Future spouse checklist

[Gnarwhal]

What's important to you in a future spouse? If the phrasing isn't clear let me know, but these are in reference to what you (the poster) would prefer to find in a potential mate in terms of their background, education, lifestyle, etc.

Clear as mud?

When you determine your decision, simply make one of the options in the parenthesis bold.

**Edits made to amend phrasing and add an additional option in the answer selection.

Background:

Parents:
-Were themselves raised in Christian homes. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Were married when they had them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Are still married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Are/were both practicing Christians. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Occupied traditional gender roles: father worked and provided, mother tended to the household and did much of the child-rearing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Never struggled with addiction, i.e. alcoholism (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Owned their home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Education:
-They attended a private/parochial school for primary/middle/secondary education, or some combination thereof. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They attended a four-year post-secondary institution and received their undergraduate (bachelors) degree. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They attended post-secondary (graduate) school and received a masters degree or doctorate. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They attended a professional school such as business school, law school or medical school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Current lifestyle:

Career:
-They knew exactly what career you wanted upon finishing school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They took some time off after school to explore the world and work part-time jobs before jumping into a career. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They work in a corporate environment. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are self-employed. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They work for a small business/practice. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Living situation:
-They live alone, renting their own apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They live with roommates, sharing an apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They live with their parents - still, or recently moved in with them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are crashing with a friend until they figure out their situation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They own their own home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Faith:
-They are currently a practicing Christian. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They never doubted, rejected or "took a break from" or otherwise "backslid" in their faith at any point. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have been a part of the same tradition, i.e. Anglican, Baptist, Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Lutheran, Methodist, etc, for their entire life. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have bounced around to three or more different churches (or traditions/denominations) in the past five years. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They spend at least an hour of their day in prayer. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They read their bible daily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They study theology, i.e. Early Church Fathers, Thomas Aquinas, CS Lewis, Hans Urs von Balthasar, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, etc., semi-regularly (maybe once per year). (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They believe it's important to put faith into action by meeting the needs of the poor, oppressed and marginalized, whether it be locally, nationally or abroad. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Personal

Romantic:
-They have never been in a relationship before. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have been in fewer than five relationships total. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have never been married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are a virgin. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have never kissed anyone in a romantic manner. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They believe sex is strictly for procreation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Recreation:
-They enjoy sports such as baseball, basketball and football. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy extreme sports like rock climbing, surfing, skateboarding, snowboarding/skiing, windsurfing, wakeboardin/wakeskating, parasailing, base jumping, or sky diving. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy camping, hiking, backpacking, kayaking, fishing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Emotions:
-They wear their emotions on their sleeve, letting those close to them know exactly how they feel. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are sensitive in that they are moved to tears, for good or bad reasons, quite easily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are stoic in that they play their emotional hand close to the vest and only tell someone close to them what they're feeling if it's REALLY important, if ever. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are middle-of-the-road, neither too stoic nor overly emotional. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Personality:
-They are particularly creative, they enjoy creating works of art whether it's painting, photography, cinematography, writing, sculpting, metal work, etc. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They appreciate other works of art, i.e. Michelangelo or Bernini. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They thrive when they are in a quiet space, either alone or with 1-2 people they're close with. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They thrive in a lively, loud environment full of people. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent on the go, getting things done. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent relaxing and soaking in the world around them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Food/drink preferences:
-They love to try new things, especially exotic or foreign food. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They know what they like and don't wish to deviate from that. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy soda, coffee, tea or other caffeinated drinks regularly throughout the day. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy alcoholic drinks in moderation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are pro-temperance. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

 

[sundewgrower]

Solid faith. Good and broad perspective on the world.
Highly prefer different background and ethnicity.
Somewhat educated, likes learning, and works hard.
Sensitive, and realizes I am also sensitive.

 

[Sketcher]

What's important to you in a future spouse? The way these questions are worded is meant to convey how you (the poster) would prefer your ideal spouse, so "you" is in reference to that person NOT you the poster.

Clear as mud?

