Good Aproach

[renaistre]

I tend to agree with fluffy_rainbow and fatolia on this one. I would never try to "pick up" a girl at the mall, even if I had some reason to believe that she was a Christian. But there might be a time and place for that for some people. I don't think advising caution is out of place, but the issue in the OP is really about how to start a conversation.

So assuming that the possible dangers are already kept in mind, it would probably be a good idea to try to start up a conversation that leads as quickly as "smoothly" possible to finding out what her beliefs are.

As far as the first words go, the only pick up line I've heard that I really liked (but I've never actually had a chance to use it) is this one:


Guy: 1000 pound polar bear.

Girl: What?

Guy: I dunno... but it breaks the ice.


Use at your own risk.

 

[Iggster]

You have a point, the_man; however, what is our typical motive for striking up a conversation with a good looking stranger? Because we want to know if the potential is there for a dating relationship. I've done it, I'm sure at some point we've all done it, maybe more than once. By physical appearances only, someone of the opposite sex with pique our interest and we find ourselves clumsily trying to find ways to cleverly attract their attention in return. Why? Because as singles we have the tendency to view everyone, not as brothers and sisters in Christ, but as potential mates. Our minds have been conditioned to the ways of the world that say, "hey, if someone looks good strike up a conversation and maybe you'll land a relationship". You see television shows in which seemingly flawless marriages were built upon chance encounters in the subway or grocery store. While it's possible, I highly doubt pushing to meet a good looking stranger at the mall will yield a righteous and godly relationship. We have to be careful not to play with other people's emotions or jeopardize our own. While something may seem as innocent as a flirtatious first meeting at the mall, the other person may already be planning his or her wedding to you. I know it sounds crazy, but it's always possible. So you meet a total stranger, engage in conversation, pretty soon there's a miscommunication. Typically, one person walks away with a higher level of attraction than the other person.

That is why I say it is of the utmost importance that we look for courtship within our trusted circle of friends. At least then we know what the person is like and it alleviates the stress of awkward and pointless small talk with no real clear purpose as to where things are heading.

Smart gurl..................