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I'd totally surrendered this to God,
I feel like I should
be doing something, but not sure what.
Well, that was how I ended up Catholic!!Daughter informed me that son (who still lives home) has
a girl, and her name is Mary, and he's not mentioned it
to me cos "didnt feel like playing 20 questions".
That was mostly a joke, and imo he didnt tell me
because she's Catholic (I found out later).
I said, "Jay" (not his real name) One question sweety,
not twenty, what church does she go to?
He said St such and such.
I said, "what the @#$% were you thinking".
(Subtle and supportive wasnt i?)
He said, well she goes to "insert name of emergent
church here" sometimes too.
That was yesterday in the AM.
Yes, I know we have to let the kids
make their own choices.
My question is this:
Do I say something?
Is there anything I should,
as a caring parent, say to son?
Is it none of my bi'ness
Or isnt it even an unequal yoking
should it get serious?
(this kid dont date, and is a very
goal oriented person like a "Paul")
Catholics/Protestants etc. What would
you guys do or say in that situation?
Help only please, no judging k?
thanks,
sunlover
I find this to be a bit on the insensitive side.Well, that was how I ended up Catholic!!
I see this as a wonderful opportunity for him to find the fullness of the faith!
Pray about it. God won't lead you astray.
I haven't been in this thread from the beginning, but how about you get to know her before making any judgments?God bless you Thekla for not reading
between the lines.
And I agree, praise God if she's Christian,
Heck, who knows just because someone
goes to ANY church, that they love the Lord.
So that's great point.
I know that there are a few here who
are in this type of marriage, and seem
content with it. And I"m glad that my
kids are not predjudice, but I cant help
but see the problems that could arise.
(maybe because of so much argument
we see here at CF)
I was just curious to see how others
felt, if I was being overprotective,
or if this is a serious issue.
Love you,
sunlover
With all due respect, this guy was a control freak, and someone of any faith can be a control freak. Or not.Prior to me meeting and marrying my husband, I dated a Catholic very seriously. We talked about marriage, and I started counseling classes for my annulment, against my better judgment.
We were pretty serious. I was so torn, and my parents really didn't like it at all. Chris was a nice enough guy, but he was always trying to get me to become Catholic. The two times he came to church with me, we spent hours afterwards arguing about the content of the service, communion, etc. It finally came to a head where I realized I could not spend my life with this man, unequally yoked. And we were. We did not believe the same things. He believed me to be arrogant because I was confident of my salvation. I couldn't believe that he wasn't confident. He constantly belittled my church and told me that he didn't think he could ever say enough prayers to get me out of purgatory someday because of what church I belonged to.
When it was all said and over, my dad sat me down and explained to me all the different reasons he hadn't wanted me to date a Catholic, and he was absolutely right. In the end, I got my heart broken. My dad wished he had had the talk with me before, but I told him I wouldn't have listened, because I thought I knew what I was getting into. As it turned out, I didn't. Even after we broke up, heck, even after I starting dating my husband, Chris would call me and leave text messages and tell me how he needed me to become Catholic. He needed to know that my soul was safe...I considered taking a restraining order out on him because he would call twenty, sometimes fifty times a day.
This isn't about whether Catholics are better or Protestants. This is about understanding the dichotomy that truly exists between the two, and how that plays into a relationship. Shame on you who have found fault in Sunlover asking an honest question. Put yourself in her shoes. God forbid your child ever comes home and wants to date or marry a heretic...I'm sure your reactions wouldn't be as restrained as hers have been.
Praying for you, sunlover. I know this is difficult.
This person disagrees with you:So the question is, do you agree "That we are justified by grace alone, through faith alone, because of Christ alone"?
If not our view of both justification and faith are substantially different.
He probably hasn't accepted the yoke you assume he wears any more than she is committed to real Catholicism.Daughter informed me that son (who still lives home) has
a girl, and her name is Mary, and he's not mentioned it
to me cos "didnt feel like playing 20 questions".
That was mostly a joke, and imo he didnt tell me
because she's Catholic (I found out later).