When you determine your decision, simply make one of the options in the parenthesis bold.

Why no "prefer" option? I see "not required" as an "I can go either way" stance, and "required" as "inflexibly required."

 

[Gnarwhal]

Why no "prefer" option? I see "not required" as an "I can go either way" stance, and "required" as "inflexibly required."

Alright I'll update it...

EDIT: Apparently it won't let me edit the whole post? It only goes as far as the "Career" section before it cuts off. So if anybody wants to add a "prefer" option, they can go ahead and do that in their own responses.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Has April Fools come early?

 

[Gnarwhal]

Has April Fools come early?

ಠಿ_ಠ

...Should it?

 

[KitKatMatt]

Maybe the "you" which refers to the future spouse should have been replaced with "they"?

This is a cool list, though I think it could do with some tweaking. Maybe the addition of "prefer" over or in addition to "Required", or some other thing like "This would be nice". "Required" sounds really hard and rigid, like I would look someone over without a thought if they did not have that quality.

Background:

Parents:
-Were themselves raised in Christian homes. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Were married when they had you. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Are still married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Are/were both practicing Christians. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Occupied traditional gender roles: father worked and provided, mother tended to the household and did much of the child-rearing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Never struggled with addiction, i.e. alcoholism (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Owned their home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Education:
-You attended a private/parochial school for primary/middle/secondary education, or some combination thereof. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You attended a four-year post-secondary institution and received your undergraduate (bachelors) degree. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You attended post-secondary (graduate) school and received a masters degree or doctorate. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You attended a professional school such as business school, law school or medical school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Current lifestyle:

Career:
-You knew exactly what career you wanted upon finishing school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You took some time off after school to explore the world and work part-time jobs before jumping into a career. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You work in a corporate environment. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are self-employed. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You work for a small business/practice. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Living situation:
-You live alone, renting your own apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You live with roommates, sharing an apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You live with your parents - still, or recently moved in with them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are crashing with a friend until you figure out your situation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Faith:
-You are currently a practicing Christian. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You never doubted, rejected or "took a break from" or otherwise "backslid" in your faith at any point. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have been a part of the same tradition, i.e. Anglican, Baptist, Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Lutheran, Methodist, etc, for your entire life. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have bounced around to three or more different churches (or traditions/denominations) in the past five years. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You spend at least an hour of your day in prayer. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You read your bible daily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You study theology, i.e. Early Church Fathers, Thomas Aquinas, CS Lewis, Hans Urs von Balthasar, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, etc., semi-regularly (maybe once per year). (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You believe it's important to put faith into action by meeting the needs of the poor, oppressed and marginalized, whether it be locally, nationally or abroad. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Personal

Romantic:
-You have never been in a relationship before. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have been in fewer than five relationships total. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have never been married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are a virgin. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have never kissed anyone in a romantic manner. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You believe sex is strictly for procreation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Recreation:
-You enjoy sports such as baseball, basketball and football. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy extreme sports like rock climbing, surfing, skateboarding, snowboarding/skiing, windsurfing, wakeboardin/wakeskating, parasailing, base jumping, or sky diving. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy camping, hiking, backpacking, kayaking, fishing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Emotions:
-You wear your emotions on your sleeve, letting those close to you know exactly how you feel. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are sensitive in that you are moved to tears, for good or bad reasons, quite easily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are stoic in that you play your emotional hand close to the vest and only tell someone close to you what you're feeling if it's REALLY important, if ever. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are middle-of-the-road, neither too stoic nor overly emotional. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Personality:
-You are particularly creative, you enjoy creating works of art whether it's painting, photography, cinematography, writing, sculpting, metal work, etc. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You appreciate other works of art, i.e. Michelangelo or Bernini. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You thrive when you are in a quiet space, either alone or with 1-2 people you're close with. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You thrive in a lively, loud environment full of people. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent on the go, getting things done. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent relaxing and soaking in the world around you. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Food/drink preferences:
-You love to try new things, especially exotic or foreign food. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You know what you like and don't wish to deviate from that. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy soda, coffee, tea or other caffeinated drinks regularly throughout the day. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy alcoholic drinks in moderation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are pro-temperance. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

 

[keith99]

Only 2 on the checklist for me.

