I can't stop, no matter how hard I try, I need tips. The longest I seem to be able to last is a week, and thats when im lucky, I feel hopeless. Why do I keep giving in? Please help.
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I imagine you have an issue with masturbation.
Two brief comments.
You are now hormone infested, as part of your growing older. This results in an upsurge in sexual feelings. In particular you get erections and they sometimes can't be easily ignored. So, you stimulate yourself. Many, many teeangers have this introduction to their new sex drive.
Then, you get guilty. A lot of guilt comes from the general unease we have about sex. You don't announce at the family diner table what you have just begun. So, any sexual activity or even thought is kept pretty private, which adds to a sense of guilt or at least confusion about right or wrong. And we have heard of 'dirty stories' etc. Sex is not dealt with very wholesomely in our society. It is then very easy to associate something like masturbation with negative values.
Masturbation is an issue, and there are circumstances where it can become a big problem. But there are teenagers who begin, just like you, then work through to a place where they can decide just what they want to do about it. Discussion, such as on this forum, reflection, maturity and some good reading will all help you to come to your own conclusion. But please don't beat up on yourself at this stage. You are on a journey that involves incorporating a lot of new and powerful experiences into your thinking. It takes time to arrive at a stable, workable conclusion for you. Work at it with God, who is there with you at all times.
John
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Two brief comments.
You are now hormone infested, as part of your growing older. This results in an upsurge in sexual feelings. In particular you get erections and they sometimes can't be easily ignored. So, you stimulate yourself. Many, many teeangers have this introduction to their new sex drive.
Then, you get guilty. A lot of guilt comes from the general unease we have about sex. You don't announce at the family diner table what you have just begun. So, any sexual activity or even thought is kept pretty private, which adds to a sense of guilt or at least confusion about right or wrong. And we have heard of 'dirty stories' etc. Sex is not dealt with very wholesomely in our society. It is then very easy to associate something like masturbation with negative values.
Masturbation is an issue, and there are circumstances where it can become a big problem. But there are teenagers who begin, just like you, then work through to a place where they can decide just what they want to do about it. Discussion, such as on this forum, reflection, maturity and some good reading will all help you to come to your own conclusion. But please don't beat up on yourself at this stage. You are on a journey that involves incorporating a lot of new and powerful experiences into your thinking. It takes time to arrive at a stable, workable conclusion for you. Work at it with God, who is there with you at all times.
John
NZ
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Don't worry friend most of us have trouble with this one.
These thoughts enter your mind mostly when you are bored so always try to have something to do. When I'm sitting in from of my PC and I get tempted I try to think to myself: "Why should I do it? I know I'll regret it right after so why do it?"
What may also help is thinking that God is always watching you.
Also don't just treat it like a sin. You have to understand why it's a sin. God made you based on His own image, you have to CONTROL your body and RESPECT it.
You rule over your body, not the opposite way around...
And just keep trying
These thoughts enter your mind mostly when you are bored so always try to have something to do. When I'm sitting in from of my PC and I get tempted I try to think to myself: "Why should I do it? I know I'll regret it right after so why do it?"
What may also help is thinking that God is always watching you.
Also don't just treat it like a sin. You have to understand why it's a sin. God made you based on His own image, you have to CONTROL your body and RESPECT it.
You rule over your body, not the opposite way around...
And just keep trying
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dave007 said:Don't worry friend most of us have trouble with this one.
These thoughts enter your mind mostly when you are bored so always try to have something to do. When I'm sitting in from of my PC and I get tempted I try to think to myself: "Why should I do it? I know I'll regret it right after so why do it?"
What may also help is thinking that God is always watching you.
Also don't just treat it like a sin. You have to understand why it's a sin. God made you based on His own image, you have to CONTROL your body and RESPECT it.
You rule over your body, not the opposite way around...
And just keep trying
Thanks for the tips and encouragement. They help. Hopefully I'll be able to overcome this.
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Hey bro,
well here come the hormones, I remember when I was your age I wasn't a christian so it wasn't a struggle but a way of life. I want to encourage you that God's love will always be towards you. It is important that we begin learning from our mistakes.
#1 look into the reasons you do it(arousal, fantasies)
#2 Understand that anything that takes over our mind and focus
is not good for us
#3 See in what circumstances you fall. Generally you will find that
it is times of being idle. It is so important to stay active. Many
people suggest doing a rigorous excercise when you are
tempted. The trick I have found is looking for all the situations
the devil uses to get you to sin and mix it up. Like for example
its after school your parents aren't home so what do you do?
well if your not on your guard you fall into sin. These are your
options: #1 call your friend and talk with him and pray with him
until the arousal passes(it is very effective to have an accountability partner)
#2 Get out of your house and go and
stay with your friends until your parents come home.
Accountability is a huge part bro and so necessary, if you have any questions feel free to send me a message or talk over yahoo messenger
I will be praying for you
well here come the hormones, I remember when I was your age I wasn't a christian so it wasn't a struggle but a way of life. I want to encourage you that God's love will always be towards you. It is important that we begin learning from our mistakes.
#1 look into the reasons you do it(arousal, fantasies)
#2 Understand that anything that takes over our mind and focus
is not good for us
#3 See in what circumstances you fall. Generally you will find that
it is times of being idle. It is so important to stay active. Many
people suggest doing a rigorous excercise when you are
tempted. The trick I have found is looking for all the situations
the devil uses to get you to sin and mix it up. Like for example
its after school your parents aren't home so what do you do?
well if your not on your guard you fall into sin. These are your
options: #1 call your friend and talk with him and pray with him
until the arousal passes(it is very effective to have an accountability partner)
#2 Get out of your house and go and
stay with your friends until your parents come home.
Accountability is a huge part bro and so necessary, if you have any questions feel free to send me a message or talk over yahoo messenger
I will be praying for you
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