I think every love relationship is complex.
And every relationship has areas of dysfunction.
Many religions preach that homosexuality is disordered, and so using that template, the sexual aspect of a gay relationship is dysfunction. Other aspects of the relationship, however, may teach the couple about unconditional love, forgiveness, commitment. It might make the partners more fully human and alive. And because we only experience God's love through the love of the people He's placed in our lives, the partners may grow in their relationship with God.
Heterosexual relationships can have areas of dysfunction, too, such as poor communication, co-dependency, different values, addictions---and yet the partners may also experience many graces through the love they share.
We are all flawed and broken; we are all in need of healing. The German bishops feel compassion for all the dysfunctions they learn of in confession or in counseling--in gay or straight relationships.
My gay friends have imperfect love relationships. So do my husband and I. So does every couple I know. But I also see a lot of beauty and good in all these relationships.
I was married 50 years last June, and we received a special blessing at Mass. How awful it would have been to have had to sign some sort of disclaimer that our relationship was 100% perfect or have had the blessing withheld.
To me the blessing meant that God was walking with us in our spiritual journey, in good and bad times. When you're seventy that sickness and health part grows in importance.
If the Spirit leads some bishops to bless loving but imperfect relationships, I approve. If the Spirit leads some bishops not to, I accept that as well.
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