Still breathing, does not make lists of requirements.

 

[Sketcher]

"Preferred" option duly injected into the appropriate questions.

Just curious, why these questions?

Background:

Parents:
-Were themselves raised in Christian homes. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Were married when they had you. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Are still married. (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Are/were both practicing Christians. (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Occupied traditional gender roles: father worked and provided, mother tended to the household and did much of the child-rearing. (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Never struggled with addiction, i.e. alcoholism (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Owned their home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Education:
-You attended a private/parochial school for primary/middle/secondary education, or some combination thereof. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You attended a four-year post-secondary institution and received your undergraduate (bachelors) degree. (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You attended post-secondary (graduate) school and received a masters degree or doctorate. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You attended a professional school such as business school, law school or medical school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Current lifestyle:

Career:
-You knew exactly what career you wanted upon finishing school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You took some time off after school to explore the world and work part-time jobs before jumping into a career. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You work in a corporate environment. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are self-employed. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You work for a small business/practice. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Living situation:
-You live alone, renting your own apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You live with roommates, sharing an apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You live with your parents - still, or recently moved in with them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are crashing with a friend until you figure out your situation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Faith:
-You are currently a practicing Christian. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You never doubted, rejected or "took a break from" or otherwise "backslid" in your faith at any point. (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have been a part of the same tradition, i.e. Anglican, Baptist, Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Lutheran, Methodist, etc, for your entire life. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have bounced around to three or more different churches (or traditions/denominations) in the past five years. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You spend at least an hour of your day in prayer. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You read your bible daily. (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You study theology, i.e. Early Church Fathers, Thomas Aquinas, CS Lewis, Hans Urs von Balthasar, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, etc., semi-regularly (maybe once per year). (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You believe it's important to put faith into action by meeting the needs of the poor, oppressed and marginalized, whether it be locally, nationally or abroad. (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Personal

Romantic:
-You have never been in a relationship before. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have been in fewer than five relationships total. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have never been married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are a virgin. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have never kissed anyone in a romantic manner. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You believe sex is strictly for procreation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Recreation:
-You enjoy sports such as baseball, basketball and football. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy extreme sports like rock climbing, surfing, skateboarding, snowboarding/skiing, windsurfing, wakeboardin/wakeskating, parasailing, base jumping, or sky diving. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy camping, hiking, backpacking, kayaking, fishing. (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Emotions:
-You wear your emotions on your sleeve, letting those close to you know exactly how you feel. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are sensitive in that you are moved to tears, for good or bad reasons, quite easily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are stoic in that you play your emotional hand close to the vest and only tell someone close to you what you're feeling if it's REALLY important, if ever. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are middle-of-the-road, neither too stoic nor overly emotional. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Personality:
-You are particularly creative, you enjoy creating works of art whether it's painting, photography, cinematography, writing, sculpting, metal work, etc. (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You appreciate other works of art, i.e. Michelangelo or Bernini. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You thrive when you are in a quiet space, either alone or with 1-2 people you're close with. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You thrive in a lively, loud environment full of people. (Required, Preferred, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent on the go, getting things done. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent relaxing and soaking in the world around you. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Food/drink preferences:
-You love to try new things, especially exotic or foreign food. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You know what you like and don't wish to deviate from that. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy soda, coffee, tea or other caffeinated drinks regularly throughout the day. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy alcoholic drinks in moderation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are pro-temperance. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

 

[Cearbhall]

No way am I getting through this whole thing unless I somehow finish all of my homework for the next week, but just for fun, here goes...

Parents:
-Were themselves raised in Christian homes. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Were married when they had you. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Are still married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Are/were both practicing Christians. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Occupied traditional gender roles: father worked and provided, mother tended to the household and did much of the child-rearing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Never struggled with addiction, i.e. alcoholism (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Owned their home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

I think "prefer" might make more sense for the middle option.

