Getting Married After an Ultimatum

[VictoriasImage77]

In my case, I "knew" right away that my fiance was the one for me. He felt similarly after a few months.

Now, I love him dearly, but he takes the slooooooow, cautious, well-thought out road in life, about everything from a vacuum purchase to asking for a booth or a table at a restaurant. I am the queen of impatience, and instead of waiting for him to ask me to marry him, I basically dragged the plans along and picked out my own ring and everything. An extended family member found out and told my dad, who was then very hurt and disappointed that my fiance hadn't approached him to ask for permission. Which really wasn't his fault, because he just hadn't had the opportunity yet. I know he would have done it, but it probably would have taken a few years.

Almost six years later, I sometimes regret not waiting on him to ask me. Not just because of the situation with my dad either. Couples always have these super romantic stories about how they got engaged, and we don't have that at all. All we have is the memory of me crying to him about how we didn't have a story like that, and so he asked me while we were in sleeping bags in my parents living room floor the same night. Not exactly romantic, and I'm sure he only bothered to because I was throwing a mini-fit.

 

[Hetta]

In my case, I "knew" right away that my fiance was the one for me. He felt similarly after a few months.

Now, I love him dearly, but he takes the slooooooow, cautious, well-thought out road in life, about everything from a vacuum purchase to asking for a booth or a table at a restaurant. I am the queen of impatience, and instead of waiting for him to ask me to marry him, I basically dragged the plans along and picked out my own ring and everything. An extended family member found out and told my dad, who was then very hurt and disappointed that my fiance hadn't approached him to ask for permission. Which really wasn't his fault, because he just hadn't had the opportunity yet. I know he would have done it, but it probably would have taken a few years.

Almost six years later, I sometimes regret not waiting on him to ask me. Not just because of the situation with my dad either. Couples always have these super romantic stories about how they got engaged, and we don't have that at all. All we have is the memory of me crying to him about how we didn't have a story like that, and so he asked me while we were in sleeping bags in my parents living room floor the same night. Not exactly romantic, and I'm sure he only bothered to because I was throwing a mini-fit.

I don't understand regrets about an "unromantic" proposals or engagement if you are now joyfully married. It's what comes after the engagement ring and wedding that matters.

 

[motherprayer]

Almost six years later, I sometimes regret not waiting on him to ask me. Not just because of the situation with my dad either. Couples always have these super romantic stories about how they got engaged, and we don't have that at all. All we have is the memory of me crying to him about how we didn't have a story like that, and so he asked me while we were in sleeping bags in my parents living room floor the same night. Not exactly romantic, and I'm sure he only bothered to because I was throwing a mini-fit.

Its okay. We don't have a super romantic story about our engagement OR our wedding. He asked me to marry him, I said yes, and because our funds were short, we got married at the Justice of the Peace. Simple, but the love beneath it is just amazing!

 

[Nienna_Lady_of_Tears]

Its okay. We don't have a super romantic story about our engagement OR our wedding. He asked me to marry him, I said yes, and because our funds were short, we got married at the Justice of the Peace. Simple, but the love beneath it is just amazing!

My husband proposed three weeks and 2 days after we met, we picked out a $26 ring on Ebay (that has been valued at about 10 times that much) and had to wait 5 years to get married because my family was trying to betroth me to someone else.

Eventually I was kicked out for wanting to choose my own husband and we got married while we were homeless.