Why is Hell necessary?
I believe in a loving God, who inspired a man, Jesus of Nazareth, to promote peace and love to the regions of the world.
Why do we need to believe in a fiery pit of doom where those who oppose our message (or what we think is God's message) must live for eternity? Where does the Gracious God fit in the Mercy, Forgiveness, and Divine love package? The answer, "In this life," doesn't work for many people. Many people are turned off of Christianity because they were molested by priests, etc., or other things out of their control. When is their chance?
The Christian God is a God of second chances, a God who I believe cares that we grow into loving people. How are we do to so when we recruit our faith by threatening people with eternal death?
My point is, a belief in Hell is unnecessary. We can still make decisions that people would be more happier with Jesus without threatening eternal death, and we can admit that even those who enter the vineyard last of all will still have a chance.
It doesn't mean you can't believe in God anymore. Hell and God are unrelated. The Hell talked about in the Bible (with the exception of Revelation) is not the hell that Christians promote today. It was merely the place of death.
Give it up. For the future of your ministries, your mental well-beings, and your friend's salvation, give Hell up. Reclaim belief in a loving God who doesn't want people to burn for eternity, but wants them to be better people. Get out of this black/white mentality and start letting go and letting God impact people, without the threat of death. Let God be God and stop trying to decide who's at the head of the class and who gets detention.
"And these three remain: Faith, Hope, and Love. But the greatest of these is love."