My girlfriend had part of her house catch on fire. She's now taking care of her family and not only that she has PTSD because of abusive relationships. That's all coming back. I decided to surprise her and be there for her. Everything seemed fine, but at the end I was wondering why she was ignoring me. So I confronted her about it.. Which showed her that I have no idea how to deal with chaos. It showed her that I'm not ready for a relationship. She asked me if I knew my identity outside of a relationship..
I'm so lost right now. Am I ready for a relationship? I'm willing to stay through these hard times but she says that is easy. It's hard to make a wise decision and see what's best for both of us. She has very high standards and one of them is that I must know myself. I am a Christian, but I don't know who I am called to be. I can give a general answer but to really know is different. I'm insecure about myself and I don't know how I am in a multitude of situations. She said, is that fair to me? I'm knowingly walking into someone who doesn't have a plan or know themselves. I know that I need to figure out who I am alone but I'm to stubborn to give up on her. I want her so bad.. I need to make a wise decision. I've been praying for hours and it's as if God is silent or telling me to make my own decision.
She's so smart and wise. I can't give her any fluffy answers because she sees right through that. I can say I'm here for you through thick and thin. She'll say, so what? That's easy, anybody can do that. What are you going to do? How are you going to improve yourself? How are you going to work on us? I don't know how to answer that.. I don't know what to do...
I'm so lost right now. Am I ready for a relationship? I'm willing to stay through these hard times but she says that is easy. It's hard to make a wise decision and see what's best for both of us. She has very high standards and one of them is that I must know myself. I am a Christian, but I don't know who I am called to be. I can give a general answer but to really know is different. I'm insecure about myself and I don't know how I am in a multitude of situations. She said, is that fair to me? I'm knowingly walking into someone who doesn't have a plan or know themselves. I know that I need to figure out who I am alone but I'm to stubborn to give up on her. I want her so bad.. I need to make a wise decision. I've been praying for hours and it's as if God is silent or telling me to make my own decision.
She's so smart and wise. I can't give her any fluffy answers because she sees right through that. I can say I'm here for you through thick and thin. She'll say, so what? That's easy, anybody can do that. What are you going to do? How are you going to improve yourself? How are you going to work on us? I don't know how to answer that.. I don't know what to do...