God's Promises

[girlofgrace727]

This is gonna take some explaining..so bear with me.

Some of you may recall me talking about my best guy friend and starting to fall for him...well, I would LOVE to be falling for him, and the idea of him is awesome, but God keeps showing me some of the things that he brought into my life about 4 years ago.

Four years ago, I met this boy named Josh, I was almost 15 at the time, and of course marriage was so far out of my head, and I was the kinda girl who had a crush on a new guy every week. Well, the second I looked at him, the first thing that went into my mind was "He's the one." No word of a lie...of course I didn't take it seriously at first, but then from that day on I liked him, and the more I learned about him the more he fit the description of a guy I would like to spend the rest of my life with. Bonus was, he liked me too..so it seemed so perfect. He wasn't allowed to date until he was 16, and we were only 15 then...we spent 2 years liking each other, and both feeling we were meant to be together, just not yet. Then one day when we had just turned 17, he called me and we talked about how we would date eventually, just not yet. I was at peace with this, because even though I really wanted to be with him, I knew God's timing was better. Well, 4 days after that phone call, he asked me out...I was confused, but of course I said yes. All the while God was telling me to WAIT! Well, I don't suggest going against God's will, because 12 days later that dating relationship was over, and it was hard for me to even look at him for MONTHS! Meanwhile, he got kinda sorta, but not really involved with this other girl, but it didn't even phase me because I just felt God telling me not to worry that he will come back to me when it's time. Well....we are now both 19, and I've liked him on and off..and then when I decided that my best guy friend is a catch, I decided to shut out all feelings for Josh, just give up and move on. Josh is currently not seeing, but being a really close friend to this girl who he actually helped come to Christ. I think they would be a cute couple, and would be fine with them getting married..but the other day it just hit me that God doesn't change His mind..there's no way He could have lied to me, and all the things he told me about Josh still stand true. I realized I was using my best guy friend as a reason to forget about Josh...now when God revealed this to me about a week ago, I was so against even liking Josh, thinking I couldn't possibly anymore..but even in the last week our friendship has grown more and been restored more...I'm so confused because I don't want to like him, and I want to be done with him...I like thinking that maybe God just changed His mind, but so many things that I've read in the Bible this week, and even messages I've heard in church tell me that's not the case. I know full well it's not the case...but I don't want to go around thinking that Josh is the one, and just be patient, when really he isnt...but then somethings like STOP DOUBTING! I'm guessing thats God..but I dunno...don't worrying, I refuse to obsess about this, and I'm making God my focus, but any advice or anything would be nice

Anything you wanna say would be so appreciated..I think I'm gonna post this in a few places

 

[findinghope06]

oh man i know your situation really well! the man i fell soo hard for was someone i could see myself with being forever. (now i know there are a lot of difference b/w our situations) but God definitly told me that He wasnt right for me (and i know realize why..im very glad nothing ever happend b/w us except phone calls and emails) anyways, He told me through other people. i knew it but i refused to listen then a good friend of mine (he wants to be a priest) saw me getting upset over it (it was at a Christian Fellowship meeting that God really showed me this guy wasnt right for me..and of course, it hurt, so i started crying) i told him what was going on and he told me, exactly "steph, i dont think he is the one for you" and all that would come out of my mouth is "i know" and i started bawling. but all i can tell you is maybe talk to a religious official about it or a close friend who is a practicing Christian. God has ways of telling you one way or another and my friends were definitly one of those ways. (my one friend saw me crying and she came up to me and said, its the boy isnt it...i didnt tell her much about him, but she knew that he wasnt right for me...she is incredibly religious)

so my advice would be to pray (of course) and talk to someone who is very strong in their faith (a religious official would do awesome) and i think they would be able to do wonders for you. God will tell you either way, so have patience.

 

[Johnnz]

What was not right then may be OK now. That is one possibility.

Sometimes we are sure we heard God, but later events seem to indicate that was one we did not quite get right.

I suggest you talk over this with someone older. Also, at what age are you planning to get married. Dating, when marriage is still a long way over the horizon is not wisest option in my books.

John
NZ

 

[findinghope06]

I suggest you talk over this with someone older. Also, at what age are you planning to get married. Dating, when marriage is still a long way over the horizon is not wisest option in my books.

John
NZ

i completely agree!!!!