 

[Gnarwhal]

"Preferred" option duly injected into the appropriate questions.

Just curious, why these questions?

Off the top of my head they kind of summarized some of the subjects in conversations that have been had on here over the years. Maybe with a few from dating sites peppered in there.

 

[Gnarwhal]

Maybe the "you" which refers to the future spouse should have been replaced with "they"?

For some reason when I was writing this out the first time, I could not for the life of me figure out which pronoun was appropriate. I think my brain was fried from so much studying...

**Anyway, some updates have been made to the OP, hopefully it's a bit more viable now.**

 

[Citanul]

Background:

Parents:
-Were themselves raised in Christian homes. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Were married when they had them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Are still married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Are/were both practicing Christians. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Occupied traditional gender roles: father worked and provided, mother tended to the household and did much of the child-rearing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Never struggled with addiction, i.e. alcoholism (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Owned their home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Education:
-They attended a private/parochial school for primary/middle/secondary education, or some combination thereof. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They attended a four-year post-secondary institution and received their undergraduate (bachelors) degree. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They attended post-secondary (graduate) school and received a masters degree or doctorate. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They attended a professional school such as business school, law school or medical school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Current lifestyle:

Career:
-They knew exactly what career you wanted upon finishing school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They took some time off after school to explore the world and work part-time jobs before jumping into a career. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They work in a corporate environment. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are self-employed. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They work for a small business/practice. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Living situation:
-They live alone, renting their own apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They live with roommates, sharing an apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They live with their parents - still, or recently moved in with them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are crashing with a friend until they figure out their situation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They own their own home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Faith:
-They are currently a practicing Christian. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They never doubted, rejected or "took a break from" or otherwise "backslid" in their faith at any point. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have been a part of the same tradition, i.e. Anglican, Baptist, Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Lutheran, Methodist, etc, for their entire life. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have bounced around to three or more different churches (or traditions/denominations) in the past five years. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They spend at least an hour of their day in prayer. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They read their bible daily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They study theology, i.e. Early Church Fathers, Thomas Aquinas, CS Lewis, Hans Urs von Balthasar, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, etc., semi-regularly (maybe once per year). (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They believe it's important to put faith into action by meeting the needs of the poor, oppressed and marginalized, whether it be locally, nationally or abroad. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Personal

Romantic:
-They have never been in a relationship before. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have been in fewer than five relationships total. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have never been married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are a virgin. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have never kissed anyone in a romantic manner. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They believe sex is strictly for procreation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Recreation:
-They enjoy sports such as baseball, basketball and football. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy extreme sports like rock climbing, surfing, skateboarding, snowboarding/skiing, windsurfing, wakeboardin/wakeskating, parasailing, base jumping, or sky diving. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy camping, hiking, backpacking, kayaking, fishing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Emotions:
-They wear their emotions on their sleeve, letting those close to them know exactly how they feel. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are sensitive in that they are moved to tears, for good or bad reasons, quite easily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are stoic in that they play their emotional hand close to the vest and only tell someone close to them what they're feeling if it's REALLY important, if ever. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are middle-of-the-road, neither too stoic nor overly emotional. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Personality:
-They are particularly creative, they enjoy creating works of art whether it's painting, photography, cinematography, writing, sculpting, metal work, etc. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They appreciate other works of art, i.e. Michelangelo or Bernini. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They thrive when they are in a quiet space, either alone or with 1-2 people they're close with. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They thrive in a lively, loud environment full of people. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent on the go, getting things done. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent relaxing and soaking in the world around them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Food/drink preferences:
-They love to try new things, especially exotic or foreign food. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They know what they like and don't wish to deviate from that. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy soda, coffee, tea or other caffeinated drinks regularly throughout the day. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy alcoholic drinks in moderation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are pro-temperance. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

 

[timewerx]

What's important to you in a future spouse? If the phrasing isn't clear let me know, but these are in reference to what you (the poster) would prefer to find in a potential mate in terms of their background, education, lifestyle, etc.

