how is that practiced in your marriage?
Is there even such a thing as male and female?
Is there even such a thing as male and female?
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I would not phrase it that way. How do you practice Ephesians 5 in your marriage?Flipper said:Headship, like, who's in charge?
We decide together, but if a decision HAD to be made that was for the best of my family, I would be trusted to make that decision.ceres said:Well my humble opinion is that no one needs to ever "make final decisions" or "be in charge" in a working loving marriage. No one should be in charge of making decisions, they should and can be made together. Each person shouldn't seek his/her own benefit but the best thing for the family. Dave, if I remember right you are engaged and probably ask because you are considering how your future marriage will work. I imagine so far in your relationship you have decided everything together, and I think that should continue into marriage. There is a lot of strain in a new marriage when someone suddenly decides they make the decisions now when it was never done that way before. Most pastors I have heard from on this say the same thing-- there is no need for someone to make final decisions if both people talk it through and come up with the best decision.
Ok, that's what I thought you were saying.DaveKerwin said:I would not phrase it that way. How do you practice Ephesians 5 in your marriage?
mpshiel said:Sorry, before I answer this I have to get a particular rant out of my system. I really really wish people would actually read Eph 5 instead of the selective reading that seems to occur. It seems to go...mumble mumble mumble Wives submit, mumble, husband is the head of the wife...and some other stuff. The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church. - and...Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.
So what type of "head" or leadership did and does Christ practice over the church? Well, there was no pain or suffering that was too great for him to endure so that those who would be in the church could be saved (i.e. humans), even though his "bride" was deserting or despising him. He also told those who formed the church that what they decided would be bound in heaven. And the history of the church is not one where Christ lords over but where the church is free to grow, make mistakes but move on and develop themselves to the utmost. That is the way Christ is the head of the church. And Paul goes on for three more versus on all the ways and things Christ does for the church, so should husbands be toward thier wives - not in giving gifts, but in giving growth, confidence - that is true nuturing.
Okay, my answer now. The head? One day I asked my partner what she wanted in five years and she said, "I want to be living back in Canada." So I said, "Okay, I guess we know what our long term goal is." And we both laughed. Now did she make that decision or did I. If it is important to her, it is important to me and vice versa. We both trust and submit our desires to the other because we love each other. Sure we make mistakes but that is part of the process. I sacrifice for her, I submit to her, I have faith in her and she in me. I hear a lot how married couples become and act like one person. And why not, they are one flesh. So in this I think instead of deciding or checking to see if this person is doing that role or vice versa, shouldn't we be doing both, as both are good and Godly? If you want to be literal and ask, who then is the head of your "marriage" - I guess it would be Christ, but isn't that the way it is suppose to be, he is the groom and we are the bride?
Well, I have been hearing different stories from people. First I hear God made men and women, with some of the same and some different purposes. Next I hear we live in a genderless world. I think modern society is blurring genders because it is PC, and not because it is biblical. I do not see myself as any better than a woman. I do however think there are some real differences. So my question was more or less sarcastic, I was hoping someone would say "Uh, yeah!"JillLars said:I'm kinda wondering what that's supposed to mean.
DaveKerwin said:Well, I have been hearing different stories from people. First I hear God made men and women, with some of the same and some different purposes.
DaveKerwin said:Next I hear we live in a genderless world.
DaveKerwin said:I think modern society is blurring genders because it is PC, and not because it is biblical.
DaveKerwin said:I do not see myself as any better than a woman. I do however think there are some real differences. So my question was more or less sarcastic, I was hoping someone would say "Uh, yeah!"