Flirting

[ReformedChapin]

I know this topic my seems kind of stupid but I'm curious about this. Every christian girl, I consider somewhat of a sister so flirting I would feel kind of wrong. I was a big flirt before I was saved, but I'm wondering that now that I'm saved it could be considered wrong or disrespectful.

 

[BlackSaab52]

Flirting with people that you're not interested in (dating-wise) can possibly give them the idea that you are. Other than that, though, I don't see the big problem with it myself.

 

[cowgirl chic]

Its not a stupid question. I wonder about it myself. But i do agree with blacksaab52

 

[U R my Sonshine]

Well, how else to persue a dating realtionship? It is just a way to determine the interest level of the other person. We do that subconsciencely when we are single. I definately flirted with my hubby before marriage.

There is sleazy flirting and wholesome flirting. Just flirt wholesomely.

 

[wildthing]

I generally flrit with everyone (cashiers, gals at church). But it is real low keyed and everyone that I do it with takes it. I never heard any form of negative feedback. So flrit if you wish but don't do it to hurt anyone. I agree with U R my Sonshine.

 

[london boy]

i only flirt with someone I have a serious interest in

 

[justasinner]

The idea of flirting is to let the one your interested in know your interested in them. Without the act becoming a problem to the other if she not interested. And if and only if the person returns by flirting should you continue and become closer with that person.

When a person flirt and the other does not, and ones continues to flirt then you can have a problem. It hurt the other and can become harassment.

So, the best was is to flirt with those your interested in and if they flirt back start talking to them. If they do not flirt then move on.

 

[Tink]

I'm going to agree with justasinner.

Flirt away! Just be aware of how the other person is taking it.

I flirt a lot. :x

In His love,
Tink

 

[Niels]

Well, how else to persue a dating realtionship? It is just a way to determine the interest level of the other person. We do that subconsciencely when we are single. I definately flirted with my hubby before marriage.

There is sleazy flirting and wholesome flirting. Just flirt wholesomely.

I totally agree. When I was in college, our christian campus leader make flirting out to be a 'terrible sin', and I think that kind of messed up my thinking for a while. It made me think I was serving God by not flirting... and that just made me unnaturally self-conscious around women. Being the strong silent type, if I needed anything, it was *encouragement* to flirt. Not that I didn't flirt at all, but I would actually feel guilty about it after I did! That only made me a bit more withdrawn around the ladies.

Anyway, I've since come up with a crazy idea that some folks who tell you not to flirt, only want you to stop so that *they* can get the significant other instead of you.

However, more realistically, I think it's something that may be a sin for certain people, since it leads them to sin in other ways. Though for most people, I think it's harmless and even beneficial.

 

[Tenorvoice]

I flirt with just about every widdow, and elderly lady that is in the Chruch that I attend. They love it and eat it up. They love to have someone give them attention, and be truthful about it.

I look up to each and every one of them and love them like I would my own Grand-mother.

But I kind of have a hard time flirting with women my own age. Go figure. *shruggs his shoulders*

Oh well.

Like it has been said a number of times already. Flirt away , just be careful who you do it to. (and while you are at it, share the Gospel with them too. )

 

[Sketcher]

Flirting with people that you're not interested in (dating-wise) can possibly give them the idea that you are. Other than that, though, I don't see the big problem with it myself.

Yup. Just don't cross the lines of honesty, modesty and decency. If you can't flirt without doing that, don't flirt.

 

[reverie_maiden]

I flirt too much for my own good...and even sometimes I don't realize I am doing it. There is nothing wrong with flirting though. If you didn't flirt...how would you ever know someone was interested in you?

 

[Fatolia]

YES! That's awesome! I do too...there's this sweet old 82 year old lady at my church. (husband died 30 years ago!) I always brag to everyone how much I want to take her out on a date. She eats it up!

I flirt with just about every widdow, and elderly lady that is in the Chruch that I attend. They love it and eat it up. They love to have someone give them attention, and be truthful about it.

I look up to each and every one of them and love them like I would my own Grand-mother.

But I kind of have a hard time flirting with women my own age. Go figure. *shruggs his shoulders*

Oh well.

Like it has been said a number of times already. Flirt away , just be careful who you do it to. (and while you are at it, share the Gospel with them too. )

 

[ReformedChapin]

I flirt too much for my own good...and even sometimes I don't realize I am doing it. There is nothing wrong with flirting though. If you didn't flirt...how would you ever know someone was interested in you?

They could tell you? or you could tell them? I think in order to consider someone to go out with you need to know them very well for quiet a bit of time.

 

[Abuna]

what is fliriting? i dont think guys are capable of that so im curious to know what it is.

 

[Sketcher]

Trust me we are very capable, and you probably do it without thinking about it. It's talking to the opposite sex "in that way."

 

[JPPT1974]

Just because someone is flirting with you or if you are flirting with them doesn't mean you or they will flirt right back you know.

 

[faithful_heart1968]

I don't think nothing is wrong with flirting as long as it is kept clean. I mean how else are you going to pursue someone you life if you do not flirt with them? Good Luck! And God bless you!

 

[ReformedChapin]

They could tell you? or you could tell them? I think in order to consider someone to go out with you need to know them very well for quiet a bit of time.

Everyone keeps saying, how else you would let the person know you're interested...this is how ^^^^^

 

[white dove]

LOL@ how I tend to stumble upon things on this site that I've been thinking about as-of-late!! I think it is incredibly difficult to put to rest the playfulness that one naturally has within. I've been wrestling with the thought of dying, entirely to this playfulness, even though it has been a part of me from such an early age.

I remember one of my first male friends in grade school as being one of the first boys I'd ever flirted with, intentionally and blatently~I liked him (I know, duh, he was my friend but I also thought he was kinda cute... ) & I knew that he liked me...it was kizmit, baby! I smiled at him, touched him on the chin & said something like, 'oh you, Nick..' I think we were in the fourth grade lol. Anyway, I just remember this playful side of me as always being here; however, lying dormant throughout periodic "I-hate-myself" moods in both high school & junior high.

But now, I've considered this playfulness as something that may be detrimental to my relationship with my future husband. I mean, I've heard other Christians talking about how you should not do anything with anyone (men, included ) that you would feel uncomfortable doing (or saying) in front of your spouse. Like, if it's not your spouse, you shouldn't be doing (or saying) it....I dunno, does any of this make sense??... I mean, I certainly don't flirt with every guy in sight, but I like being friendly, enjoying great conversations (though, some hoo-hannery & sassiness should be involved, o'course) & expressing the more playful side of my personality...could this be wrong, though, even if my intentions are pure & even though my actions may be deemed as such?