Forgiveness

[Gentle Lamb]

What do you do when you're forgiving someone but their actions towards you don't change?

 

[Michie]

What do you do when you're forgiving someone but their actions towards you don't change?

I’m in the same boat. I try to keep forgiving but keep a healthy distance.

 

[All4Christ]

What do you do when you're forgiving someone but their actions towards you don't change?

Forgive them again and again, and if you can’t do that yourself, ask God to give you the strength to do so. Then, pray for them. Depending on what the problem is though, it may be good to keep some distance. Without knowing the issue, it is hard to say more beyond the forgiveness part.

 

[Lost4words]

I usually pee on their fav tree!

 

[Job3315]

What do you do when you're forgiving someone but their actions towards you don't change?

A person once explained to me that if a person steps on my foot, I forgive him. If he does it again, I forgive him again. But, if the person steps on me again, then maybe the problem is that I don't have healthy limits established. I can't control what others do to me, but I can control how I manage the situation and what limits I apply.

 

[Francis Drake]

Forgiveness is for your sake, not theirs.

In fact to forgive someone, you can do it remotely without them even knowing.
You can forgive someone who is dead and gone.
You can forgive someone who has no idea they've offended you.

All because forgiveness has more to do with your relationship with God, than the other person..

 

[truefiction1]

What do you do when you're forgiving someone but their actions towards you don't change?

Forgiving a person with limitlessness as Christ commands is one thing. Continuously allowing them to behave badly towards us is another, and is usually done as a result of our own sinfulness, and so itself constitutes sin, because we enable them to continue in their addiction to sin by not doing our part to compel them to repent.

 

[ChristianGirl_96]

Hello! Perhaps get counselling first of all and also maintain a distance for a while too. Those are really your only two options in this case left at this point to try if you feel that ending the friendship completely is too much for you right now.
I'm sorry but the number of options for salvaging this friendship are limited unfortunately. You cannot control people but you can sometimes control events however. Maybe you need to accept that fact first of all? I strongly do recommend seeing a therapist before anything else happens. Pray to the Holy Spirit for strength.

 

[Sean056]

The best thing you can do at any time is pray my friend. Ask God for wisdom and put it in his hands. Sometimes it can be hard to love those who do us wrong but prayer for the other party is something I would also suggest.

 

[Hopeful37]

What do you do when you're forgiving someone but their actions towards you don't change?

Forgive anyway. It's not about u. It's them. It really doesn't make sense to hold into resentment. Some people just don't know how to change and do things that they do only to regret after. I'm not saying that's this scenario applies to all people but Joyce Meyers said Hurting people hurt people and I believe this is true. Hurt people have a defense mechanism. Example: if someone insults me I insult them back as a reflex and then feel sorry because it's not who I really want to be. I would also add that u can forgive someone and not be apart of their lives. I say this because in some scenarios, you just cant be around that person. It's too hurtful. Eg abusive scenarios. But u can forgive them and move on. Wish them the best. Pray for their healing.

 

[crossnote]

What do you do when you're forgiving someone but their actions towards you don't change?

Continue forgiving?

 

[LayHong_Loves_Christ]

Anything wrong if I hate my enemy?
Do I need to love the criminal who murder my friend?