Hating someone?

[M.6]

excuse me, but I don't think that this thread is what the original post by this thread's author is what it meant to be. After having read a few of the above posts, I think that it has become a debate and arguement.

excuse me, but I woulod like to respond to this thread's original topic re: if I hate someone.

ANSWER: yes, I do believe that I dislike someone at work quite a bit. MOstly so b/c of the way that he talks to me and percieves me: As a 'dumb' person (of which I am not, thankfully).

I really don't like this person and I avoid all conversation with him. I even avoid looking at him including any interaction of any sort with him.
I don't want to hate.
I want to love (at the least, 'like').

Though, like most other humans, I am an emotional being and do have my fallacies. I wold like some help, please.

 

[seashale76]

Is it wrong that I hate someone?

When I say hate, I mean hate, HATE....

There's this person I work with, who I see 5 days out of 7, and I really really despise this person to the point I have to actively avoid him, sometimes trying to pre-empt his whereabouts to avoid bumping into him.

And, what makes it worse... is that he's a nice guy, has never done me any harm and is well liked by all of my workmates.

I've got a co-worker like this. I don't hate him though. I just often find myself being extremely annoyed by him. Unfortunately, my job is such that I'm forced to interact with him at meetings- but I will avoid going to his usual hang-outs like the copy room when I can. Just the sound of his voice from down the hall gives me the heebie jeebies. Like your co-worker, he's a nice guy too. Our personalities are just that different though. That's not hate though. I've felt hate before and it wasn't just being annoyed by someone constantly- it went deeper than that and it is one of the worst things you can do to yourself.

If you truly hate this person, that's not healthy at all. Hate is something that will bring you down to distressing levels- it takes a lot of energy- it can make you physically and mentally sick- it affects others negatively- it just is plain old toxic to everyone.

Look at this situation as one of those things that if you work through it, will make you stronger. Everyone has good points. Keep telling yourself that this guy is loved by others in his life, he may have done some good things/deeds along the line and may do more yet, and he may one day even do you a good turn. Stay pleasant- you can be that pay it forward type guy.

 

[fated]

Is it wrong that I hate someone?

When I say hate, I mean hate, HATE....

There's this person I work with, who I see 5 days out of 7, and I really really despise this person to the point I have to actively avoid him, sometimes trying to pre-empt his whereabouts to avoid bumping into him.

And, what makes it worse... is that he's a nice guy, has never done me any harm and is well liked by all of my workmates.

First, it's bad for your soul to hate someone.

Second, the person you hate controls you.

 

[Tower Crane Driver]

Jim, I began reading your post and thought you made some sound observations... but then you descended into a pit of darkness...

Scary stuff...!

 

[Tower Crane Driver]

Second, the person you hate controls you.

How so?

 

[Tower Crane Driver]

Tower Crane Driver, what does the guy smell like? smell is the most underestimated of all our senses, it tells our brains a lot more than we are consciously aware of.

Hello Tenka,

To be honest, I haven't really noticed a smell. He doesn't have body odour or anything, or any strong smelling perfumes.

Next time I'm at work I'll covertly give him a sniff...

Maybe subconsciously you're right.

 

[fated]

I here things about the futility of self-understanding... but it is only part true. If you Confess, and you improve, you will find your base imperfection (a gifted priest and/or exquisite grace can help!).

Hatred (or racism or discrimination)...

Here Lord, I have found my the root of my anger. It is real, and I cannot heal it Lord. I have no option but to leave it with you Lord, on the Cross, because I know that you love me. I promise Lord to do that I may accept thy grace. Praise be for you Holy name Jesus Christ. Amen.

Likewise, those who have been harmed by racism, need to understand this wound, as many no doubt do.

Acknowledge that your anger is wrong, and leave it hangin on the Cross. You know that wrong emotion can hurt you. Pray the Gospel for belief ("Lord, I do believe, help my unbelief!").

Repeat as necessary.

Also, you can wear a religious medal, crucifix, or cross to remind you and aid you in your prayer.

 

[M.6]

I here things.....

Also, you can wear a religious medal, crucifix, or cross to remind you and aid you in your prayer.

this is Idolism and is, to my understanding, forbidden by Christ. He spoke out against it.

 

[mg0086]

Atheists DON'T hate God. The ones that might truely hate God are those of the Anti-christ or occult.

"Atheist" comes from the term "Anti-theist" meaning a disbelief in dogmas of organized religions. "I don't believe" is not the same as "I hate".

How do I know this? WEll I used to be a very profound atheist myself for a few years. I couldn't find any basis or foundation for belief so I continued to confuse myself with men like Richard Dawkins and others who shared my views(at the time). I guess you can say I was the most RELUCTANT convert ever. But never in my time of being an atheist I could never bring myself to hate anyone, even with someone I didn't agree with.

Now...

Back on the original topic...even if you are an atheist, hating someone isn't something that's going to solve your problem. What does this person do to annoy you?

Because I'm now a Catholic Christian, I've been taught to grin and bare it. IF I were still an atheist, I would probably tell this person how I feel. And maybe this person would stop or you could just complain to a higher authority to restrain him from going around you. Because as far as I can tell, this person is either harrasing you, or just being stupid for everyone to see. But like I said, tell him how you feel, or just complain to your boss (or whatever authority forces you to be around him) that he's very distracting.

I'm sorry for jumpingin so late. so I might be off course a bit. but these are my thoughts

 

[Supernaut]

this is Idolism and is, to my understanding, forbidden by Christ. He spoke out against it.

Idolism/Idolatry is worshipping or following something in place of God. Wearing a cross is nothing of this sort.

 

[mg0086]

Idolism/Idolatry is worshipping or following something in place of God. Wearing a cross is nothing of this sort.

 

[white dove]

Have you made any progress with this person, Tower Crane?

 

[brinny]

Is it wrong that I hate someone?

When I say hate, I mean hate, HATE....

There's this person I work with, who I see 5 days out of 7, and I really really despise this person to the point I have to actively avoid him, sometimes trying to pre-empt his whereabouts to avoid bumping into him.

And, what makes it worse... is that he's a nice guy, has never done me any harm and is well liked by all of my workmates.

LOL that's quite a dilemma. Ever figured out why you hate him?

 

[brinny]

Is it wrong that I hate someone?

When I say hate, I mean hate, HATE....

There's this person I work with, who I see 5 days out of 7, and I really really despise this person to the point I have to actively avoid him, sometimes trying to pre-empt his whereabouts to avoid bumping into him.

And, what makes it worse... is that he's a nice guy, has never done me any harm and is well liked by all of my workmates.

by the way, i appreciate your honesty.