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Um...yeah! How about dessert? Hubby'll smoke a brisket and some ribs. I think I can do a salad without messing it up to bad.
YESTERDAY....
TODAY and TOMORROW
There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.
One of these days is YESTERDAY with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. YESTERDAY has passed forever beyond our control.
All the money in the world cannot bring back YESTERDAY. We cannot undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word we said. YESTERDAY is gone.
The other day we should not worry about is TOMORROW with its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise and poor performance. TOMORROW is also beyond our immediate control.
TOMORROW'S sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds - but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in TOMORROW, for it is as yet unborn.
This leaves only one day - TODAY - Any man can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities YESTERDAY and TOMORROW that we break down.
It is not the experience of TODAY that drives men mad - it is remorse or bitterness for something which happened YESTERDAY and the dread of what TOMORROW may bring.
Let us, therefore, live but one day at a time.
Step 8 & 9 are about making amends, not just saying I am sorry. For me that meant a change in lifestyle and changes in relations with others.
Here is a quote from the Big Book on making amends:
"There may be some wrongs we can never fully right. We don't worry about them if we can honestly say to ourselves that we would right them if we could. Some people cannot be seen - we send them an honest letter. And there may be a valid reason for postponement in some cases. But we don't delay if it can be avoided. We should be sensible, tactful, considerate and humble without being servile or scraping. As God's people we stand on our feet; we don't crawl before anyone." page 83.
I think we all go through this stage of our development, I know I did. But as long as I continue on the journey I will overcome that which stands between me and being happy, joyous and free.
hmmmm, lets seee - some oysters on the coals, asparagus in a light olive oil (seasoned with lemon/garlic salt and pepper of course) wrapped in aluminum foil off to the side, corn on the cob with herb/butter dip...
oh yeah!
plus some smoked salmon and smoked catfish as snacks.
this could be fun!
With a menu like that...who the heck would have room for desert???
Um...yeah! How about dessert? Hubby'll smoke a brisket and some ribs. I think I can do a salad without messing it up to bad.
Good to see everyone is healthy, wealthy and wise.
It makes a lot of sense. I have lately started taking my own things to drink when I go to someone's house. Fresca, caffiene free, sugar free and tart/sweet is my new found addiction. It's a comfortable, familiar taste that helps me get over the urge. One of my hosts once pressed me a to take a glass of homemade wine. I gave a little white lie, "I'm sorry. I'd love to try your wine, but I'm on a medication now that makes me ill if I have any alcohol."Since it's my first Christmas with out the alcohol, any tips on how to not have 'that drink' at the In Law's? I don't know why, but it seems different than keeping away from it during any other day... make sense?
Wendy, I think Lion of God hit it right on the money. If I were diabetic, I would not be ashamed to turn down sweets. I would simply say, I can't. No explanation nessesary. ( Told you I couldn't spell ) JimI think it makes sense to worry about it. My mom hasn't had any family around her for her first two Christmases not drinking. This year she is inviting us to visit her. It won't be a big deal as I don't really ever drink anyway and my sister is paranoid even an empty bottle around is in bad form around my mother.
Anyway, I don't have tips for you but I do wish you luck. I'm sure you'll know what you need to take care of yourself and hopefully your family will understand that.
Wendy, I think Lion of God hit it right on the money. If I were diabetic, I would not be ashamed to turn down sweets. I would simply say, I can't. No explanation nessesary. ( Told you I couldn't spell ) Jim
Yeah, I agree Jim...Lion of God is a very wise man.
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