Clear as mud?

When you determine your decision, simply make one of the options in the parenthesis bold.

**Edits made to amend phrasing and add an additional option in the answer selection.

Background:

Parents:
-Were themselves raised in Christian homes. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Were married when they had them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Are still married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Are/were both practicing Christians. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Occupied traditional gender roles: father worked and provided, mother tended to the household and did much of the child-rearing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Never struggled with addiction, i.e. alcoholism (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-Owned their home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Education:
-They attended a private/parochial school for primary/middle/secondary education, or some combination thereof. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They attended a four-year post-secondary institution and received their undergraduate (bachelors) degree. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They attended post-secondary (graduate) school and received a masters degree or doctorate. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They attended a professional school such as business school, law school or medical school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Current lifestyle:

Career:
-They knew exactly what career you wanted upon finishing school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They took some time off after school to explore the world and work part-time jobs before jumping into a career. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They work in a corporate environment. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are self-employed. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They work for a small business/practice. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Living situation:
-They live alone, renting their own apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They live with roommates, sharing an apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They live with their parents - still, or recently moved in with them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are crashing with a friend until they figure out their situation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They own their own home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Faith:
-They are currently a practicing Christian. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They never doubted, rejected or "took a break from" or otherwise "backslid" in their faith at any point. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have been a part of the same tradition, i.e. Anglican, Baptist, Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Lutheran, Methodist, etc, for their entire life. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have bounced around to three or more different churches (or traditions/denominations) in the past five years. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They spend at least an hour of their day in prayer. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They read their bible daily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They study theology, i.e. Early Church Fathers, Thomas Aquinas, CS Lewis, Hans Urs von Balthasar, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, etc., semi-regularly (maybe once per year). (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They believe it's important to put faith into action by meeting the needs of the poor, oppressed and marginalized, whether it be locally, nationally or abroad. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Personal

Romantic:
-They have never been in a relationship before. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have been in fewer than five relationships total. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have never been married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are a virgin. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They have never kissed anyone in a romantic manner. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They believe sex is strictly for procreation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Recreation:
-They enjoy sports such as baseball, basketball and football. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy extreme sports like rock climbing, surfing, skateboarding, snowboarding/skiing, windsurfing, wakeboardin/wakeskating, parasailing, base jumping, or sky diving. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy camping, hiking, backpacking, kayaking, fishing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Emotions:
-They wear their emotions on their sleeve, letting those close to them know exactly how they feel. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are sensitive in that they are moved to tears, for good or bad reasons, quite easily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are stoic in that they play their emotional hand close to the vest and only tell someone close to them what they're feeling if it's REALLY important, if ever. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are middle-of-the-road, neither too stoic nor overly emotional. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Personality:
-They are particularly creative, they enjoy creating works of art whether it's painting, photography, cinematography, writing, sculpting, metal work, etc. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They appreciate other works of art, i.e. Michelangelo or Bernini. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They thrive when they are in a quiet space, either alone or with 1-2 people they're close with. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They thrive in a lively, loud environment full of people. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent on the go, getting things done. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent relaxing and soaking in the world around them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

Food/drink preferences:
-They love to try new things, especially exotic or foreign food. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They know what they like and don't wish to deviate from that. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy soda, coffee, tea or other caffeinated drinks regularly throughout the day. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They enjoy alcoholic drinks in moderation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)
-They are pro-temperance. (Required, Not Required, Prefer, Prefer Not)

That looks like a screening checklist for an employee.

You should work HR.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

When you determine your decision, simply make one of the options in the parenthesis bold.

