Fireplace and Fellowship

[Starpuppy]

Sister one, how do you know if the person is right for you or maybe its like what are the basic standards should one look in a partner?

 

[One day at a time]

When that day comes I would love to have you read it. It's going to be about how our lives change in a blink of the eye....and how God uses those things for His good and His purpose. That His grace is sufficient!

 

[sootylashes]

Relationship problems suck, though they can be good too.

 

[One day at a time]

Have you ever made a list of qualities that you are looking for in a mate? I think that the very first thing is that she needs to be a believer. Because the Bible says that you should not be unequally yoked.

 

[Starpuppy]

Relationship problems suck, though they can be good too.

how so? I mean i like it when the oter party is willing to sit down and talk it out MATURELY

 

[sootylashes]

Have you ever made a list of qualities that you are looking for in a mate? I think that the very first thing is that she needs to be a believer. Because the Bible says that you should not be unequally yoked.

Amen to that!

 

[Starpuppy]

Have you ever made a list of qualities that you are looking for in a mate? I think that the very first thing is that she needs to be a believer. Because the Bible says that you should not be unequally yoked.

shes not a believer but i hpe to bring her to the Kingdom

but shes very emotional and easily hot-tempered

but shes caring and kind

 

[sootylashes]

how so? I mean i like it when the oter party is willing to sit down and talk it out MATURELY

It can be good in that you realize you need to change, or she needs to change, among other good results. Yes, sitting down to talk it out maturely is always recommendable.

 

[sootylashes]

shes not a believer but i hpe to bring her to the Kingdom

but shes very emotional and easily hot-tempered

but shes caring and kind

Missionary dating isn't such a good idea...

 

[One day at a time]

I think everyone's list is going to be different. I was attracted to my husband for his wit and personality....of course I was attracted to him physically as well (which that is always nice). He's a godly man and knows what he believes.

 

[Starpuppy]

It can be good in that you realize you need to change, or she needs to change, among other good results. Yes, sitting down to talk it out maturely is always recommendable.

I like you Sister Sooty



She doesn't want to change..i think..she always flare when its time to talk about her problems or rather our problems

 

[One day at a time]

I would say if she isn't a believer the percentage of people that are able to lead their boyfriend/girlfriend to Christ is very low. Now if you were already married that would have been different.

 

[One day at a time]

Is that something that you want to do all the time? Is it problems about you being a believer and she isn't?

 

[sootylashes]

I like you Sister Sooty



She doesn't want to change..i think..she always flare when its time to talk about her problems or rather our problems

Haha, thanks! Pray for her, if she doesn't want to change. Maybe you can change too!

I would say if she isn't a believer the percentage of people that are able to lead their boyfriend/girlfriend to Christ is very low. Now if you were already married that would have been different.

Agreed!

 

[Starpuppy]

I would say if she isn't a believer the percentage of people that are able to lead their boyfriend/girlfriend to Christ is very low. Now if you were already married that would have been different.

why is that so? care to explain?

 

[One day at a time]

Yes you definitely need to pray for her, but I would be very cautious about dating someone that is so easily tempered. To me (personally) I could never handle the drama of that....

 

[Starpuppy]

Is that something that you want to do all the time? Is it problems about you being a believer and she isn't?

I want to go to service every week and hang out with my youth group and i do invite her along but shes always skeptic about how could God do all these things

she enjoys hanging out with the group tho

 

[One day at a time]

why is that so? care to explain?

I just think that it usually ends up being something that is going to come between you. That you want to change her to be like you and I would say that most people don't want that pressure or think that "who made you judge" kind of attitude.
Now that isn't always the case. There is always the exception that she will see the difference in you and wants to come to know Christ as you have.

But overall....I think that it causes more strife than not. Just my observations.

It's hard enough with two Christians to have a godly relationship so I can imagine it would be harder being totally different.

 

[Starpuppy]

Haha, thanks! Pray for her, if she doesn't want to change. Maybe you can change too!

I am the mild tempered person in the relationship, if someone got the last piece of chicken during dinner, she would silently flare, i would just shrug and be thankful that i have other things to eat

When people are late, she is angry but i just feel thankful for more time to look around while waiting

She says that i don't understand her but its so tiring having a pessimistic person

I want to go back to school or maybe part time work/study but she wants to settle down and have a family..doesn't have any aim in life

 

[StarryEyes]