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Thou shalt not commit adultery. Having an extra-marital relationship of this sort is adultery. I'm not sure how much more clear this could be.A person is married to someone with Alzheimer's and they don't recognize them, know they're married and haven't had any kind of physical relationship in years.
The healthy spouse often dies before the sick one due to loneliness, stress, and grief that can last for years. This happens an astounding 40% of the time.
If he/she, has a relationship outside the marriage and that develops into a caring partnership that benefits the ill spouse... How can that be wrong?
Don't bother quoting marriage vows which were written in the 1400s. "Sickness and in health"?? That's when people got sick and died a day, week or even a month later.
Dementia patients were just thrown out in the streets and died shortly after.
Or worse, churches thought they were demon-possessed and they were tortured until cleansed. (that's where "dementia" comes from).
Does anyone have any solid comments pro or con?
Thou shalt not commit adultery. Having an extra-marital relationship of this sort is adultery. I'm not sure how much more clear this could be.
For one thing, sometimes we lack understanding of how God views vows and covenants.
It appears to me that he kept his wedding vows.Sam, a friend of mine, married "Cathy". She and a girl friend were involved in a traffic accident and Cathy was left in a coma while her friend was relatively unhurt. Sam and the girl friend visited Cathy almost every day for several years until they fell in love. It broke Sam's heart to divorce Cathy and remarry. That was 40 years ago and Cathy is still in the coma. Sam and his wife still visit regularly. Cathy is still loved by both of them.
A person is married to someone with Alzheimer's and they don't recognize them, know they're married and haven't had any kind of physical relationship in years.
The healthy spouse often dies before the sick one due to loneliness, stress, and grief that can last for years. This happens an astounding 40% of the time.
Well, since you're single, I guess you wouldn't have a clue about taking care of someone for 8 years who doesn't know your name. Just check out our facebook page and you might get some understanding.In sickness and in health. That says it all
Thank you for your nice comment.That is extremely inconsiderate for a person not to keep themself healthy.
That's like not putting on your own oxygen mask first in an airplane.
How can you help (multiple?) others, if your not putting your own safety first?
If you love your spouse, you don't let yourself die first.
A person is married to someone with Alzheimer's and they don't recognize them, know they're married and haven't had any kind of physical relationship in years.
The healthy spouse often dies before the sick one due to loneliness, stress, and grief that can last for years. This happens an astounding 40% of the time.
If he/she, has a relationship outside the marriage and that develops into a caring partnership that benefits the ill spouse... How can that be wrong?
Don't bother quoting marriage vows which were written in the 1400s. "Sickness and in health"?? That's when people got sick and died a day, week or even a month later.
Dementia patients were just thrown out in the streets and died shortly after.
Or worse, churches thought they were demon-possessed and they were tortured until cleansed. (that's where "dementia" comes from).
Does anyone have any solid comments pro or con?
Ok, So what? People who had dementia were still tortured and cast out. BY CHURCHES!!!Marriage is meant as a retelling of the Gospel. The husband represents Christ and the wife represents the Church. Does Christ leave His Church when she is ailing? Should the Church depart from Christ under any circumstance?
I may not be married, but I have seen couples walk through serious neurological illnesses like this together. It is difficult, and it does require spiritual support, but marriage is not solely about sex or happiness. It involves sacrifice.
Also, "dementia" is a Latin word that literally translates as "insanity". It comes from another Latin word, "demens", which means "concerning the mind". It has nothing to do with demons.
Turn on the TV and listen to some of those goofballs, but that's a topic for another discussion, I think.
Simple, it's adultery. Even if the spouse is lucid and consents, it's adultery.If he/she, has a relationship outside the marriage and that develops into a caring partnership that benefits the ill spouse... How can that be wrong?
Chronic illness was a thing well before then (Luke 8:43).Don't bother quoting marriage vows which were written in the 1400s. "Sickness and in health"?? That's when people got sick and died a day, week or even a month later.
Dementia patients were just thrown out in the streets and died shortly after.
Or worse, churches thought they were demon-possessed and they were tortured until cleansed. (that's where "dementia" comes from).
Ok, So what? People who had dementia were still tortured and cast out. BY CHURCHES!!!
How you can equate Jesus and the church with a husband and wife in the REAL world is beyond belief.
It's really nice that you have seen couples walk through serious neurological illnesses. Like what?
I don't think you have a clue as to what Alzheimer's is. She's nearing the end of her life and, excuse me if I want to provide her with the best quality of life she can possibly have during her last few orbits around the sun. Look at our facebook page and you'll see real Christian love.
How good of a caregiver can someone be who is at the breaking point every day? After almost giving up and placing her in memory care, I'm now happy, healthy and caring for my sweet wife better than anyone that I know of.
Speaking of churches departing from Christ... Turn on the TV and listen to some of those goofballs, but that's a topic for another discussion, I think.
Well, since you're single, I guess you wouldn't have a clue about taking care of someone for 8 years who doesn't know your name. Just check out our facebook page and you might get some understanding.
No? It's perfectly fine to arrange for someone to care for your wife should you pass first; in fact I'd say that's a very good thing to do. That's somewhat different from what you seem to be asking about, though.So, you're saying that it's perfectly fine to die before your ill spouse? Then who takes care of her, strangers in a memory care facility where she may be abused? Or, at best, she sits in a chair, spending the entire day staring out a window, or watching tv?
Who contributes to her quality of life in the time she has left?
Adultery is adultery, regardless of whose idea it was or what justification you want to give for it.What if, it was her idea to have a special friend in the first place, once all her friends distanced themselves?
You violate your vows if you commit adultery. It doesn't matter if your wife is cool with it, or if everyone seems to "benefit" from the arrangement. You made a solemn oath before God to love, support, and be faithful to your wife, and you will be held accountable for it.It's a very tough decision and the bottom line is, who benefits from such an arrangement? The simple answer is everyone. Those vows are kept better than trying to do it all by yourself or not being there at all.
A person is married to someone with Alzheimer's and they don't recognize them, know they're married and haven't had any kind of physical relationship in years.
The healthy spouse often dies before the sick one due to loneliness, stress, and grief that can last for years. This happens an astounding 40% of the time.
If he/she, has a relationship outside the marriage and that develops into a caring partnership that benefits the ill spouse... How can that be wrong?
Don't bother quoting marriage vows which were written in the 1400s. "Sickness and in health"?? That's when people got sick and died a day, week or even a month later.
Dementia patients were just thrown out in the streets and died shortly after.
Or worse, churches thought they were demon-possessed and they were tortured until cleansed. (that's where "dementia" comes from).
Does anyone have any solid comments pro or con?