Background:
Parents:
-Were themselves raised in Christian homes. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Were married when they had you. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Are still married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Are/were both practicing Christians. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Occupied traditional gender roles: father worked and provided, mother tended to the household and did much of the child-rearing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) Would need to talk over what the guy's views were/are.
-Never struggled with addiction, i.e. alcoholism (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) Would need to talk this over with the guy if he did suffer from an addiction in his past.
-Owned their home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Education:
-You attended a private/parochial school for primary/middle/secondary education, or some combination thereof. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You attended a four-year post-secondary institution and received your undergraduate (bachelors) degree. (Required, Not Required, Preferred)
-You attended post-secondary (graduate) school and received a masters degree or doctorate. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You attended a professional school such as business school, law school or medical school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Current lifestyle:
Career:
-You knew exactly what career you wanted upon finishing school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You took some time off after school to explore the world and work part-time jobs before jumping into a career. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You work in a corporate environment. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are self-employed. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You work for a small business/practice. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
As long as the guy is a good worker, what he does is legal, and can support himself, I don't care what he does or who he works for.

Living situation:
-You live alone, renting your own apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You live with roommates, sharing an apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You live with your parents - still, or recently moved in with them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are crashing with a friend until you figure out your situation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
We would have to talk about his living situation so I could understand why he is living where he is.

Faith:
-You are currently a practicing Christian. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You never doubted, rejected or "took a break from" or otherwise "backslid" in your faith at any point. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have been a part of the same tradition, i.e. Anglican, Baptist, Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Lutheran, Methodist, etc, for your entire life. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) As long as he and I agree on most things I don't care if he's S. Baptist.
-You have bounced around to three or more different churches (or traditions/denominations) in the past five years. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) If the guy did this, we would have to discuss his reasons/motivations behind it. If they were solid and not simply because he was church hopping I would just roll with it
-You spend at least an hour of your day in prayer. (Required, Not Required, Prefer) It wouldn't have to be an hour but some time or off and on through out the day. Prayer is very important and there should be time set aside to pray.
-You read your bible daily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) I realize everyone has an off day where they don't get their bible reading in but on the whole I would prefer that he had a habit of doing it every day. Reading Scripture is very important.
-You study theology, i.e. Early Church Fathers, Thomas Aquinas, CS Lewis, Hans Urs von Balthasar, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, etc., semi-regularly (maybe once per year). (Required, Not Required, Prefer) It would be nice if he would at least be willing to read a theology book with me and then we could discuss it.
-You believe it's important to put faith into action by meeting the needs of the poor, oppressed and marginalized, whether it be locally, nationally or abroad. (Required, Not Required, Prefer) Not just helping the needy but also being active in church (when possible) and living out his faith in his day to day life.

Personal
Romantic:
-You have never been in a relationship before. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) What do you mean by relationships? Dating?
-You have been in fewer than five relationships total. (Required, Not Required, Prefer) It depends on the guy, if he had more than 5 relationships we would need to talk it over just to make sure this isn't an on going pattern.
-You have never been married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are a virgin. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have never kissed anyone in a romantic manner. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You believe sex is strictly for procreation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Recreation:
-You enjoy sports such as baseball, basketball and football. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy extreme sports like rock climbing, surfing, skateboarding, snowboarding/skiing, windsurfing, wakeboardin/wakeskating, parasailing, base jumping, or sky diving. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy camping, hiking, backpacking, kayaking, fishing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
I would like for him to have his hobbies and interests but I don't care what they are as long as they are not questionable.

Emotions:
-You wear your emotions on your sleeve, letting those close to you know exactly how you feel. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are sensitive in that you are moved to tears, for good or bad reasons, quite easily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are stoic in that you play your emotional hand close to the vest and only tell someone close to you what you're feeling if it's REALLY important, if ever. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are middle-of-the-road, neither too stoic nor overly emotional. (Required, Not Required, Prefer)

Personality:
-You are particularly creative, you enjoy creating works of art whether it's painting, photography, cinematography, writing, sculpting, metal work, etc. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) I enjoy doing some of those things but he doesn't have to enjoy them. As long as he doesn't mind that I do, it's fine.
-You appreciate other works of art, i.e. Michelangelo or Bernini. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)I enjoy being creative or around art but since I myself am not an art connoisseur I don't expect him to be either.I don't care if he doesn't want to spend a day looking at art. It isn't going to hurt my feelings one way or the other.
-You thrive when you are in a quiet space, either alone or with 1-2 people you're close with. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) As an introvert my only requirement is that the guy is willing to compromise, allows me to have “quiet time” and isn't an extreme extrovert.
-You thrive in a lively, loud environment full of people. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent on the go, getting things done. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent relaxing and soaking in the world around you. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
I would prefer a middle ground between the two above, get things done and also know when/how to relax.

