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Yeah. 
She's in full guilt trip and self-sacrifice codependency mode now. Saying things like, "well, you ahould be happy that I've given up on memorializing this year. You get what you want." *sigh* I recognize this behavior pattern a mile away, because I'm a codependent too, and have used the self-sacrifice weapon many times in my life. All I can respond with is, "it was never about me getting my way."
She slept in the bed last night, but begrudgingly. We're packing up the house and the front bedroom where she would normally sleep is full of boxes and stuff. She said, "I have no safe place to go." So I responded, "I'm sorry that I am not your safe place."
Worries me because early next year we're going to be moving to a totally different state, and we wont know anyone there. We're gonna drag all our problems with us too. I mean, that's not completely bad, because we are leaving a place that generates a lot of stress for us, especially her. But I'd be really naive to think that would solve all our issues. It won't. At all. Even though we know people here, we don't really. The only people I trust here to share info about this and to confide in and learn from are our therapist, and my SAA sponser. Otherwise, all our friends are too busy for us anyway.
She's in full guilt trip and self-sacrifice codependency mode now. Saying things like, "well, you ahould be happy that I've given up on memorializing this year. You get what you want." *sigh* I recognize this behavior pattern a mile away, because I'm a codependent too, and have used the self-sacrifice weapon many times in my life. All I can respond with is, "it was never about me getting my way."
She slept in the bed last night, but begrudgingly. We're packing up the house and the front bedroom where she would normally sleep is full of boxes and stuff. She said, "I have no safe place to go." So I responded, "I'm sorry that I am not your safe place."
Worries me because early next year we're going to be moving to a totally different state, and we wont know anyone there. We're gonna drag all our problems with us too. I mean, that's not completely bad, because we are leaving a place that generates a lot of stress for us, especially her. But I'd be really naive to think that would solve all our issues. It won't. At all. Even though we know people here, we don't really. The only people I trust here to share info about this and to confide in and learn from are our therapist, and my SAA sponser. Otherwise, all our friends are too busy for us anyway.
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