. Lots of mixed feelings going on. Really been thru alot with this man. He is not one of us. Just a real John Wayne with the family. Went thru the whole forgivenness thing with him a long time ago. But lots of old emotions surfacing.
 
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Really got the blues, man. I'm in Fla. Probably seeing my father for the last time. He is dying of cancer. Lots of mixed feelings going on. Really been thru alot with this man. He is not one of us. Just a real John Wayne with the family. Went thru the whole forgivenness thing with him a long time ago. But lots of old emtions surfacing.

oh wow, man. I am so sorry. allow me to give you a cyber hug :hug: and my thoughts.

I assume theres family/friends there you are with so your not alone? checked out any meetings? I can totally understand the old memories/emotions thing. sometimes tho its a sign that not all has been resolved. least wise with me I find that out.

am in teh same thing with my dad. havent alked about here but he has cancer and is in a holding pattern right now with some new chemo treatment but we didnt think he would make it this far. but there is a lot of old crap that I dont know will ever really get resolved. we dont really talk. he has his life and I have mine and once/twice a year he might call. maybe.

but I do wish you well and strength right now. if I was a praying guy, I would pray for Him to be the Comfort He sais He is to His people.

my thoughts are with you.
 
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One thing thats ben on my mind here is when you (meaning anyone) comes to the alcohol recoery section, theres the list of all the trheads, the title of it then the name of the last poster, then theres a block with the number of total posts in that thread with a block that shows total views.

when you go to a specific thread, click on the total number of people that posted, a window will appear of all the names that have posted in that thread.

Like in AA meetings when you dont see a face that has been there, you wonder how that person is doing, where they are at in their sobriety, etc. same here when i click on that block that shows all who posted here in this thread. A lot of names that I dont see here anymore or much at all.

I do wonder how they are, if they are ok, still sober, didnt find support here, moved on, moved out, etc. I am sure some are doing ok and just dont post for whatever reason but I hope the others are ok.

I think about these things a lot and as we say in the meetings, I take a moment to think of those that still struggle and are not with us right now.
 
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oh wow, man. I am so sorry. allow me to give you a cyber hug :hug: and my thoughts.

I assume theres family/friends there you are with so your not alone? checked out any meetings? I can totally understand the old memories/emotions thing. sometimes tho its a sign that not all has been resolved. least wise with me I find that out.

am in teh same thing with my dad. havent alked about here but he has cancer and is in a holding pattern right now with some new chemo treatment but we didnt think he would make it this far. but there is a lot of old crap that I dont know will ever really get resolved. we dont really talk. he has his life and I have mine and once/twice a year he might call. maybe.

but I do wish you well and strength right now. if I was a praying guy, I would pray for Him to be the Comfort He sais He is to His people.

my thoughts are with you.
All of the family is here. really not thinking drinking or anything. Just seems strange that this guy I was terrified of for so long, is dying. The physical interaction was really dramatic when we were young to the point of him being arrested for beating my brothers and I bloody with a bullwhip. One of many simialr incidents. When I was seventeen, I walked into a mental hospital and told them to lock me up because I was sure that there was something terrible wrong with me. He always said there was, you know. But I discovered good whiskey around that time and things moved on. anyway, I'm just rambling on . I probably should try to get some sleep. Jet lag you know.:wave:
 
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All of the family is here. really not thinking drinking or anything. Just seems strange that this guy I was terrified of for so long, is dying. The physical interaction was really dramatic when we were young to the point of him being arrested for beating my brothers and I bloody with a bullwhip. One of many simialr incidents. When I was seventeen, I walked into a mental hospital and told them to lock me up because I was sure that there was something terrible wrong with me. He always said there was, you know. But I discovered good whiskey around that time and things moved on. anyway, I'm just rambling on . I probably should try to get some sleep. Jet lag you know.:wave:

sleep is a good counselor at times. may seemfunny coming from me but theres a verse I have shared with another here that I felt held a promise when things got hard - Pr 18:10 - For the name of the Lord is a strong tower and the righteous runneth into and are safe.

for whats it worth....

good night and you take care.
 
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Hey, just to say I sure feel better after getting some sleep. I know someone somewhere was praying. I could feel it when I woke up. Well, off to another round of visting. I will report back tonight. And thanks for the company last night Norm.

Am glad you got some rest and your spirit is refreshed. No problemo about staying up last night - its my pleasure. and theres no doubt in my recovering mind you would do the same for me.:thumbsup:
 
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just sittin here with thoughts goin thru the grey matter. first off, had a huge panick attack last night and thru this morning. I bought a $200 dvd recorcer/vcr combo several months ago and it took a dump last night. still under warranty but need the receipt. guess what I couldnt find?????? tore my whole room apart looking for it. This morning I went thru some shoe boxes where I sotred old letters, photos, things associated with my past drinking and drugging when I was down south.

as I took the time to reflect on each note or photo and then the memory of that time or incident, I had to look at where I am at now and being sober and straight. My loife aint what I would prefer at this time and losing that receipt and the dvd/vcr going out took me to a frame of mind that I dont like - one that showed me i still got more "growing in my program to do" - I sit here now and can say that, true, I am not whre I would like to be yet but am sure a long ways from I was once.