Food/drink preferences:
-You love to try new things, especially exotic or foreign food. (Required, Not Required, Prefer)
-You know what you like and don't wish to deviate from that. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) We all need to be a little flexible and willing to compromise.
-You enjoy soda, coffee, tea or other caffeinated drinks regularly throughout the day. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) I enjoy a good coffee, tea, or pop as much as the next person so I don't mind if he enjoys them as well, as long as that isn't all he drinks.
-You enjoy alcoholic drinks in moderation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
I rarely drink, I don't have an issue with a guy who drinks a beer every now and then. As long as his drinking does not fall into the “drunk” range or becomes something he “has to have”. I don't have a major issue with it.
-You are pro-temperance. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
If he chooses never to drink, that too is okay.

 

[Gnarwhal]

Nicely done, bonus for the added commentary @Travelers.Soul .

 

[timewerx]

When you determine your decision, simply make one of the options in the parenthesis bold.

Background:
Parents:
-Were themselves raised in Christian homes. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Were married when they had you. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Are still married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Are/were both practicing Christians. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-Occupied traditional gender roles: father worked and provided, mother tended to the household and did much of the child-rearing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) Would need to talk over what the guy's views were/are.
-Never struggled with addiction, i.e. alcoholism (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) Would need to talk this over with the guy if he did suffer from an addiction in his past.
-Owned their home. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Education:
-You attended a private/parochial school for primary/middle/secondary education, or some combination thereof. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You attended a four-year post-secondary institution and received your undergraduate (bachelors) degree. (Required, Not Required, Preferred)
-You attended post-secondary (graduate) school and received a masters degree or doctorate. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You attended a professional school such as business school, law school or medical school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Current lifestyle:
Career:
-You knew exactly what career you wanted upon finishing school. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You took some time off after school to explore the world and work part-time jobs before jumping into a career. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You work in a corporate environment. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are self-employed. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You work for a small business/practice. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
As long as the guy is a good worker, what he does is legal, and can support himself, I don't care what he does or who he works for.

Living situation:
-You live alone, renting your own apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You live with roommates, sharing an apartment/condo. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You live with your parents - still, or recently moved in with them. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are crashing with a friend until you figure out your situation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
We would have to talk about his living situation so I could understand where he is living where he is.

Faith:
-You are currently a practicing Christian. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You never doubted, rejected or "took a break from" or otherwise "backslid" in your faith at any point. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have been a part of the same tradition, i.e. Anglican, Baptist, Catholic, Eastern Orthodox, Lutheran, Methodist, etc, for your entire life. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) As long as he and I agree on most things I don't care if he's S. Baptist.
-You have bounced around to three or more different churches (or traditions/denominations) in the past five years. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) If the guy did this, we would have to discuss his reasons/motivations behind it. If they were solid and not simply because he was church hopping I would just roll with it
-You spend at least an hour of your day in prayer. (Required, Not Required, Prefer) It wouldn't have to be an hour but some time or off and on through out the day. Prayer is very important and there should be time set aside to pray.
-You read your bible daily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) I realize everyone has an off day where they don't get their bible reading in but on the whole I would prefer that he had a habit of doing it every day. Reading Scripture is very important.
-You study theology, i.e. Early Church Fathers, Thomas Aquinas, CS Lewis, Hans Urs von Balthasar, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, etc., semi-regularly (maybe once per year). (Required, Not Required, Prefer) It would be nice if he would at least be willing to read a theology book with me and then we could discuss it.
-You believe it's important to put faith into action by meeting the needs of the poor, oppressed and marginalized, whether it be locally, nationally or abroad. (Required, Not Required, Prefer) Not just helping the needy but also being active in church (when possible) and living out his faith in his day to day life.

