im 15 and ive been questioning my sexuality. At first it was just a thought but i almost took my life because of it and eneded up in a mental hospital but now i know for sure now. I am bi but i want to change. I want to be with God and make it into heaven and i still want to be a christian. How do I go about doing this? can I change?
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Yes, you can change. Start by saying, "I'm not bisexual, I choose to be bisexual." You see, society has contioned people into thinking that they cannot rid themselves of homosexuallity or bisexuallity. The truth is, the drive to procreate is instinctual. Who you procreate with is a choice. If you're attracted to the same sex and don't want to be, then choose not to be! It's OK to admire the beauty/handsomeness of the same sex so long as that admiration doesn't become romantic nor sexual.
You need to realise that God created man to be with woman, not to be with both or only fellow man. If you're a man, you need to be with a woman. If you're a woman, you need to be with a man. That is the way God created the Human species. Man and woman complete each other. Man cannot complete another man, and woman cannot complete another woman. They can pretend, but in reallity they do not.
You need to understand that sex is for procreation first and foremost with male/female physical/spiritual unity as a secondary goal. The pleasure is an added bonus to ensure the continuation of Humanity. If you're not married, and you're not planning a pregnancy, you really shouldn't have sex at all nor be wanting to have sex with anyone.
Back to simple same-sex attraction... Is this attraction sexual? If it is, you can simply drill into your mind that it's wrong and think of something like Jesus or your mom to calm down those hormones. If it's a romantic attraction, just accept that you can't be romantic with the same sex, and... let it go...
You need to realise that God created man to be with woman, not to be with both or only fellow man. If you're a man, you need to be with a woman. If you're a woman, you need to be with a man. That is the way God created the Human species. Man and woman complete each other. Man cannot complete another man, and woman cannot complete another woman. They can pretend, but in reallity they do not.
You need to understand that sex is for procreation first and foremost with male/female physical/spiritual unity as a secondary goal. The pleasure is an added bonus to ensure the continuation of Humanity. If you're not married, and you're not planning a pregnancy, you really shouldn't have sex at all nor be wanting to have sex with anyone.
Back to simple same-sex attraction... Is this attraction sexual? If it is, you can simply drill into your mind that it's wrong and think of something like Jesus or your mom to calm down those hormones. If it's a romantic attraction, just accept that you can't be romantic with the same sex, and... let it go...
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Whatever you do, know that God's love won't diminish or decrease because you chose something you believe is wrong in his eyes.
Bi- and homosexual feelings aren't necessarily natural, and if viewed as such, are easier to rid, however, if you believe they are natural and want to stop, they think of it like trying to stop any other natural though process.
Humans naturally like to be violent, and have violent thoughts, though we supress this because of how we live now, they will always be there, but they can be supressed to the point that its very rare when we feel an overwhelming sense of wanting to cause violence, and even then, its more rare that we even do something.
again, this is if you truly believe that these feelings are natural...
Bi- and homosexual feelings aren't necessarily natural, and if viewed as such, are easier to rid, however, if you believe they are natural and want to stop, they think of it like trying to stop any other natural though process.
Humans naturally like to be violent, and have violent thoughts, though we supress this because of how we live now, they will always be there, but they can be supressed to the point that its very rare when we feel an overwhelming sense of wanting to cause violence, and even then, its more rare that we even do something.
again, this is if you truly believe that these feelings are natural...
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I havent told anyone i know and i really want to change but its really hard and its causing me alot of pain. To make things worse i have a history of self mutilation and clinical deppression. I seriously need prayer I WANT TO DESTROY MY SAME SEX ATTRACTION NO MATTER WHAT IT TAKES.Danielof the Island said:
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Danielof the Island said:
Its not that simple to say "I'm not bisexual" or "I'm not homosexual".
TheCrimsom, I wouldn't try to fight your orientation or the attraction. I myself am gay, but what you do need to fight is the lustful thoughts that will result from the attraction. I believe its ok to have that attraction and admiration of the same sex, just so long as it does not go any further than that. If you feel yourself thinking about that person and having fantasies etc etc you need to stop.
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Hey man, consider yourself lucky that you are attracted to women to, as I am more on the other side, only attracted to men sexually. So, just chose the hetero route, it's in God's plan. Recognize that God can change you, but that it may be your lot in life to always have those attractions. I've asked God numerous times to eliminate the same sex feelings and they don't go away. It's part of my life, who I am. Does that mean I can't overcome them? Of course not. Having dominion over sin is different than disappearing sin. I'm sure you ask any solid Christian man that is married and he will tell you the urge to lust and look at other women and fantasize never goes away. We just need to seek God. Don't be ashamed of who you are. Trust me, some people are worse off. Maybe they have an animal fetish, or are attracted to young children. Imagine if that were your struggle. Hope that puts things into perspective. If all our problems disappeared we wouldn't need to lean on God for help. I plan on finding a Christian girl to settle down with and honor the Lord with my life and sexuality. Don't be too hard on yourself. Who cares if you find both men and women attractive? You are trying to destroy it through self mutiliation and stuff. That's exactly what Satan wants. I always go back to Paul's thorn. He asked God to take it away, and God said his grace was sufficient. See we are supposed to deny ourselves and take up our cross daily. That means we may have to sacrifice our same sex attractions daily. The point is you are choosing to live your life the way God intended. PeaceTheCrimson said:
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