I said, "Jay" (not his real name) One question sweety,
not twenty, what church does she go to?
He said St such and such.
I said, "what the @#$% were you thinking".
(Subtle and supportive wasnt i?)
He said, well she goes to "insert name of emergent
church here" sometimes too.
That was yesterday in the AM.
Yes, I know we have to let the kids
make their own choices.
My question is this:
Do I say something?
Is there anything I should,
as a caring parent, say to son?
Is it none of my bi'ness
Or isnt it even an unequal yoking
should it get serious?
(this kid dont date, and is a very
goal oriented person like a "Paul")
Catholics/Protestants etc. What would
you guys do or say in that situation?
Help only please, no judging k?
thanks,
sunlover
Daughter informed me that son (who still lives home) has
a girl, and her name is Mary, and he's not mentioned it
to me cos "didnt feel like playing 20 questions".
That was mostly a joke, and imo he didnt tell me
because she's Catholic (I found out later).
I said, "Jay" (not his real name) One question sweety,
not twenty, what church does she go to?
He said St such and such.
I said, "what the @#$% were you thinking".
(Subtle and supportive wasnt i?)
He said, well she goes to "insert name of emergent
church here" sometimes too.
That was yesterday in the AM.
Yes, I know we have to let the kids
make their own choices.
My question is this:
Do I say something?
Is there anything I should,
as a caring parent, say to son?
Is it none of my bi'ness
Or isnt it even an unequal yoking
should it get serious?
(this kid dont date, and is a very
goal oriented person like a "Paul")
Catholics/Protestants etc. What would
you guys do or say in that situation?
Help only please, no judging k?
thanks,
sunlover
Is the girl a nice girl? Is she responsible, kind, conscientious, into making the world a better place?
If so what is the problem? You are creating a problem that does not exist.
£amb;46075893 said:For many, it is a problem. I do all the things you've listed above, but my mother-in-law absolutely hates me and makes no excuses for it. She's Catholic and I'm Protestant (as well as my husband). No matter how I try to have a relationship with her, she immediately starts berating me about what church I attend. My husband steps in to defend me and she'll back off for alittle bit. She has started this in front of my kids, and we had to make the hardest decision of our lives recently after visiting them....we can not visit them again. My kids are old enough to see what she is doing and they're afraid of her for their own reasons.
It's heart breaking. All I want is a relationship with her, but she doesn't. Our beliefs have split us and is destroying our relationship between us and them. I do not hate her at all, but can not understand why she cannot see me for what I am....someone who is serving God.
Your mother in law is creating a problem as well. One that should not exist-look at the nastiness for the sake of religion. Honestly is this something Jesus would want for us to create strife and misery in His name?
This is how it is on both sides. My folks weren't happy about me dating a Catholic, but they accepted it and didn't give me a hard time about it. My dad talked to me a lot about the issues that we would face.
I'm sure everyone would just love to have no issues come from two Christians dating. However, different doctrines can and do create problems.
The major one that I had while I was dating a Catholic was where would our children be baptized if we had any? I wanted my kids baptized in a Lutheran Church, he wanted them baptized in a Catholic church. What school would our children attend? I wanted them to attend a Lutheran school, he wanted them to attend a Catholic school.
I'm stubborn, so the best thing for me to do was not date a Catholic, but to date someone within my own faith, so that these issues weren't issues. So I married a WELS pastor. My spiritual life is much easier because I married someone who believes exactly as I do
I'm not saying that all inter-denomination relationships don't work, but saying that someone is creating problems where they don't exist is incorrect, because there are issues...and they can be big issues.
I wonder how the rc's here would feel if it was their son and if they would would really enjoy, or allow, him to be led by a protestant lady?
Just set aside the denominational issue for a moment and really consider the roles of men and women in godly relationships according to Scripture. Now consider the issue of OP in that light.
Actually, studies show couples do not have to share the same BELIEFS to have a successful marriage. What is important to compatibility is sharing the same VALUES.
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