A lot of those letters/photos/etc are in the trash now.

And I found that receipt about an hour ago.

Another thing that has been really ehavy on my mind (shared this with a friend here on CF) - I been out of the Army since Dec '00. My career went down hill about as far as one can go and my drinking led to my eventual dischrage shy of 2 yrs to retirement. Have mentioned this before.

I got a lot of memories of my career - some good, some pretty good and a lot that aint so good and some real bad.

It has bothered me how I got out and the way I got out and becoming a civilian.

This past Wednesday, about 3pm, my phone rang (the boss let all of us off early). It was a National Guard recriuter wanting to know if i wanted to come back in, do at least 2 yrs and get my reserve retirement (wont se it till age 62 or so) BUT just the idea of being back. We talked for a bit afte the shock of the idea and confirming it wasnt a prank call after all these years being out.

Many things to consider - my health - aint what it use to be - age, recovering in my sobreity, etc.

He said he will look into it and call me back to see if theres even a chance. I aint holding my breath about it being "yes' but its been heavy on my mind. Iraq came up and I told him I would go if it was to be but i figger I would be assigned to some local unit to repolace someone who went.

My oldest son should find out oif his appeal to the charges that will send him to prison will be considered or not this Monday. If not, he goes to prison.

My next younger son got caught smokin pot at school couple weeks ago and his mom who is a single christian mother is pulling her hair. he just dont care she sais. "You did drugs" he told me on the phone when I called and did my "dad" thing......

Sigh.....

Just got some things on my mind today.

BUT... I am SOBER and CLEAN today!! in some ways, not much else matters at this point except am i going back in? is my kid going to prison? is my other one on his way?

dontcha just love it! :p

Once again, I really do appreciate everyone who posts here and shares, encourages, supports, opens up, allows me to be their friend and get to know their lives.:wave:
 
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Because of a very dear friend, who shared how much better she feels after being honest with her struggles and assurance that I'm loved and accepted.....

Friday...I picked up a 4 pack after dropping Nolan off at work. Yep the day was one I haven't experienced yet and the evening wasn't much better. Excuses???? No because there are NONE! For a while the buzz felt good...but of course while it wore off...I began to ask myself if I would make stupid choices like this for the rest of my life...this playing with fire and not thinking I'm going to get burnt.

I've suffered today physically and emotionally due to Friday nite....and slept most the day away....is it worth it??? NO!!!

Anyways...just wanted to share this with people who could understand...people I consider my friends.

Wendy
 
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Well typical, my first reaction is thank God I'm not the only one going thru the mill. But I'm really feeling much better about things. Wendy, My sponsor always says you aren't thru until you have had enough. I guess the answer is how much can you take? How much shame- how much degradation can a person take? Thats what I remember most about my early failures - the shame that I had let everyone down, my children most of all. I remember I had promised them that we would go to the beach one weekend and I got drunk friday night. Saturday morning I had a massive hangover and was trying to get out of the trip when, my 5 yr old daughter went to the [wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth]. and got a beer. She came back and threw it at me and said well here, just drink then. Bad day! So, when you get sick and tired of being sick and tired it gets a lot easier. I always said I didn't want to drink any more. But, I didn't want to drink any less either. The B.B says that after doing a few simple things, we found it easy to control our desire for alcohol. Blessed, Jim
 
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Thanks Jim.

I guess my problem is...it doesn't 'affect' anyone, perse. My guys are teens and not at home. My h is gone most of the time, I have no committments, and I always was a 'loner' drinker.

I guess because I don't even drink a quarter of what I used to (when I slip...think I'm begining to hate that word) ...and don't do the drugs anymore...I don't/haven't 'suffered' enough. I don't 'plan' to, just sometimes...I just do????

I guess not telling my family about my 'slips', there's only the shame with me???

I'll have to check out the BB to see those few things I must do.

wendy
 
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Hi everyone! I am stopping by to say what will probbly be goodbye for a while. I am planning on moving Nov. 30th. My apt. won't be ready until then.

I had to go back through and read everything and I hate I won't be here to share with you all. Maybe I will be in a position soon to get hooked up to the internet.

May everyone be blessed and I love you all.

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Hi everyone! I am stopping by to say what will probbly be goodbye for a while. I am planning on moving Nov. 30th. My apt. won't be ready until then.

I had to go back through and read everything and I hate I won't be here to share with you all. Maybe I will be in a position soon to get hooked up to the internet.

May everyone be blessed and I love you all.

Brandy

Brandy :hug:

I'm going to miss you big time!

I hope you can 'get hooked up' to the net soon. Hope that's not being selfish...

With Love and :hug: s,
Wendy
 
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