Getting married young

[barefeetonholyground]

In general, the chance of divorce is lowered a great deal if you marry after the age of 25. But I honestly think that it depends on the people. Not everyone is the same. Not everyone is going to have the same issues... so I don't know.

I think it's smart to wait until late twenties though.

I think that statistic has a lot to do with the fact that those in their mid to late 20s are far less impulsive than those in their late teens and early 20s.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

ITS A TARP!!!!!! Seriously, though -- my Mom married when she was 17. She had to get permission from her parents. My dad was four years older than her. They've had a great marriage. She told me today that she was really lucky in life and she does not know of my father having ever lied to her or anything. They are best friends. A lot of people get married young and it doesn't work out. The same is true for people who get married later. I think there are advantages to getting married later, but, in the end, I guess it comes down to luck.

 

[If Not For Grace]

I see nothing wrong with getting married young if the couple is mature and puts God first in their marriage.

Me either^, but if that's what the marjority do, I wonder why the divorce rate is so high (it's on a point or two different between secular and christian - in the US).

IF is one the biggest words I know...

 

[Scottish Knight]

Me either^, but if that's what the marjority do, I wonder why the divorce rate is so high (it's on a point or two different between secular and christian - in the US).

IF is one the biggest words I know...

I think that's why it's important to seek God's will throughout all stages of the relationship. To make sure the person you marry is indeed the person God has for you.

 

[Nilla]

My sister got married when she was 20, he was 23. They've been married for 14 years this year. I think they waited about 6-7 years before having kids though. Their oldest is 7 this year.

I don't think it always have been easy but no matter what age you get married at, a marriage - like any relationship it needs to be worked at. By both.

 

[nesian]

It depends if you've found your soul mate. I have a work colleague who has been with her fiance for four years, they're getting married next year, she's 23 and he's 24. Personally, I think that's way too young, ideally I'll be getting married in my late 20s...not now because I'm way too selfish and want to live a little first. Then again, I don't really know if I will have found someone genuine by then, I do set goals but I don't want to set a life plan, things change way too much, who knows, a year from now I might fall in love for the first time........ /shrug

 

[LovebirdsFlying]

My husband and I didn't meet until later in life, but we are so compatible that I think it would have worked even if it had been a teenage marriage. I've known 16-year-olds who were ready for marriage, and 40-year-olds who were not. Therefore, I don't like telling anybody they are "too young" to get married, especially if they are of legal age. Yet you hear 18- to 20-year-olds all the time being told they are "too young." Even my mother once told me, during my childhood, that if she had anything to say about it, she wouldn't let me get married until I was 30. I don't get that. If 18 is legal adulthood, why is it "too young" for marriage? And what is the arbitrary magic age that is not "too young"?

 

[RoseGraced]

Girls can get married at 18, boys should wait til they are 30. Coz boys are dumb

Haha kidding. It's different for everyone.

I'm 21. if I was my mum, I'd be married and pregnant with me by now...if that makes sense

I'm so glad I'm single!

 

[NathanielRH]

I believe only the strong should get married young.
The weak should wait, because waiting builds strength.

 

[Niels]

I think it all comes down to compatibility and timing. There are no guarantees that you'll find a good match so quickly and easily. When I was in my early twenties, there weren't any truly compatible women around. The women I knew were either on completely different wavelengths, just friends, or much older than I was at the time. None of the above would have worked. I also had college classes to study for, and an injury to recover from that temporarily took me out of the dating scene. If I had met the right woman when I was that age, however, I would have married her.

Although I could have settled or faked my way into an early marriage with the wrong kind of woman, that would have lead to misery in the long run. My peers who made that kind of mistake seem to be getting divorced in droves. I'm glad that I've held out for a good match.

My advice to you would be to not set a specific time frame. Only marry when you find somebody who is truly compatible. The quality of your relationship will be better, and you'll save yourself a lot of trouble. Maybe you'll meet 10 years from now, but it's also possible that you'll meet this week. Pray about it, but pray that God leads you to the right kind of person rather than that a marriage happen by a certain date. You're going to be with this one for the rest of your life, so I'd focus on the quality of your future together rather than on simply tying the knot.

 

[Blank123]

honestly i believe it depends on the people involved. Most late teen/early twenty-something people I know wouldn't be mature enough IMHO to handle it. But that doesn't mean there aren't people in that age bracket who aren't. They just need to be prepared to handle all the responsibilities that go along with marriage and understand what its all about.