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I'm still nervous about trying to get her to BF after beibg on formula & maybe not getting enough milk. Not sure when or how long I will have the milk.

Breastmilk is produced on demand so the more you nurse, the more milk you make. :) It hasn't been that long since her birth, s getting your supply to an adequate level shouldn't be too hard. You can do both for a while until you are sure you are making enough milk. I'd get some mommy baby naked cuddles in and give it ago. Drinking from a breast is different than drinking from a bottle so she will have to get used to it.

Oh, and I second calling the LLL or a lactation consultant. They're great. :thumbsup:

Love you!
 
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Formular milk seams to be more "filling" than breastmilk. so it mite not be enough for her. its a shame its not worked out for you both but your not a bad mum for it.
your great mum. your giving grace everthing she needs. breasfeed had it advantages but formular milk these days is getting better and better.

I dono what milk tipes you have in usa but here Aptimal here is ment to be the closet to breast milk. i know a midwife who said if they knew just how close it was they would have gave it to there children in stead of breastfeeding.

good to try breastfeeding but dont get to stressed out about it. Grace wont be bothered she just wants food...
 
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It is normal for a baby to be confused about night and day for the first few weeks and want to be up in the middle of the night. Just try to keep in dark and quiet at night and bright and active during the day. Fussy evenings are also SUPER common. I think that's when they want back in the womb the most. Sometimes they want to cluster feed in the evening to tank up for a longer bit of sleep at night too. If her gassiness doesn't improve, maybe ask your pedi about a dairy free formula.

:thumbsup:And all people, babies and adults, have a built in 'desire' to sleep when it's dark and be awake when it's light. So even if she's sleeping during the day, open up the blinds and put her in the sunlight so she can start to catch on.

llghoney, formula feeding does not mean you're a bad mum. If you can get breastfeeding to work out, that's awesome. But your 'mumhood' is not dependent on it. You're feeding your baby, giving her everything she needs, and you made the decision to give her formula in the hospital because it was the right thing for you to do at the time. That's a good thing. Please don't judge yourself on how you are feeding Grace - the important thing is that you're feeding her!
 
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llghoney, formula feeding does not mean you're a bad mum. If you can get breastfeeding to work out, that's awesome. But your 'mumhood' is not dependent on it. You're feeding your baby, giving her everything she needs, and you made the decision to give her formula in the hospital because it was the right thing for you to do at the time. That's a good thing. Please don't judge yourself on how you are feeding Grace - the important thing is that you're feeding her!

What Assisi said is right! The most important thing is that your baby is fed. I doesn't matter how you do that, breast or bottle.
I switched to bottle feeding after about 7 weeks... I beat myself up about it for ages. Then finally it dawned on me... My baby is fed, my baby is happy which = good!

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Hi llghoney!

I'm sorry you are having a rough go of things. Just remember that you are a great mom. I was formula fed, and I am healthy as an ox--and that was formula from the 70's (my dad lived after his mother fed him canned milk and corn syrup ON THE DOCTOR's RECOMMENDATION!!!).

If you really, passionately want to give her breastmilk, your hospital may be able to get your insurance to pay for a breast pump. That's what mine did--it's a really nice electric, double pump by Medela. Maggie occasionally will breastfeed, but it is pretty hit or miss (like once a week). She gets most of it from the pump, and I have formula on hand just in case.

I know that everyone hypes up the "bond" of breastfeeding, but if she is crying and frustrated and you are upset, how is that bonding? Maggie usually screams when being breastfed, but stares straight into my eyes when I am giving her a bottle. Which do you think is better bonding? hmmmmm

The most important thing is that your baby is healthy. You are a great mama--be proud of yourself for making sure she as the best start possible!
 
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I know that everyone hypes up the "bond" of breastfeeding, but if she is crying and frustrated and you are upset, how is that bonding? Maggie usually screams when being breastfed, but stares straight into my eyes when I am giving her a bottle. Which do you think is better bonding? hmmmmm

I so totally know about that!!! Maddie pretty much did the same thing near the end of breastfeeding! On the bottle she grabs my fingers, looks at me, helps hold the bottle (SO cute!). I feel closer to her now than I did back then.

llghoney... you are doing awesomely! It's really hard in the first few weeks, but it does get better!
 
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Hi llghoney!

I'm sorry you are having a rough go of things. Just remember that you are a great mom. I was formula fed, and I am healthy as an ox--and that was formula from the 70's (my dad lived after his mother fed him canned milk and corn syrup ON THE DOCTOR's RECOMMENDATION!!!).

If you really, passionately want to give her breastmilk, your hospital may be able to get your insurance to pay for a breast pump. That's what mine did--it's a really nice electric, double pump by Medela. Maggie occasionally will breastfeed, but it is pretty hit or miss (like once a week). She gets most of it from the pump, and I have formula on hand just in case.

I know that everyone hypes up the "bond" of breastfeeding, but if she is crying and frustrated and you are upset, how is that bonding? Maggie usually screams when being breastfed, but stares straight into my eyes when I am giving her a bottle. Which do you think is better bonding? hmmmmm

The most important thing is that your baby is healthy. You are a great mama--be proud of yourself for making sure she as the best start possible!

I so totally know about that!!! Maddie pretty much did the same thing near the end of breastfeeding! On the bottle she grabs my fingers, looks at me, helps hold the bottle (SO cute!). I feel closer to her now than I did back then.

llghoney... you are doing awesomely! It's really hard in the first few weeks, but it does get better!

Thank yiou both SO much!! I know she will be fine it's just the way being pushed to BF and not being able to really was making me feel really bad. ANd when I tell people she is not BF'ing they kinda look at me crazy. And I know all this will pass and it is so worth all of the lack of sleep. It's just kinda hard when you are doing the "work" by yourself most of the time.

Speaking of I need to go rest while she is! Hope you all are doing great with your babies! We need a thread on updated baby pics!
 
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It's no one business how you choose you feed your baby. The next time someone looks at you crazy, you have my permission to fling a bottle at their head.


:D and make sure it's full huh!!

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LLG goes bizerk over people giving crazy looks over not BF'ing!
 
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