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Finding Purpose...

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I've been struggling so much with finding my purpose. It's not even really a "new" problem for me. Every few years, I feel lost and as though I have no real point to my life.

I am a music leader in church. I go every week and I enjoy church. Before leaving my previous church, I felt as though I was just drifting along. I was in the choir there and would often leave church after the choir sang and before the sermon. There were other reasons for that, which aren't worth getting into right now.

But lately, I feel like everything is just "routine" for me...and no real purpose for it. I've hidden it well, and no one is able to tell that I'm questioning whether or not I should even be there.

The last two weeks have been good for me, but I've been working in the nursery. I also work with youth and we had a few of our youth in this morning, for a change. We're working on building our group, but I feel a little lost without having them to work with. That's where my strength lies and I miss that when I don't have it.

Any suggestions about how to boost my own spirits and find my place?
 

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It sounds as if your heart is ready for the next step in your walk with Jesus. you seem to have mastered your station in which you have built for yourself and it's time to grow more in the lord.. To do this your going to have to seek answers from God.. Probably like you've never done before..

But, if you grown up in the church all of the ways I can suggest to help you do this, will sound like an old broken sermon. (and you made it clear what you think about sermons) So really the only thing I can say without getting too soap boxy is Go to God and desperately seek a new direction.. If you ask with your heart you will get what your heart wants..
 
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I agree with that about going to GOD, and, asking Him what it is you are supposed to do in life. He will guide you through this step by step, so, don't be mad if it does not happen for a while. It takes time, and, doing it now, you will feel good about yourself. Also take time to read the bible, and, pray about what you have read. Hope this helps.
 
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It sounds as if your heart is ready for the next step in your walk with Jesus. you seem to have mastered your station in which you have built for yourself and it's time to grow more in the lord.. To do this your going to have to seek answers from God.. Probably like you've never done before..

But, if you grown up in the church all of the ways I can suggest to help you do this, will sound like an old broken sermon. (and you made it clear what you think about sermons) So really the only thing I can say without getting too soap boxy is Go to God and desperately seek a new direction.. If you ask with your heart you will get what your heart wants..


It was just the pastor at my old church who I couldn't listen to. There are reasons for it, but I'd prefer not to discuss them at the risk of sounding hateful...

I do love my current pastor and I get a great deal from his sermons. It makes me a little sad when I have to miss them.

I didn't actually grow up in church. I didn't begin attending church until I was 13. My parents started taking me and my sister after I commandeered the family Bible searching for answers and comfort following a death that was very difficult for me.
 
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It was just the pastor at my old church who I couldn't listen to. There are reasons for it, but I'd prefer not to discuss them at the risk of sounding hateful...

I do love my current pastor and I get a great deal from his sermons. It makes me a little sad when I have to miss them.

I didn't actually grow up in church. I didn't begin attending church until I was 13. My parents started taking me and my sister after I commandeered the family Bible searching for answers and comfort following a death that was very difficult for me.

But you seeking direction, and your need to seek that direction from God himself doesn't change, no matter your circumstances.. That Church your parents took you to and the bible you commandeered are just tools or a way to seek God.. There are two other parts of the equation still missing according to Lk. 11:5-13 Ask and knock.
We ask thru prayer, but like the man in the parable you ask for direction until you get it.. Knocking is a physical act, and when a person knocks they don't tap once and hope the person on the other side of the door heard them.. Knocks are heard because of the person knocking intent of being heard..

So, when you go to God you are not only seeking him thru church, and the bible. you are asking (praying) and knocking (Something like fasting or serious close the door to your room and praying for a long period of time.) Like the man in Lk 11 you have to go after what you seek with purpose and persistence.
 
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It was just the pastor at my old church who I couldn't listen to. There are reasons for it, but I'd prefer not to discuss them at the risk of sounding hateful...

I do love my current pastor and I get a great deal from his sermons. It makes me a little sad when I have to miss them.

I didn't actually grow up in church. I didn't begin attending church until I was 13. My parents started taking me and my sister after I commandeered the family Bible searching for answers and comfort following a death that was very difficult for me.

"There were other reasons for that, which aren't worth getting into right now."

Maybe this is just the source of your problem. Whatever it is the answer is to turn it, who, and what over to God.
 
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Quite often w are sold short on want the Christian faith is all about. We live in two worlds - church and the rest. We are not given a wider vision for our faith apart from that being defined by some kind of church activity. Thus, we get stuck in variations around the same themes. I found that unsatisfying and quite boring eventually. So, I began looking, and experimenting and have continued with a very fulfilling series of discoveries over the years.

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I believe all of us experience periods in our lives where we're settled and comfortable--- which can either be welcoming or boring. :) If you think that it might be God telling you to reach out in a new way, talk to others at your church and see what needs to be done. You don't have to leave what you're doing now in ministry, but perhaps you could find some more time in your busy life to take on another church-related task or two... maybe start a Bible study and blog about it, maybe help in counseling a new Christian, or even help out in other churches or volunteer some place.

God has hopefully found a safehouse in this church--- just because you're getting comfy doesn't mean you have to change again--- it just may mean that He has some big plans for you to do other things in other parts of your life :)
 
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