Happily Ever After

[peacechild4]

What do you do.. if your other half won't divorce you but will happily see you whenever.. and doesn't want to live with you anymore???

I don't always get the right treatment and sigh I tend to become less a person around them..

What do you do??

Hold on for a miracle???

Just stay separated forever and thats it???

Or get a divorce and let GOD choose the right person for you..

I just watched a movie.. quote in my signature..

Where a separated woman.. don't think they were divorced.. found her true love... the first husband wanted to come back after the woman he took off with turned him down..

And how right they were together and it was very beautiful and seemed so right.. is is possible you can marry wrongly and that is not what GOD wanted for you.. the best... and there is someone better???

Am I so wrong to want a happy ever after.. with someone I can love and be loved by???

I am not asking for a "perfect" person.. but just to share my life with someone who doesn't treat me like a second class person and actually wants to spend time with me... To share my faith with.. to laugh.. to cry.. to share life, love and my future and kids with.. to enjoy.. that sort of thing..

 

[FallenPaladin]

Does he have to live somewhere else for his job? Have you told him how you feel? If you have told him and he won't listen then maybe its time to let him go.

 

[DrFrank]

Here is a message from the person who can fulfill your fantasy "to share my life with someone who doesn't treat me like a second class person and actually wants to spend time with me... To share my faith with.. to laugh.. to cry.. to share life, love and my future":


Luke 14:25-27 (New King James Version)

25 Now great multitudes went with Him. And He turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, WIFE and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple. 27 And whoever does not bear his cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple.

DON'T LOOK FOR LASTING LOVE FROM HUMANS !

 

[McScribe]

Be at peace. Be aware of the love of God that is yours absolutely. The mercy and goodness of God is yours. The wisdom and truth, the beauty and tenderness, the everything that God is is yours.

You will not be a lovable person because your husband decides to love you. You will not be a lovable person because someone else does. You are because you are. You hear lies in your heart that tell you that time is running out. You hear lies that tell you that you made a mistake and that life is punishing you for it. You hear lies that tell you that things are desperate. But God made you amazingly and wonderfully. God knit you together even as your mother's body did. God is with you right now. Love, and you will be loved. Be strong and you will be safe.

My hand, briefly in yours, across the gulf of distance, one person struggling out of the pain of loneliness to another, your friend in Christ.

 

[BigDaddy4]

Be at peace. Be aware of the love of God that is yours absolutely. The mercy and goodness of God is yours. The wisdom and truth, the beauty and tenderness, the everything that God is is yours.

You will not be a lovable person because your husband decides to love you. You will not be a lovable person because someone else does. You are because you are. You hear lies in your heart that tell you that time is running out. You hear lies that tell you that you made a mistake and that life is punishing you for it. You hear lies that tell you that things are desperate. But God made you amazingly and wonderfully. God knit you together even as your mother's body did. God is with you right now. Love, and you will be loved. Be strong and you will be safe.

My hand, briefly in yours, across the gulf of distance, one person struggling out of the pain of loneliness to another, your friend in Christ.

Amen to that!! Peacechild4, I know you have been praying for my marriage, so please know that I am praying for yours. All things are possible in Christ who strengthens us. God created you to be a special person in His eyes. No one can take that away from you unless you allow them. DON'T!! Hold on to God and let Him direct your ways.

Christ's peace to you!

 

[peacechild4]

My husband seems to be getting only further and further away.. but I am praying... trusting GOD.. I have no idea.. how to do any of this.. my mind just cannot cope with even thinking about him to be honest.. I really cannot do a thing about this.. but GOD is taking care of me.. Has been one thing after another.. just yesterday my car had major probs.. going to cost more then I have to fix it.. I need my car for the kids and me..

My husband turned me away... won't help.. that hurts is a very big way..

I pray GOD whatever now.. I pray for him to know GOD.. and whatever..

 

[foodiepeep]

Peace, Oh do I ever know how you feel.

 

[peacechild4]

Peace, Oh do I ever know how you feel.

Oh that makes me tear up.. this has been so hard and long and sad.. I just want to give you a cyber hug as impersonal as that sounds.. but with all my heart....


because I just know how much you need love and comfort right now...

Praying for you too..

 

[foodiepeep]

Yeah, my divorce is two-thirds of the way through as of September 30th. I know that my spouse will be overjoyed. Almost every night I dream that he wants to be with me again, but I wake up to this same empty house..

I've never been so alone in my life, and it's all my fault. I feel like if I had just had the patience to let God work on him instead of filing for divorce, maybe he would've come to me one day and wanted our marriage to work too. He never tried to save our marriage, and didn't want to be in it unless I "gratified" him, but I should've still persevered beyond it.

 

[peacechild4]

You know I still do not know what to do sis.. yet I have a sense inside GOD would accept either way.. I really feel that.. but the pressures are enormous... impossible even.. the pain oh my.. sigh.. the photos of my kids and husband and family in days gone by hurt every time I see them.. Oh man it hurts..

Be at peace sweet one.. I know I am trying too.. but no matter what people say.. being separated.. you cannot seem to be at peace completely..

One i am still married.. yet I am not.. and that being in the middle ground of nowhere really is a continual battle for me..

I hope you might come back in the days ahead and tell me there is peace at the other side..

I know GOD is with me here.. and the sense of.. knowing GOD is with me even if I get a divorce is comforting.. It isn't really our fault to be so lost sweetie.. it is simply where we are.. and that is so normal..

Sometimes we cannot do it.. I know I cannot.. GOD knows how weak and sad and hurting we are..

I really really see that you will find peace.. and I really wish you all the very very best... you don't know how my heart feels for you.. and what you have gone through..

You are so special don't ever forget that.. just take one day at time.. and do some nice things for yourself.. and remember GOD loves right where you are.. right now.. there is nothing you can do or not do that will make HIM love you less.. which gives us strength when we simply do what happens..

GOD bless you..

 

[FallenPaladin]

If you want him back you should probably file for legal separation and sic the attorney general's office on him for child support.

 

[peacechild4]

If you are talking to me.. I already have child support.. got that pretty well straight away.. and here in Australia it isn't actually legally separated.. no paperwork as such.. only have to do paperwork if you divorce..

It is on record... as I get disability payments and family payments from the government and they have all the details.. like when he left etc.. and if he and I ever spend the night together.. which we have never done..

 

[FallenPaladin]

If you are talking to me.. I already have child support.. got that pretty well straight away.. and here in Australia it isn't actually legally separated.. no paperwork as such.. only have to do paperwork if you divorce..

It is on record... as I get disability payments and family payments from the government and they have all the details.. like when he left etc.. and if he and I ever spend the night together.. which we have never done..

Then he's gone. The best you can do is build a life for him to want to be a part of.

 

[peacechild4]

Or just speak the word of GOD over him.. believing what GOD says and therefore sending the angels out to minister to him on my behalf..

 

[FallenPaladin]

Or just speak the word of GOD over him.. believing what GOD says and therefore sending the angels out to minister to him on my behalf..

I'm a bit more pragmatic than that but trusting God usually works out well for people. Sure, go for it.

 

[peacechild4]

It is total trust though.. Because there is nothing really to say he will.. but then GOD promises nothing is impossible and although I have peace being single.. I just have believed for a very long time I don't want to give up because GOD is still in the miracle business..