For Men Only and
For Women Only by Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn. I've heard very few negative comments about these books. Of course there will always be exceptions with gender generalizations, but these books are GENERALLY right on track. I've heard very few negative comments on these from men and women alike. I'd encourage you to read For Men Only, too, because it will probably help you understand yourself better.
His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley. Again, there are some generalizations, but there is a lot of good info in there.
Boundaries in Dating by Henry Cloud.
I studied MBTI quite a bit during dating, along with oother personality assessments. I think it definitely did more good than not, but I regret times that I assumed J.C. felt or thought a certain way based on what I believed his MBTI to be. However, when we sat down and went through it together and began discussing personalities, I got to know him a lot better and was more able to be patient with things that I realized were just part of his core personality. There are also things typical of his brain type that don't really apply to him, just as with myself.
In any book on relationships, even MBTI, there will be generalizations that won't apply to everyone, obviously. But you are smart enough, Mina, to know that people are individuals and unique and must be learned for who they are rather than treated like a statistic in a book. You are mature enough to know that.
So, um, I have to ask. Are you dating someone?