Personal
Romantic:
-You have never been in a relationship before. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) What do you mean by relationships? Dating?
-You have been in fewer than five relationships total. (Required, Not Required, Prefer) It depends on the guy, if he had more than 5 relationships we would need to talk it over just to make sure this isn't an on going pattern.
-You have never been married. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are a virgin. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You have never kissed anyone in a romantic manner. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You believe sex is strictly for procreation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)

Recreation:
-You enjoy sports such as baseball, basketball and football. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy extreme sports like rock climbing, surfing, skateboarding, snowboarding/skiing, windsurfing, wakeboardin/wakeskating, parasailing, base jumping, or sky diving. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You enjoy camping, hiking, backpacking, kayaking, fishing. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
I would like for him to have his hobbies and interests but I don't care what they are as long as they are not questionable.

Emotions:
-You wear your emotions on your sleeve, letting those close to you know exactly how you feel. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are sensitive in that you are moved to tears, for good or bad reasons, quite easily. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are stoic in that you play your emotional hand close to the vest and only tell someone close to you what you're feeling if it's REALLY important, if ever. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-You are middle-of-the-road, neither too stoic nor overly emotional. (Required, Not Required, Prefer)

Personality:
-You are particularly creative, you enjoy creating works of art whether it's painting, photography, cinematography, writing, sculpting, metal work, etc. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) I enjoy doing some of those things but he doesn't have to enjoy them. As long as he doesn't mind that I do, it's fine.
-You appreciate other works of art, i.e. Michelangelo or Bernini. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)I enjoy being creative or around art but since I myself am not an art connoisseur I don't expect him to be either.I don't care if he doesn't want to spend a day looking at art. It isn't going to hurt my feelings one way or the other.
-You thrive when you are in a quiet space, either alone or with 1-2 people you're close with. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) As an introvert my only requirement is that the guy is willing to compromise, allows me to have “quiet time” and isn't an extreme extrovert.
-You thrive in a lively, loud environment full of people. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent on the go, getting things done. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
-A day off is better spent relaxing and soaking in the world around you. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
I would prefer a middle ground between the two above, get things done and also know when/how to relax.

Food/drink preferences:
-You love to try new things, especially exotic or foreign food. (Required, Not Required, Prefer)
-You know what you like and don't wish to deviate from that. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) We all need to be a little flexible and willing to compromise.
-You enjoy soda, coffee, tea or other caffeinated drinks regularly throughout the day. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not) I enjoy a good coffee, tea, or pop as much as the next person so I don't mind if he enjoys them as well, as long as that isn't all he drinks.
-You enjoy alcoholic drinks in moderation. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
I rarely drink, I don't have an issue with a guy who drinks a beer every now and then. As long as his drinking does not fall into the “drunk” range or becomes something he “has to have”. I don't have a major issue with it.
-You are pro-temperance. (Required, Not Required, Prefer Not)
If he chooses never to drink, that too is okay.

Nice! I managed to hit every single point here but one - faith.

My Christian faith is rather unorthodox leaning towards "dare not be spoken of"

I don't even regard the Bible as working towards a common goal. It is chaotic and is designed to confuse and break apart adherents into countless denominations.

I used to be Pentecostal but after 20 years, I don't find "blind faith" that appealing anymore. For the door to life is narrow and only few finds it, certainly requires one to have their eyes opened, not closed or blind folded!

 

[timewerx]

Nicely done, bonus for the added commentary @Travelers.Soul .

I think you forgot to put in there being organized with their stuff, have good personal hygiene, and observes cleanliness in their house and their things. It's important to many.

 

[Gnarwhal]

I think you forgot to put in there being organized with their stuff, have good personal hygiene, and observes cleanliness in their house and their things. It's important to many.

You're right I did. I think my brain ran out of gas by the time I got to the end of the list.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

Nicely done, bonus for the added commentary @Travelers.Soul .