Help Please with my Daughter

[Laurie919]

I have a daughter who rips her hair out. She has a bald spot like a 50 year old man. I know that pulling and cutting are closly related.

Can anyone tell me please what I can do to help encourage her to stop?

 

[livingforGod135]

I have a daughter who rips her hair out. She has a bald spot like a 50 year old man. I know that pulling and cutting are closly related.

Can anyone tell me please what I can do to help encourage her to stop?

how old is she (if u dont mind)? and does she want to stop?

1st thing is take care of urself, make sure u r ok. dont let it be so that she can manipulate u with it (not sayin she does but it is a possibility) educate urself (there r plenty of resources on the net)... then u will honestly be able to say 'i understand'

talk to her... not too pushy, not encouraging what she is doing, just listen... if she isnt talking (at all) then maybe ask her how she is going, does she know why, does she know the dangers (if she doesnt maybe try to tell her a little or tell her where she can find out for herself... because that she does need to know) but dont push any of it if she cant or wont answer leave it... it will still leave her with something to think about, wether she ever tells u the answers or not, she will know u care

Laura

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I posted some links in your other thread in the anxiety section. I hope they will help to give you a starting place for information. I do not have issues with trichotillomania (compulsive hair pulling) but I had and mostly recovered from a somewhat similar condition called dermatillomania.

Here's another link I just found:

http://www.trich.org/index.asp

 

[Laurie919]

how old is she (if u dont mind)? and does she want to stop?

1st thing is take care of urself, make sure u r ok. dont let it be so that she can manipulate u with it (not sayin she does but it is a possibility) educate urself (there r plenty of resources on the net)... then u will honestly be able to say 'i understand'

talk to her... not too pushy, not encouraging what she is doing, just listen... if she isnt talking (at all) then maybe ask her how she is going, does she know why, does she know the dangers (if she doesnt maybe try to tell her a little or tell her where she can find out for herself... because that she does need to know) but dont push any of it if she cant or wont answer leave it... it will still leave her with something to think about, wether she ever tells u the answers or not, she will know u care

Laura

She is 9. I meant to put that in the first post, sorry.

I am sure she wants to stop, but she doesn't know how. We have been to counseling, we have been to doctors, we have trieds meds, nothing. I really am at wits end on what to do. I was really hoping I could find someone here she would think was "cool" to talk to her.

 

[the_box_of_giggles]

I can pm you good links later....PM me if you are interested.

 

[pockleberry]

I don't know that she would think I was cool but I'm happy to talk to her if she would like that, pm me if your interested and I'l send you my email address

 

[livingforGod135]

She is 9. I meant to put that in the first post, sorry.

I am sure she wants to stop, but she doesn't know how. We have been to counseling, we have been to doctors, we have trieds meds, nothing. I really am at wits end on what to do. I was really hoping I could find someone here she would think was "cool" to talk to her.

well maybe u could try talking to her about why she did it the first time... if she can remember

I don't know that she would think I was cool but I'm happy to talk to her if she would like that, pm me if your interested and I'l send you my email address

yes same

Laura

 

[BrokenForHim]

hey I'm willing to talk with her if you'd like...pm me

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

deleted

 

[Nobility]

Hey Laurie... It'd be REALLY good to get her to talk to someone she trusts, but a lot better in person not online..

Do you go to church? Are there any young adults (I'd suggest a mature female who could handle it!) who could talk with her about it? Particularly any that she looks up to?

 

[x0xJesusIsLovex0x]

Talk to her, ask her whats wrong, don't be interfering with her and always questionings, just talk to her.

 

[SaRAWR]

Being a teenager who has done similar things.dont get mad at her.dont shout and her telling her to stop.thats what my mum and dad did.it just made me feel worse.

Talk to her camly be more like a friend.tell her you love her and how she can try other things than doing that.

see if you can get her to talk to a youth leader or someone close.

Hope that helps

xxxx