As I lost faith, the Calvinistic God seemed to me to be a monster... wanting to burn people when he could save them instead. That isn't loving, and God is love.
Sorry, I know it was quoted yesterday so it kind of interrupts the current topic, but I'm going to have to go with Paradoxum on this one. I mean, I've listened to a lot of Calvinist arguments over the last two years and while it does have a sufficient quantity of Biblical evidence (pretty much all of Romans 9 through 11, for instance), there is to me an equal amount for the free will to choose Christ, too, with the nudging - but not forcing - of the Holy Spirit. And even more striking, is that the Calvinist thought, especially the TULIP principle, presents so many quandaries and implications that just don't make sense.
For instance, Calvinism worships the almightiness of God, as in His ability to do whatever He pleases even if it is for the detriment of some humans, over His (typical definition of) love, right? It's about worshiping the power more than the goodness that we humans like to see in Him. Well, by itself, that's fine, because indeed God is almighty and Sovereign to me, but, how does man having the ability to choose Him or not, or make other choices, violate His soveriegnty? And that's what most Calvinists I've heard from sound like they're thinking. To me, either way, even if all of humankind chose Him or rejected Him, He's still going to be God in the end and balance the scales. And also, while I believe a moderate form of Calvinism sees predestination in the sense that God predestines some for salvation, and merely "passes over" the rest without actually forcing them into condemnation, why would He even allow these humans who are on a collision course for death (I take the conditionalist view of Hell, so I don't use the term eternal torment), ESPECIALLY if the second death means eternal conscious torment in Hell, to be born if He knows they will be born that way and He already knows He intends to not draw them to Him at all, passing them over?
And most of all, how is it that if humans making a choice to come to Christ under the Spirit's prodding - but not forcing - violates God's sovereignty in the Calvinist view, then they are not also by default acknowledging that God Himself is the author of the sin He hates so much? That Adam and Eve also did not have a choice whether to eat from the Tree of Knowledge or not, but that He predestined for them to and bring sin into the world? And, seriously, are you sure you want to stake that kind of claim on Him?
Or, is it that moderate Calvinists who do not explicitly admit this have simply never thought about it that way?
Now, am I saying all Calvinists are mean-natured like I know Robert Morey to be (and I've always heard about John Calvin himself, with his witch-hunting and all)? No. I know some Calvinists are just simply grateful that they were chosen for eternal life and that's all, without seeming to rub how special they are in the face of those who do not believe or simply question if Calvinism is the right mode of one's view towards God. But some do, it seems.
And lastly, one thing that is just my personal opinion, but I've also heard it argued from Calvinists that man cannot freely respond to or reject Christ's offer of salvation because it would be a work and not by grace alone. Well, I don't see how simply saying "yes, I would like to have this gift you so generously offer, God, thank you for that" is a work. I mean, it's still a gift; you just gratefully accepted it from a generous Hand instead of having it shoved in your face.
Now, from this post I think you can gather three things about me, that I believe in eternal security over losing salvation due to sinning too much, free will to accept Christ over Calvinism, and the conditionalist theory of the second death and the nature of the human soul over the traditional view, and indeed in all three of these matter believers debate on I have chosen the "nicer", "gentler" side, I know. But in case anyone has it on their lips to say to me, like I've heard some say in the past, how does this mean I have too soft a view of God or do not honor Him enough or want everything about Him to be nice and gentle? For one, I think the conditionalist view of death is still fearful enough, and two, since when is it a crime or a dishonor to worship and rveere God because I do think He is indeed that good? I mean, I know everyone has their own view of Him, so some will very well disagree with me, but I ask you, is it better to worship God because you are thankful to Him for what you perceive to be His goodness, or because you are afraid of Him using His omnipotence to punish you, or because you see Him punishing others?