First date

[colleen]

Since it's Friday night I thought I'd post a thread on dating. If you were courting a gal what would you do on your first date. Or, what would a gal like a guy to plan. And, if you happened to be married what was your first date with your spouse?

 

[Da_Funkey_Gibbon]

Movie. Minimal social contact, minimal chance of humiliation.

 

[boughtwithaprice]

If I were courting a girl, my first date would be to meet and have a cup of tea, and then see if we were able to hold a conversation. If we can't do that, then things are probably not worth persuing. We should be able to at least talk to eachother and maintain interest.

My first date with my wife was going to the movies. It was boring, but at least she stayed interested. It worked out that time, but I would not do that again. It was an uncomfortable first date.

 

[BillH]

We saw Star Wars: Revenge of the Sith together. Which was way cool from my perspective, but I don't know that it's the most romantic thing to do. We were a bit limited in that there are only so many things you can do "together" when you're 3000 miles apart...

 

[colleen]

awww... I like the idea of you and Eva see Star Wars together

 

[colleen]

what was the first date you went on when you met in person

 

[BillH]

what was the first date you went on when you met in person

Well, we usually consider our first "real" date to be a trip to the Efteling theme park in the Netherlands. It's kind of a fairy-tale storybook land mixed with big rides.

 

[colleen]

That sounds fun and interactive

 

[BillH]

It was -- movies, I think, are low-risk, low-reward. If you're really serious about the person, you should try something that involves actually doing something together.

 

[Ave Maria]

Dinner and a movie is always a great idea for a first date.

 

[NDIrish]

Perfect first date:

Notre Dame vs. USC game, 50 yard line seats, dinner and drinks at Sorins afterwards.

(btw, ND wins by 35)

 

[Carrye]

Perfect first date:

Notre Dame vs. USC game, 50 yard line seats, dinner and drinks at Sorins afterwards.

(btw, ND wins by 35)

Oooh, I'd bite on that one! First dates are tough, but that just sounds fun.

 

[Aaron-Aggie]

Football that not a strange first date at A&M

 

[zhilan]

Perfect first date:

Notre Dame vs. USC game, 50 yard line seats, dinner and drinks at Sorins afterwards.

(btw, ND wins by 35)

ND won?

That must have been a long time ago.

*cough* overrated *cough*

 

[Kamtre]

Well, i'd prolly pick her up in my car, and get some eats, and eat on the way to a park and then just sit and talk, (or perhaps if I was hoping to get some kissey time, forget the meal altogether?) I would be more likely to do what's in the brackets. If we were newly married, same sorta thing, drive to a park, sit and talk, probably get some kissey time, and thats it, lol. IM more of a sit and talk person, and i like nature, so lol, this is just me.

 

[Angeldove97]

Sean and I met through CF and talked online for a year and a half before meeting. By then we were best friends, talked every day, and he was my Brother who held me up when I was very depressed.

When we first met in real life, wow were we excited! He came out with his roommate to stay with me for a week and see NYC for the first time. It was just amazing! I guess our first date would be us going to NYC, though Erik was with us too (his roommate). Sean, that day, fell in love with me... in a great place too... St. Patrick's Cathedral!

I went to the back of the church where they have the Blessed Sacrament and a statue of Mary, to pray for awhile. The Spirit was definitely on me and when I walked up to Sean he said I was all glowing and everything. I remember his reaction and asked him what was wrong, but he couldn't answer me... so I took it as him being impressed by the church.

It's amazing how God works... I know it's because of the Lord that he and I are together.

 

[MaideninWaiting]

Awwww, AngleDove. I loved reading that. Thank you for sharing.

 

[QuantaCura]

I am against the movies for a first date--you can't talk! I went fishing once with a girl on a first date. That was good. Sporting events are good. My theory was to do something I knew I would enjoy, therefore, even if the date was bad, it wouldn't be a total wash .

I have a bit of a CF romance :

My first date with my girlfriend was pizza and some ice cream afterwards. We had already been writing for a while. We knew of each other through a Catholic Discussion List from our college--after we both had moved on to grad school--even though we had lived in the same building in college, we never met! She alerted the list the existence of OBOB and that's when I signed up. She got me started here after Davide (Rising Suns) got her started. She rarely posts though (her handle is Orthodoxia). We actually got to know each other for a while through PMs here

 

[hawko]

Speaking from personal experience, when I was dating (my wife) on our first date, I wanted to take her somewhere that she never went to before. My wife never had Japanese food, so we went out to dinner at a very cozy, restaurant which was known for its authentic Japanese cuisine. I must have done the right thing, since we are now happily married over 25 years. ( Actually, it was only through the grace of Our Lord that we have been blessed with 25 years of marriage). To Him only be the glory and praise !

 

[Rebekka]

Well, we usually consider our first "real" date to be a trip to the Efteling theme park in the Netherlands. It's kind of a fairy-tale storybook land mixed with big rides.

My husband has never been to the Efteling eek: ); I used to go every year as a child.

I don't have any advice as I don't think I ever really "dated" (which I think is a north-american concept).

I had one date with my husband, on a Friday. We didn't go anywhere, he just picked me up to go to his house where he cooked dinner for me (I thought that was a brave thing to do - he's a lousy cook and I'm a good one, LOL). We talked incessantly (I helped him cook, couldn't help myself ), didn't really eat because we were both so nervous and in love, then he brought me home. We became a couple on our first date, we were both so serious about it that we didn't waste any time. It was our last date as a non-engaged couple. The next day I spent with a friend, and then on Sunday morning he came to my house again, we went to Mass together, and when I asked him afterwards what he had prayed for he said he had asked for our wedding in my parish church. Hah. That was our quick engagement, and our wedding followed almost 12 months later, in 2004.

I only briefly dated one other guy many years before, but didn't have many dates - I remember going to the movies twice. I wouldn't recommend going to the movies with someone you don't know too well - I don't know, the dark would make me uncomfortable with a half-stranger. (In my case it was pretty alright as he was already my best friend.)