Feelings for someone...

[engkantada]

I have become very good friends with a man I met from work, he's incredibly kind, caring, funny, intelligent and a Christian. Lately I feel I'm developing strong feelings for him, the more we hang out together, the more drawn I am to him and just love being around him. I did have a small crush on him at first but now it feels to be growing much more than that, though I'm not yet prepared to say if I'm falling for him or not. Maybe I just confuse myself and tend to rely on my emotions more than my own head. I can't even figure out if he likes me back. I feel him giving signs a lot of times but maybe that's all just him being the nice person he is. I try to keep my feelings as platonic as possible, but everytime I think of him I get this huge smile, put a hop on my step and have birds singing around me, haha. He's also 7 years older than me. Age gap can be an issue for some people, like how I used to believe, but with him it all doesn't matter.

Anyway, I just feel like opening up. Has anyone gone through something like this... not really sure where you stand with someone but in your heart you feel you can make another step forward?? Would appreciate prayers that God will show me His will and if I should fight these feelings. Any advice too would be great!

Thanks everyone!

 

[lady_of_god]

I think you should open up...

I had a very good friend that I had feelings for, in the beginning of the friendship (maybe no more than 3 months lapsed) he opened up and told me that he honestly loved me. Being afraid i didn't say it back and then regretted it. A opportunity arose again like 2 years later and that time I didn't let it slip by, I spoke up and said my feelings. Truth be known, i wish I had told him earlier on because i felt like i wasted so much time.

Anyhow, it would be great if you just laid it out there. I mean you got to ask yourself "what am I waiting for?". For me i was scared of losing a friend and him not truly loving me back but really it's worth the risk because if you don't you'll be beating yourself up wondering "what if...."

-Lady

 

[winglovesall]

Hey,

You're right - Age gap is certainly not a problem in my case -

But most of all - believe in yourself! Ask the Lord and keep praying!

Well done - you've opened up to many people here - so keep on going - you should continue to open yourself to him as well - communication means better relationships most of the time - that's what I need to improve on - expression and communication!

 

[JPPT1974]

Hey,

You're right - Age gap is certainly not a problem in my case -

But most of all - believe in yourself! Ask the Lord and keep praying!

Well done - you've opened up to many people here - so keep on going - you should continue to open yourself to him as well - communication means better relationships most of the time - that's what I need to improve on - expression and communication!

To me age is just age but believe in yourself and most of all the Lord and keep on praying. I am also learning to open up and communicate even more to better myself with both friendships and possible relationships, Also improving on expressions and emotions.

 

[winglovesall]

Thanks.

I could be very shy - but to some people - because I know it's possible for a relationship to occur - I would be more open about myself.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I dated girl who I thought was my age...and she thought I was her age. I was 22 and she was 30 it turns out.
We were on entirely different pages of life. That whole deal is a part of life I wish I could take a big eraser to. But I have no idea if your situation is the same as mine. Just saying it's something to think about. Girls mature faster. You two may be on the same page.

Don't get in a hurry.

 

[JPPT1974]

Thanks.

I could be very shy - but to some people - because I know it's possible for a relationship to occur - I would be more open about myself.

I am shy but once you get to know me, I can be down-to-earth and funny sometimes.

 

[winglovesall]

Yep, so, it's the inside details of a person that really give you an idea and give you an opinion about that person.

I am sometimes funny - and depends who you are - my family would never think I am any funny but I am funny to others. Different people have different perspectives and opinion.

 

[BeautyForAshes]

I think you should open up...

I had a very good friend that I had feelings for, in the beginning of the friendship (maybe no more than 3 months lapsed) he opened up and told me that he honestly loved me. Being afraid i didn't say it back and then regretted it. A opportunity arose again like 2 years later and that time I didn't let it slip by, I spoke up and said my feelings. Truth be known, i wish I had told him earlier on because i felt like i wasted so much time.

Anyhow, it would be great if you just laid it out there. I mean you got to ask yourself "what am I waiting for?". For me i was scared of losing a friend and him not truly loving me back but really it's worth the risk because if you don't you'll be beating yourself up wondering "what if...."

-Lady

Ditto. Plus at your age, age isn't as much of a big deal as maturity level.

 

[RefinedByFire]

I'm sorry but I don't get it.

He likes you, you like him. You're both Christians. You have no problem with the age gap. What's the problem?

You won't find God's will by standing around doing nothing. Try it out and see.

Good luck.

edit: One more thing, you work with this man. Consider that heavily because if things don't work out, it can get REALLY awkward at work. But that's not a reason to slam on the brakes either.

 

[JPPT1974]

In an way, age can also mean maturity. I am glad that I am no longer in my twenties. Because I know more now than I used to. In those "reckless & careless years!"

 

[winglovesall]

I think I've grown - and it may seem that I am so young in the numbers - but I'm more mature than others usually and I've changed a lot - and change turns out to be better for me -

And having feelings for someone (the topic of this thread) - I think - comes out deeply for me.

 

[engkantada]

Hi everyone! I had been in deep reflection after I made this post. I really appreciate all the advice, encouragement and prayer! It seems like the almighty God has answered my prayer. I'm so happy to say that the guy I have feelings for is now my boyfriend. lol It did turn out that he liked me too and we managed to open up to each other and talk about it. We both realize the age difference but that didn't matter at all. It's just tricky since I've never dated someone that much older than me. I'm just so happy right now - you really know when you have found someone special, they just bring out the best in you and you just feel different around them. I shall keep on praying to God for His will be done in both of our lives, whatever happens. He's just so good and faithful! To Him be all the glory!

 

[JPPT1974]

I am glad that you and your boyfriend are happy and may you both put God first & foremost in your lives!

 

[winglovesall]

Welcome to the land of OZ.

Glad to hear. Don't forget that God loves you.

 

[koban4max]

where's dorthy? Isn't she with you?

 

[winglovesall]

Who's dorthy?

 

[koban4max]

Who's dorthy?

the girl from wizard of oz...it's a joke..lil bro

 

[winglovesall]

Oh! The wizard of Oz! I rarely remember that story -- it's a long time since I've read it.

 

[koban4max]

Oh! The wizard of Oz! I rarely remember that story -- it's a long time since I've read it.

hahahha