Hey all!
Very serious question here...
I am the mother of a ten year old elementary school daughter. She has a friend that used to go to school with her that is now an online friend. Until recently, I thought this was a wonderful thing.
About two months ago, her online friend who is also a ten year old got interested in the furry obsession. Her mother is apparently supporting this to the extent of buying her part of a furry costume to wear. This girl is currently homeschooled and per her mom, having trouble finding friends in her new area. This friend has constantly tried to talk to my child about furries and though my daughter has shown no interest and stated that she thinks it is ridiculous, there has been no letting up. It has progressed to the point of arguments because my daughter has refused to engage in the furry fandom thing. I have gladly supported my child and honestly had been thrilled she is not interested. She is a beautiful girl made in His image and she seems secure in that and has no interest in dressing up as an animal. To me, that seems like a healthy psychology.
In fourth grade, we are dealing with her finding out some sexual things. But that has been nothing compared to the drama that her furry online friend has caused. I took the liberty of looking up the furry fandom as its called. One article told me that 17 percent of people who participate believe in zoophilia. It also said that an estimated 38-51 percent of people who practice furry roleplay self identify as bisexual or homosexual. Though, there are tons of articles and blogs insisting that furry fandom has nothing to do with anything sexual, it appears to me that it actually does for very many of the people who participate. I also found out that most people who participate are older teens to young adults.
So last week I got an email from the furry friend's mom reprimanding me for reprimanding her daughter without speaking to her. I don't feel like I reprimanded at all. What I told the girls is that because they keep getting into silly arguments, that they both need to take some time apart to really think and decide if they even want to be friends at all and I told them that all friends sometimes have different interests and I told her daughter that happened even in adulthood that this had to be respected as a part of the friendship. Since they are talking through my facebook, I didn't realize I wasn't allowed to step in. The night that I stepped in and said all this, the furry friend kept going on and on about how my daughter was going to get in trouble for saying her furry interest was ridiculous and her and her mom were going to talk to me. Like the little girl does every time she gets upset, she was just blowing up my phone texting over and over saying things to my daughter like "oh so you aren't going to answer now" etc etc. So I did step in and tell her my daughter couldn't chat till the weekend and that it wouldn't be necessary to contact me as I had read all the messages as could her mom. Then I said the other above. So apparently her mom was offended.
I tell you what offends me. I am offended that they are shoving this ridiculous mess down my daughter's throat over and over and relentlessly. Especially with the older majority interest and the clear sexual component it holds with so many people who practice it. This woman knows full well that we practice Christianity fully in our home and I thought she did. My instinct tells me this is all wrong and that I need to keep my daughter away.
So... advice please. Before I end what has been a long and important friendship for my daughter (up until recently) instead of trying to help them to repair it with the rule that I do not want my child in the furry group at all, is this what I should do? What are your thoughts on the issues of furry and what scripture teaches? Help! Help!!
Very serious question here...
I am the mother of a ten year old elementary school daughter. She has a friend that used to go to school with her that is now an online friend. Until recently, I thought this was a wonderful thing.
About two months ago, her online friend who is also a ten year old got interested in the furry obsession. Her mother is apparently supporting this to the extent of buying her part of a furry costume to wear. This girl is currently homeschooled and per her mom, having trouble finding friends in her new area. This friend has constantly tried to talk to my child about furries and though my daughter has shown no interest and stated that she thinks it is ridiculous, there has been no letting up. It has progressed to the point of arguments because my daughter has refused to engage in the furry fandom thing. I have gladly supported my child and honestly had been thrilled she is not interested. She is a beautiful girl made in His image and she seems secure in that and has no interest in dressing up as an animal. To me, that seems like a healthy psychology.
In fourth grade, we are dealing with her finding out some sexual things. But that has been nothing compared to the drama that her furry online friend has caused. I took the liberty of looking up the furry fandom as its called. One article told me that 17 percent of people who participate believe in zoophilia. It also said that an estimated 38-51 percent of people who practice furry roleplay self identify as bisexual or homosexual. Though, there are tons of articles and blogs insisting that furry fandom has nothing to do with anything sexual, it appears to me that it actually does for very many of the people who participate. I also found out that most people who participate are older teens to young adults.
So last week I got an email from the furry friend's mom reprimanding me for reprimanding her daughter without speaking to her. I don't feel like I reprimanded at all. What I told the girls is that because they keep getting into silly arguments, that they both need to take some time apart to really think and decide if they even want to be friends at all and I told them that all friends sometimes have different interests and I told her daughter that happened even in adulthood that this had to be respected as a part of the friendship. Since they are talking through my facebook, I didn't realize I wasn't allowed to step in. The night that I stepped in and said all this, the furry friend kept going on and on about how my daughter was going to get in trouble for saying her furry interest was ridiculous and her and her mom were going to talk to me. Like the little girl does every time she gets upset, she was just blowing up my phone texting over and over saying things to my daughter like "oh so you aren't going to answer now" etc etc. So I did step in and tell her my daughter couldn't chat till the weekend and that it wouldn't be necessary to contact me as I had read all the messages as could her mom. Then I said the other above. So apparently her mom was offended.
I tell you what offends me. I am offended that they are shoving this ridiculous mess down my daughter's throat over and over and relentlessly. Especially with the older majority interest and the clear sexual component it holds with so many people who practice it. This woman knows full well that we practice Christianity fully in our home and I thought she did. My instinct tells me this is all wrong and that I need to keep my daughter away.
So... advice please. Before I end what has been a long and important friendship for my daughter (up until recently) instead of trying to help them to repair it with the rule that I do not want my child in the furry group at all, is this what I should do? What are your thoughts on the issues of furry and what scripture teaches? Help! Help!!